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You are what you are. This coming from 'something' of an extrovert. I don't LIKE definitions. I hate defining people. To me, those who are bashful about socializing are just exhibiting poorly learned behavior. I do think some people will dominant conversations for whatever pyschological reasons you can provide, but I don't think it's 'natural' to be completely anti-social. To me, that's just detrimental to life and a poorly learned habit.
I'm naturally loud, and what I mean is, my voice, my clapping, I don't have a frame of reference like other's. My whispering is like someone else's talking. My talking is like someone's shouting. It's not intentional, but I've had many cases of saying something nasty or private and it being overheard, so I've gotten good at handling weird confrontations.
It's the fact of DEFINING you, and then being like "I'm an Extrovert, THAT's ME, so Fvck you." Just because you're an extrovert, supposedly doesn't mean you be rude and override someone's conversations, talk above them, or interrupt classes. It's manners versus personality.
I did that alot, talked out of turn, spoke up, and made people laugh in class. The ONLY time I got busted was in H.S. when I referenced Bill Clinton's BJ and the teacher, who was a friend, sort of, thought it too inappropriate of me and sent me to the principal. I didn't even plead with him, I figured it was justified. Course I have a short memory on such things, so all went back to normal.
It's NATURAL to talk to people, and by talking to people, you find out who you want to talk with and who you don't. If you're people are warm and receptive, keep going. If not, move back and find someone else. Normally the extrovert can lend a little to a person's who's rather shy.
To me, it's a gradation. I have friends who can talk to some girls, but get shaky talking to 8's or 9's, or say dumb things. In the right situation, MOST people are outgoing, and other's are shy.
The Psychology surrounding this is PRECISELY what limits people from even trying. They act as if the geek with glasses can't become a social steward and talk it up, yet give him some booze and he's everywhere. You'd have to look right at genetics at birth and label it right then and there, otherwise all the other stuff is learned behavior, poor beliefs, and a low self-image that lends people to not opening up, not personality.
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Thing is, anytime you INITIATE stuff in life, you'll get criticized. Most of my bro's friends, on first impression hate me or love me. I don't say this to build me up or pat myself on the back, just as fact. His crew is somewhat introverted as band people, yet they label me. I had some girls label me a prep, a thug, or a punk, mostly because at first blush I blast through first impressions, especially if they're my bro's friends, they're mine.
You have to NOT worry about it. That's it. I hate the social stigmas' of staying in line, of observing such things, of being proper. What is proper? What isn't? Respect is 1 thing. I wouldn't disrespect some1, nor judge them harshly, but most people do, which is what I find funny. Those who get annoyed, more or less have problems of their own with themselves, not with you. They don't want their world rocked, they don't want things shook up. Ignore them. Walk away from the 95%.
But being an extrovert, you'd know, extroverts by nature don't care what people think, that's why they're able to speak out, honestly, and normally comically or boldly on whatever they want without worrying about the repercusions.
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