Question for the hot guys.

[Rhino22]

"****y and funny" for an attractive guy doesn't work. "Kind and manly" would be a better guideline.

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Why is this?

 

[Prodigy746]

I dont know if i am hot or not... my sister told me that her friends said i was hot lol if that counts for anything. my sister is 2 years younger than me btw and i am 22.

I am tall 6'4-6'5 and i feel i have a pretty good style when it comes to clothes . If i had to judge my self i would say i am average guy with above average style.

Anyway some things i noticed is that girls will look at me and when i catch them will look away and again will glance at me throughout the time i am there. This happens in college classroom all the time. Also they tend to pass me alot more, come out of the classroom at the same time, etc.

Also major thing with me is if we exchange eye contact most girls (90%) will start playing with their hair almost immediately . For example i was at the gym working on my chest and this HB 8.5 my age came in front of me to work on her legs. So naturally i was checking her out as she came, she looked at me for about 10 seconds and noticed me looking at her. She looked away and immidietly started playing with her hair. She had a pony tail and she would twist the pony tail throughout the 10 mins i was behind her. I was about 4 feet behind her working out and she was in front of me.

 

[blue11199]

But the bottom line in talking to girls if you're attractive is this: you have to be "nice" at first to ease their nerves, and actively show interest. BUT, if you pick up on any kind of an ego or attitude on her part, then it's time to be nonchalant/cool/indifferent...in other words, playing the disinterest game.

Seriously. If you see that she is nervous just being in your presence (talking really fast, saying, "I feel so stupid right now," etc.), then no jokes at her expense, until she knows you better. "****y and funny" for an attractive guy doesn't work. "Kind and manly" would be a better guideline.

UNLESS, again, for some reason she thinks she's better than you.

Are you sure about this? I thought the same rules apply for all guys, no matter how good looking you are. I've tried your advice in the past on girls uglier than me, but they don't seem to work. I would consider myself a 7 or 8 in looks, so I guess this rule doesn't apply to me?

 

[Darth]

Are you sure about this? I thought the same rules apply for all guys, no matter how good looking you are. I've tried your advice in the past on girls uglier than me, but they don't seem to work. I would consider myself a 7 or 8 in looks, so I guess this rule doesn't apply to me?

When I say nice, I mean nice from a higher place. Think about it: if you're a really attractive guy hitting on a 7, if you blow her off or don't come off as approachable, she will give up.

"****y and funny" for an attractive guy doesn't work. "Kind and manly" would be a better guideline.

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Why is this?

Bear in mind I'm still figuring this stuff out, so I don't have all the answers, but if you're attractive, and you're not talking to a bombshell, then "****y and funny" can come across as "stuck-up jerk."

If you're good-looking, I believe some of your work is done. You don't have anything to prove- it's obvious you are high value by your looks and your badass attitude. ****y and funny seems to me like something guys do to hide inadequacy, a quick fix.

But if you look good, and you're secure, and you have a good solid head on your shoulders....just being a MAN can go a long way. There are better ways of flirting than putting the woman down.

 

[Exhumed]

I agree to some extent...being overly ****y is just compensating for insecurity I think, one of my best friends is like that...he gets a decent amount of ass and he's fairly attractive, but not super masculine looking...

But not teasing the girl at all? Hmm. Don't know.

 

[horaholic]

Girls can and do get intimidated by hot guys the same way AFC's get intimidated by hb9.5's. You have to make a little more of an effort, and you have to be extra sincere, or they might think you're fvcking with them, like the male version of an attention hor
(even thought guys dont really do that.).

 

[Thatsalotoffish]

I agree with Darth, I dont want to sound arrogant (like everyone else) but I know I am good looking, been told it by my friends which are girls, hell even my guy friends are like duuur wish I had your looks make it so much easier. Imo it doesnt because girls dont think they have as much of a chance with you.

Years back I used to pull out ****y and funny, but I often came across as arrogant or quite the player, these days I am still funny etc but I dont need to pull out the ****y side. I just make sure I am humorous and make them laugh, whilst at the same time doing all the usual to ramp it up.

