To make it clear; I don't approach girls, I open girls. That is, when the situation allows me, I say something, anything which is relevant to the current situation. I'm not a PUA, no bullshyt routines to do something as simple as opening.
****ing KEY KEY KEY. I can sign every word he writes here.
Two posts for you to read:
http://realitymethod.wordpress.com/2007/01/30/the-approach-vs-opening/
"To open successfully is to be open. An “open” attitude that is constantly ready to exchange a few words (or an entire conversation) with anyone who might happen across your path.
To see an example of this, walk through the densest downtown of any major urban center at the height of pedestrian traffic (right before or after work, for instance). Try to keep track of people who are carrying either the “open” or “closed” attitude. It won’t be difficult, because:
# The Open people are walking more slowly, head up, eyes out, seeking eye contact with people around them, curious and nonthreatening, with open body language, unengaged (but ready to engage).
# The Closed people are walking quickly, with heads down and eyes turned inward, with tight body language (hugging purses or bags close), disconnected often physically with an iPod or Walkman, or texting or talking on their phone, or trying to read a paper while they walk."
Example: Just yesterday I stopped by the store for some things. Went to buy some deodorant -- saw a cute girl standing nearby looking at barrettes and hair clips.
As I walk out of the aisle I say to her, "You know, I would recommend you get THIS one. I use it all the time" (while pointing). (I have very short hair). With a big sh1t-eating grin.
It got a big smile in return and, although she was way too shy to talk much, it was fun.
That's the "Open" attitude. Don't think about approaches. That's bull****.
http://realitymethod.wordpress.com/2007/01/30/how-to-talk-to-complete-strangers-without-anxiety/
"The executive functions, located in our most recently developed prefrontal cortex, gift us with the ability to plan, reason, sequence complex multi-step tasks, and keep track of our place in those sequences. However, walking up to a woman and saying “Hi,” is not complex OR multi-step.
I tell guys trying to learn this to “get out of your head” — but what I really mean is “get out of your prefrontal cortex and INTO your limbic system or hypothalamus”. Basically what I want is for them to regress to the most primitive, automatic parts of their brains, for best results.
These “primitive” or older parts of the brain are what give us the motor coordination to hit the tennis ball, or catch the football, or hit the baseball without thinking about it. They are hard-wired motor coordination skills. They have nothing to do with our internal self-talk.
By taking the “approach” function out of the Executive Function forebrain and putting it back online in the autonomic nervous system, we are making it reflexive, spontaneous, and involuntary.
There is simply no time for the self-talk to intrude."
Opening sucessfully is really a process of DOING, not THINKING. Just DO it. Don't even let yourself START to think about it. It has to be INSTANTANEOUS and automatic....just commit to it immediately, open your mouth and start speaking, even speaking crap, and then you're committed and your higher functions start coming online and bringing all the "seduction" stuff you've internalized online.
Good luck. Report back and let us know how its going.
