Question: G/F and her not liking my friends. Need advice/input

[Mr.Positive]

- she says that numerous times when I'm not around with my g/f, my friend dissed her and disrespected her.
- she says that since we became a couple, that my friends don't like her (my g/f) since she took me away from my friends and their source of fun.
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I had a female friend use "friendship" to try and get intimate, some women can be AFC's too. They can be extreme backstabbers to get what they want. Women don't fight fair with each other.

Tough situation, but based upon how solid your relationship is with your girl....your girl comes first, IMO.

If she says that your friends are disrespecting her, that's something you need to address...and I'd really look at how close of a "friend" the other girl is.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Girlfriend will always have an excuse to not like your girl-friends. No matter what happens.

Face the fact that you're going to need to give your gf boundaries. If you give her the control over who you see and who hang out with, what the fvck is next?

When will it end? Never. It will continue to grow and fester like a cyst in your relationships.

She has no cause to believe you've ever had any relations with these gal pals yet she reeks of insecurity for no reason.

You're going to need to bite the bullet and take your sac out of her purse and put it back in your front pocket. Tell her what's who and that she need not be so damned suspicious because of the gender of your friends.

This is her problem, not yours. Allow her the chance to learn from it as this is the best lesson for her.

 

[Mr.Positive]

This is her problem, not yours. Allow her the chance to learn from it as this is the best lesson for her.

I agree, however, if the OP's girl has been disrespected, it's important to man up and confront that. If he's in a healthy happy relationship, he should back his woman 100%.

Just judging from his posts, it sounds like to me that maybe his girl really has been disrespected, and isn't just pulling a power move.

 

[Mr.Positive]

l. She feels that one of the friends/girls see it more. I disagreed with her completely, since why would we be friends for 2 years and nothing ever gave me any sense of her in any way wanting to be with me.
- she says that this my friend flirts with me.
- she says that numerous times when I'm not around with my g/f, my friend dissed her and disrespected her.
- she says that since we became a couple, that my friends don't like her (my g/f) since she took me away from my friends and their source of fun.
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Bourne, is it just one of your friends she has an issue with? or both?

If you have two hot friends, and she only has issues with one of them, it sounds sincere. Possibly she was disrespected.

If she doesn't want you to be friends with both hot friends, or any hot friends, it's a sh!t test power move.

 

[DavenJuan]

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IF your female friends have dissrespected her i would ask your gf how? she should clarify what she believes is being disrespectful.

also, just because or (if) your friends DO NOT like her is not a reason to stop talking to your friends. thats something that she has to deal with not you.

but my biggest concern is WHY she is only addressing this "dissrespecting" thing when YOU presented the conversation. and if she has been disrespected numerous times as she claims when you arent around, WHY would she not mention this to you??

i agree with karma on this.. if you start letting her dictate your actions in this given case, it will DEFINATELY manifest to other things. I GUARANTEE.

my gf pulled the same thing. she didnt like any of my female friends because they all secretly wanted me and she could "tell' because she is a women. so of course she didnt like me haning out with them.

i told her that i respect her opinion and will make sure she never feels uncomfortable, but i have my own life with my own friends, and she is a PART of my life that she DECIDED she wanted to join.

but in your case i would def. find out WHAT she feels was disrespectful. you may not completely agree.