And to answer the original post yeah I see it alot, I find it mildly irritating though, like I feel it puts pressure on me sometimes, for instance was out few weeks back this chick knew one of my friends and commented that I was hot, I was duly told by my friend, and when she worked up the courage to say Hi to me, after like standin around near me and my friends for a while, I was just under too much pressure cause I knew, it was easy all I needed to do was talk etc . But I didnt cause I knew what she thought of me and that just put me off in a weird way, like all my pals were staring to see what I would do etc, its oddly frustrating... I cant quite word it atm might post later

 

[AlmostThere!]

I wish I was hot. I'm not ugly....just average I guess. Thanks for all the replies.

 

[Poonani Maker]

If it weren't for my oneitis a few years back, I'd be dog ugly right now. She made me hot. She breathed life into a dying man. She molded me into the ideal man.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

That's either one of two reasons: She's either an attention wh*re, or like Tazman suggests, they are intimidated. The game is a b*tch. I realized in recent years, it's just much, much less of a headache to invest your time and money wisely with escorts or fly to Amsterdam and invest in their high-end smoking hot prostitutes, or as they are better known, "kamer girls". And you know, honestly, I'm much happier this way, doing what I do, rather than endlessly waiting for a hot woman to be receptive. Because in the end, I win, I GET WHAT I WANT, WHERE I WANT, WHEN I WANT.

I respect your decision to do what you please and what works best for you, as this game is not for everyone. You realized it in time and are now doing it your way. Thank you for your contribution, as I'm sure some will give it consideration, but what does that have to do with the topic in this thread?

With that being said, gentlemen, this is an example of somebody who played and gave it a shot and didn't win and has decided to pack it in and find other alternatives. This game played too many games with him. Either you pay your dues and play and get to the point where the game doesn't play games with you anymore, or you play that other game, where you pay with money.

Some of us here have figured it out and have women or a woman who will have sex with us whenever we want; who will bring us food, or cook for us. Who will pay for stuff and not always take and make us feel we need to pay her with money, etc. etc. In other words, we also say " in the end, I win, I GET WHAT I WANT, WHERE I WANT, WHEN I WANT" Most of you can get there if you put in the work. You don't just one day win the lottery in this game. Some of you will end up resorting to paying "per hour" or flying overseas to pay more. Some of you who can't afford it will end up with no sex.

 

[edger]

Thank you for your contribution, as I'm sure some will give it consideration, but what does that have to do with the topic in this thread?

Nothing, I was just getting things off my chest, as well as of course suggesting other helpful avenues.

Most of you can get there if you put in the work.

I 100% digress. Gangster, I've been in this game for a looooong time. My first "puppy love" girlfriend was at age 11. Since then, I have always hooked up with chicks(although not with the greatest consistency), except for the last 2 yrs, 8 months. I've been coming to this site for the last 6 yrs. I've worked on the parts of my game that needed work(my game never really needed a lot of work to begin with). I would think I should've learned something by now(I definitely have). I've read a lot of material on here. I'm out in the real world constantly. I hit up the clubs weekly. It is tough man. I'm not a dork, don't look like one, don't act like one; not a weirdo, don't look like one, don't act like one; don't smell, don't have bad breath, not socially inept, etc., etc. I'm a good-looking guy, I'm constantly told that, without me even asking or bringing it up. I have a friend that can't understand for the life of him, why in his words "a good-looking white guy like me never pulls". It baffles the sh*t out of him, to the point where he actually gets annoyed. It will lead to heated discussions sometimes. My game isn't great, but it is better than the average guys out there, I can tell you that; yet it is very odd that I haven't pulled since April 2007. What's even more odd, is that there are guys with actual average/below average game who are pulling more than I am, and I'm sure a lot of people here for that matter....but I can tell you one thing for sure, and if anyone wants to take my word for it, that's their choice, but I'm telling you as it's been for me. Some things just aren't meant to be. As cliche or ridiculous that might sound to some, well then maybe you might want to switch shoes with me and walk in mine, and maybe you'll see.

Let me tell you a story:

I met up with a hot escort about a year and a half ago. As soon as I entered the place she was staying, the first words out of her mouth was, no joke, "what are you doing here, you're too good-looking for this" in an annoyed, saddened tone of voice.