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Sup fella's.

Before I start with a question I could use some advice about, I'll start out by telling you a bit about myself. I'm 30 year's old. I recently got out of a long time relationship with a girl I really loved. She ended up having to move away for work and we all know what happened. Anyway, I really took it hard. I mean hard. We officially broke up I would say around last April, and I finally came to the realization that I had to let her go around 2 months ago. Not to say I didn't have girls I was interested in since April. The only one's I was interested in, I would end up becoming good friends with, and the one's I didn't care about were just the one's that I would get with and that was it. So after the last girl I actually liked, and then just became friends with I thought to myself "Ok, there seems to be a problem here." On a side note, I've always been the type of guy that was able to pick up really good looking girls, stay with them for a few years and then have things fall apart cause I just don't care anymore. The ex got the last laugh on that one. Ok so, back to me figuring out why I was falling into friendsville. I met this new girl. So I thought, maybe I'll ask my buddy how to approach the situation because he's always been really really good with picking up girls. And he basically told me the exact same approach as David Deangelo (David Deangelo really, and I mean really made me realize what I was doing allll wrong.) goes with. Don't give them too much, make fun of them, flirt, keep up attraction, and always be confident, basically a no care attitude.

So I've known this girl for 3 weeks or so. I had asked her to hang out about a week after and she gave me the no go including excuse. I let it slide, kept talking, flirting, and things were going well. So I ask her again last week. She yes ya, lets have some drinks Friday night. Long story short, we meet out, have drink, go back to a friends for after party and end up doing some stuff but no sex. We split a cab to our separate apartments. This is where it gets interesting. So back to just before we starting doing stuff early that morning. I asked her a question that I wanted kept between her and I (Totally unrelated issue to anything in regards to my question.). You'll see why this is important later.

Come Saturday afternoon, I txt her to say "Please keep what we were talking about just between us.". She reply's with a solid "Yes, nothing to worry about.". And that was that. She lets me go because she was going back to sleep, and say's she'll txt me later.

Later on Saturday evening she txts me, and we small talk for abit. I ask her to do something Sunday. She say's she's into it. So we set a date for lunch. I'm stoked....

Sunday morning comes. 9 am, I'm awoken to my phone vibrating. Its her and she says it's a no go including excuse, but I'll txt you later. I was kind of upset but said no problem, and I'll talk to you later. Ok so, she txts me later that night. She tells me she's sorry about what happened and that. I tell her no problem and just kinda go back to flirting with her. I bring up something I had said to her as we were making out. She replys with wow, I don't remember...... So now she's telling me she doesn't "remember" me saying that to her, but she had no problem remembering the question that I had asked her not even 10 minutes before??? So I decided to wrap up and let her go. Kind of in a way that I wouldn't usually (Which typically would have been with "Talk to you soon "Nickname"." She also said bye in a way that she usually wouldn't have.

That was Sunday. It's now Tuesday. I haven't heard from her, and I haven't txted her either. She flaked out on Sunday, and then this not remembering stuff. I smell bs. What do you guys think about it??

Ak.

P.S. I'm happy to now be a member here. Before becoming a member I did do a lot of reading in the forums. Some really good stuff here. Thanks.
 

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up fella's.

Before I start with a question I could use some advice about, I'll start out by telling you a bit about myself. I'm 30 year's old.

without reading the rest of the post (seriously i'm taking a stab here), I'm going to simply say, you need to move on and she doesn't like you.
 

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zka80 said:
Sup fella's.

That was Sunday. It's now Tuesday. I haven't heard from her, and I haven't txted her either. She flaked out on Sunday, and then this not remembering stuff. I smell bs. What do you guys think about it??
trust your sense of smell, its took years to evolve, its a good tool
 

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and tghe thing you told her? was it something about 'the ex'?
 

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No. Just a question about a rumor going around, about one of her friends, and one of my friends who used to date. Totally unrelated issue.
 

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So if I understand your post correctly, you're upset that she canceled the date and forgot some private conversation you had while drunk?

Being upset about her canceling the date is understandable. I dont get where you're coming from with the other thing. Not sure why that's an issue.

She contacted you again that day like she promised she would. The negative is that she canceled your date. But in my opinion, you shouldn't go out with a date with a girl on a Friday. Spend Saturday texting with her. And then arrange a date with her for Sunday. I think you're still in relationship mode. This girl isn't your girlfriend....It's okay to back off for a few days.

The way you described this situation doesn't give me enough info to say whether this girl is a good prospect or not. The two main issues seem to be that she canceled a date and that she forgot some secret story you told her. One makes sense. The other seems like nonsense. So play it by ear....and most importantly, trust your gut.
 

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Well. The point I was trying to make I actually kind of left out. While we were kissing, I stopped and looked at her and just said "You're a good kisser, but I'm better." Now when I brought that up to her in a flirty kind of way she gave me the she didn't remember. But she had no problem remembering the part about her not telling anybody about what I had asked her 10 or 15 minutes before.

Sorry about that Iceberg.

I do appreciate the advice. You are right about relationship mode. I have a lot to learn.
 
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