Come on bro, you say it's "Now or Never" for a wife and children, your dad keeps telling you to get married and have kids, you start an entire thread about it, and you ask some strangers on the internet who you never met and will never meet if they think you will suddenly regret not getting a wife and kids, and then say you have spent less than 1% of your time thinking about it?At age 45, I'm at the "now or never" age for a (first) wife and child(ren). If not past it, but bear with me.
On one hand, my dad has been reminding me of this; on the other hand, he complains about his second wife (and practices revisionist history on his first wife (my mother)) [Yes I'm a programmer].
So I'm curious to hear from other men my age and older: are men like me going to spontaneously regret not having gotten married and having had children someday? Or will we continue to rejoice (as I basically have for the past 10 years or so)?
To the men age 35-45, I can honestly say I spend less than 1% of my life wishing I had a wife and/or children.
Thanks in advance.
Obviously you are thinking about it a lot, otherwise you wouldn't be looking for affirmation from a bunch of internet strangers. I don't think you have been "rejoicing" you don't have a wife and kid. I think some days you are really upset and lonely and wish you had the family like others.
Personally I think everyone wants a wife and kid. It's good for image, its good to have company, its good to have offspring, its good to show the world you can attract the opposite sex. The issue is no one wants the headache that comes with them. No one wants to have a nagging wife put them down, no one wants to see their wife get old, no one wants to have the wife divorce and take half their money, no one wants to wake up to the same face and have sex with the same body day in and day out. No one wants to change diapers, listen to annoying problems, babysit all the time, save for a college fund, grow through all the growing pains.
Is the trade off worth it?