Question for you guys

[acw]

Woah..Chill out Guys....the dudes had a bad experience with some ding bat broad. Happens to the best of us...and it happens by just playing the game.

PTC...HERE's my advice.

1. Don't talk to this chick. If she comes around again...tell her "you have second thoughts about her." Tell her you need some time to think about things...and don't call her ass....EVER!

2. Concentrate on bettering your Life. If you have enough things goin for you in your personal life, the chicks will roll in.

3. Make it a point to get 2-5 numbers a week. If you are in some chit little town, make plans to relocate to a major city with plenty of work. Get the fuk out of that little one horse town.

4. At this point...Make friends with as many women as you can. Be Seen with them, have them introduce you to their friends...get around other females...as many as you can. Get some female friends who can help introduce you their friends.

5. Do some charity work...and spread the word around about what you do. This will give you tremendous credibility.

FINAL: Don't sweat this chick. She's confused and has NO RESPECT for you. People who have no respect for you are not worth knowing.

 

[KontrollerX]

I know, your right. It just seems hard sometimes when your my age (43) to find a woman without a kid or without some kinda red flag. I live in a small town so any single woman thats worth a sh!t is either a mom, crazy or has some other red flag.

Oh and I assure you it is a different girl. I can prove it thru a PM if you like

Well the small town is definitely part of the problem but the biggest problem you have is once again your internal way of dealing with women's b.s.

You've been on this forum for years bro and we've given you great advice on how to begin changing your character and actions towards women for the better.

You just have to take the advice and begin applying it to unplug and start calling women on their sh!t and walking away when bad behavior starts and putting yourself in control and at the forefront of the interaction.

I really think even if you are telling the truth about your troubles being with new women you are simply running into more BPD's as the drama and negativity with your stories is always similar and BPD's always seem to express this cookie cutter destructive drama filled relationship pattern.

Your character not being changed is moreso drawing you to these women and finding them than the simple small town environment unless you really have been unlucky enough to be stuck in a small town completely populated by BPD women.

Also keep in mind the poster jophil is practically pushing 60 if he's not there already and he's still often pulling 20 year olds so you can't totally use age as an excuse for not being able to attract better candidates.

The DJ game is very much mind over matter once you get good enough at it but again man, again, again, again you have to start applying our advice and have it be your guide and change your mindset with it.

Do a search on the red flags lists here, find out what women to avoid and if your town is only filled with women that need to be avoided stop dating any of them and start working on moving to a new place hard as that may be in this rough economy.

You probably need both a fresh new start and a total character change inside of what you will tolerate in your life.

Rollo once has said that the main indicator of an AFC is the way he deals with women.

You are behaving in an AFC manner to put up with so much drama and negativity.

You've got to stop that sh!t in its tracks the moment it starts.

 

[PTC]

Well I'm kinda stuck here. I have a business here as well as an 8 yr old daughter that I would never leave.

You go out here and you always seem to see the same ole people. It gets so bad I dont even go out. Most of the women I meet are thru blind dates or friend hookups.

 

[jophil28]

Well I'm kinda stuck here. I have a business here as well as an 8 yr old daughter that I would never leave.

You go out here and you always seem to see the same ole people. It gets so bad I dont even go out. Most of the women I meet are thru blind dates or friend hookups.

THe way to meet different women is to join different groups. If you are a bar fly and continue to be then you are likely to run into the same female flies.

Try the tennis club, squash club, golf perhaps. Dance classes, toastmasters, and any of those co-ed service clubs like Apex. Hit the yellow pages.

Ya gotta hunt where the ducks are.

What is the local population ?

 

[Warrior74]

visit other nearby small towns.

 

[jophil28]

You've got to stop that sh!t in its tracks the moment it starts.

And this is key.

Stamping it out (or walking away ) when her sh1ts tests are small and she is just getting warmed up is the way of personal salvation.
Most men are raised to tolerate women's shyte from childhood. I was raised to extend patience and tolerance to women . ("Jophil don't do that to your sister, she is only a girl ")

Adult women use this situation to manipulate and get their way. However they frequently abuse the extra freedom that being female gives them.

 

[PTC]

And this is key.

Stamping it out (or walking away ) when her sh1ts tests are small and she is just getting warmed up is the way of personal salvation.
Most men are raised to tolerate women's shyte from childhood. I was raised to extend patience and tolerance to women . ("Jophil don't do that to your sister, she is only a girl ")

Adult women use this situation to manipulate and get their way. However they frequently abuse the extra freedom that being female gives them.

How right you are!! Its funny cause she has been sending text messages, just like you said,...saying she misses me and how lonesome she is for me,...blah, blah, blah. I have yet to call her. But I'm still going to do like you said when she gets back. I'm not gonna put up with that sh!t she pulled and I can tell she knows it now.

Oh and my town has about 100,000 people,...guessing.

 

[Desert Fox]

The only suggestion you need is...

Dump that b!tch.

A single mommy who cavorts with a gym guy who has expressed clear interest in her who she will not sever ties with because she does not respect or value your relationship is not someone who you should be with.

Oh yeah and the single mommy thing.

DJ's take note never stay with or get with a woman like this in the first place.

someone tell me why the FVCK this thread is 3 pages long?!!?!?

YOU GOT THE ANSWER IN THE FIRST FVCKIN REPLY!

 

[jophil28]

How right you are!! Its funny cause she has been sending text messages, just like you said,...saying she misses me and how lonesome she is for me,...blah, blah, blah. I have yet to call her. But I'm still going to do like you said when she gets back. I'm not gonna put up with that sh!t she pulled and I can tell she knows it now.

Oh and my town has about 100,000 people,...guessing.

Yah, they always send those lovey messages when they are out of town and with their family or on the prowl with the girls. SHe is trying to keep you 'warm' and on the end of her string.

Dude, this situation is a golden oppurtunity for you to grow - to man up and dump someone who has disrespected you. Giving out her # to some random guy who sidled up to her in the gym is cheating on you. Being with a woman for 5 months defines your relationship as an emerging LTR and there are rules for that. Giving out her number to another man says that she is NOT commited to you and she is 'still shopping'...
Her next step would be to start meeting him outside the gym, and be telling you some BS about how she appreciates his workout advice and that she sees him as just a 'friend'.
Then, one day soon she would want to 'have a talk' with you and you will hear how she is "not really ready for a relationship" yet but she likes you and wants you "as a friend".
This is womanspeek for, " I am f*kking the gym guy behind your back and I want to spend my nights with him now, but I want you to sit in the background and be available to me if the gym guy does not work out."

Take KX's advice and cut her out. She is not LTR material and you need to go hunting for some better quality ducks.

 

[djzulu]

Oh and my town has about 100,000 people,...guessing.

You have to try and get out of town - at least every now and then to meet new people. I understand that you have a daughter and a business, but you must make the extra effort.

I have moved a lot in my life, and every time that I move I meet fresh pu$$y and start forgetting about the old ones. If you could get out every now and then it will change your perspective on things; you will see so many quality women and you will start to wonder why you even gave her the time of day in the first place.