I was reading Anti-Dump's guide that was posted here earlier, and I read this particular excerpt:
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Almost every guy on the planet shows EXCESSIVE attention to a women. This goes on day after day, year after year. Women are bored with it. They've heard the compliments a million times. You believe a myth. You believe a women doesn't get enough attention. You believe she's starved for attention. This is not so. Every day some guy is asking her to "get together some time". Every day some guy is asking for the number. Every day some guy is telling her how beautiful she is.
When you show a women INITIAL interest like you said above, SHE BEGINS TO LOSE interest. Your theory would work if nobody was approaching these women day after day. THEN, her interest would suddenly INCREASE. But, instead, it DECREASES when you tell her how fine she looks and talks. She's BORED by attention.
So, in effect, there can be no 'Cycle'. Attention kills the deal. It might work on an unattractive lady. I'll give you that . But on attractive to beautiful. I say it BACKFIRES.
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Now, this all makes sense to me, it even resonates with my own experience.
But if it's the case that even asking for her number is over-validating her, how does one and talk to women at all? It seems to me (and this is actually something I've been thinking about for a while) that any display of interest will make the girl lose interest in you.
How do you show your own interest, without turning her off? For me, the above quote creates a bit of a paradox.
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Almost every guy on the planet shows EXCESSIVE attention to a women. This goes on day after day, year after year. Women are bored with it. They've heard the compliments a million times. You believe a myth. You believe a women doesn't get enough attention. You believe she's starved for attention. This is not so. Every day some guy is asking her to "get together some time". Every day some guy is asking for the number. Every day some guy is telling her how beautiful she is.
When you show a women INITIAL interest like you said above, SHE BEGINS TO LOSE interest. Your theory would work if nobody was approaching these women day after day. THEN, her interest would suddenly INCREASE. But, instead, it DECREASES when you tell her how fine she looks and talks. She's BORED by attention.
So, in effect, there can be no 'Cycle'. Attention kills the deal. It might work on an unattractive lady. I'll give you that . But on attractive to beautiful. I say it BACKFIRES.
""""
Now, this all makes sense to me, it even resonates with my own experience.
But if it's the case that even asking for her number is over-validating her, how does one and talk to women at all? It seems to me (and this is actually something I've been thinking about for a while) that any display of interest will make the girl lose interest in you.
How do you show your own interest, without turning her off? For me, the above quote creates a bit of a paradox.