question! need advice quick! hurry please!!

JustAnotherLover

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okay so there's this girl, and I've been telling her that she's my "spark," and she's always like "what are you taaaaaaalking about???"
So then earlier today she sent me an email with the web definition of spark:

woo: to try to persuade somebody to become romantically or sexually involved

and then she said

"OOOOOH! That clears EVERYTHING up..."

So how do I reply to THAT??
I'm stumped.

My friend said to send give her a link to a Martin Gaye song. XD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bEtx2YTcD94


sooooo what do I do? I've got a hold of her and I don't wanna mess it up. :p
 

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JustAnotherLover said:
wait wha?
I thought I'm never ever supposed to tell her how I feel! :crazy:
You're not.

Nino-Tk didn't say to tell her how you feel. He said to tell her your INTENTIONS.


And your intentions are to take her out,right? To date her,right?

Well? So what's the problem with what Nino-Tk advised you? Ask her out.

Stop telling her that she's your "spark",or whatever else you want to call her and simply TELL HER you want to take her out.


You should have done that from the get-go instead of calling her pet names.


Not saying that it's over with,but you can bet she's wondering how she became your "spark" when you two haven't even been out on one date yet.


You don't know her. You two might go out and you discover that other than her apperance,you like nothing about her.



You're also not being a challenge. You telling her that she's your spark let's her know that she's basically won you over by doing absolutely NOTHING.



All she had to do to become your spark was simply exist.


"She's walking? She's talking? She's a female who's breathing? Well that settles it. She's my spark."



No good man. She wants to have to invest SOMETHING of herself into you.


If she invests nothing,then she can lose nothing. And she has to feel like she could be losing SOMETHING by not getting involved with you.


Otherwise she won't care.


Just stop it with the "pet" names and simply ask her out.
 

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No no no no waaaaait a sec.
I said I'm gonna take her out already! And she does like me! I think. :p
I got kino going and good convo and everything! (well, not everything)
I just wanna know how to reply to this email. D:
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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