incognito42
Master Don Juan
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I am 18, she is 16. She is a virgin and has never had a bf. This girl is a straight dime. She is 5'9, with a beautifully proportionate body, light blue eyes, and even great hair (something I never notice).
I met this girl, along with 2 of her friends, through one of my guy friends. The 1st night we hung out I noticed her glancing at me througout the night, for long enough at times that I might even say she was staring. She smokes, drinks, has a great personality and if you hung out with her for a night you would never guess she is 16 yo and has never even had a bf. I feel like Ive struck gold, but Im not sure how to handle a girl in this situation as Ive never been in one quite like this. Her friend told my friend that she is interested. We have talked a good deal. However she is really doing a good job of confusing me into not knowing what step to take next. I have known her for a few weeks now, hanging out and just chilling with the 5 of us every friday and saturday night for 3 weeks. From her friend telling my friend she's interested, and the way her friend says little subtle remarks when we're hanging out such as, asking me if I know "hot to work it" when her friend was struggling with the radio, etc, It has become fairly obvious that I have a window open.
So I think she is one of the most strikingly beautiful girls Ive seen my age in some time, and shes 16. On top of that, I get the feeling she is interested the 1st time we hang out and then her friend confirms it. So we'd been hanging out a week or 2 now and my friend has managed to kiss both her friends, and strike upa bit of jealousy between the other 2 girls. One of the girls is obviously trying to hook her and me up, and my friend does a good job with throwing out joking comments such as, "enough of this hard to get". It has become pretty obvious she is just shy, and her friend has said I will have to be very patient with her and she willl take persistence. That is fine with me, as I am really into her. Now in comes the problem. We have talked a good deal in person, her and her friend have already said they dont like to do anything but hang out with eachother and drink each weekend, no parties, swimming, hot tubs, restaurant, movies, etc. So we just hung out a few weekends in a row. I asked her for her ph # last Saturday and said something to the effect of "you must atleast like talking on the phone" in which she responded with a simple "no" while still giving me her #. I felt like an idiot and of course afterwards thought I shouldve said something else. Shortly after this I was sitting next to her and she was non-responsive to my attempts at holding her hand or putting my arm around her, etc. Feeling very discouraged now, frustrated and upset that I mightve fvcked things up, I smoothly got up said I was tired and had a long day and left shortly after all this. I felt like I was getting no signs that she was interested be it whether she is shy or not interested, it discouraged me either way. And from her being so non-responsive (neither embracing my attempts to make physical contact with her, nor showing a disinterest in such moves) and her response to my seemingly foolish way of getting her phone #, so I thought it time to leave. I went and got wasted at a bar a few of my friends were at, watched them do karaoke, and ended up having a pretty damn good night. I decided I wasnt upset that she wasnt interested, and reassured myself that I didnt want to let any girl become a higher priority than the things in my life I have been getting accomplished, and have been making me feel real good about lately. I keep reminding myself not to be so shortsighted and to look at the big picture and my real goals. I dont want to let myself obsess over ANYONE. So Tuesday comes and I pick up my friend and we go out to the causeway for our tuesday night jog. He tells me that this girl called him to get my phone # and tried to call me the day be4, on monday. I am gone from 9 am to 9 pm during the week and didnt get the call. So now I am once again confused and once again just as interested as be4. I didnt call her back at all during the week and she called me on friday night at about 9 to come hang out with the crew. I told her I just got home, which I did, and was going to get in the shower and call her back as I wasnt sure what I was doing for teh night if anything. I called her back bout an hour later and told her I was tired and just going to crash for the night. She said ok and suggested maybe hanging out the following night (which wouldve been last night). Id already decided earlier in the week I wasnt hanging out with her this weekend, and didnt hang out last night.
So now Im not really sure what to do next and am looking for a little advice. I dont want to put the full-court press on her and scare her off, as she has still made things pretty cloudy regarding her interest level, but I dont want to stay waiting back for too long, to the point where things get awkward. I dont know how anyone else would be able to tell her interest level if I am the one who knows her and I cant tell, but I have given a good amount of the details regarding the situation and I know there is some more experienced of people out here that might be able to give me a little direction.
She has not resonded, either good or bad, to me making obvious moves on her to make physical contact, she gave me her phone # but didnt seem overly interested at talking, however she called my friend for my # and called me 2 days later, has told her friend she is interested in me but however she has not shown shes overly interested when we're hanging out in person. I thought it was a good time to back off a bit this weekend, and am now presenting the sitution to all of you "DJs" out there to possibly give me a little advice or direction that I am not picking up on.
EDIT: I think it is somewhat important to add that although she has a very intriguing personality things are getting somewhat boring hanging out at the same spot each weekend. We are trying to get these girls to get out and do something but are having problems finding anything theyre interested in. Its beginning to get hard to be creative each friday and saturday night and this is another big reason I chose not hang out this past weekend. I want both of us to still want to hang out with eachother, and not get bored while I am trying to figure this girl out. Nnot an easy feat when I cant find something she likes to do. i am into her enoguh that I dont care if she just likes hanging out each weekend, I feel if things progress right that wont matter and we will find things to do. But right now, things are getting more and more boring each weekend as far as the setting goes, and the more she confuses me into not knowing whether to give her more space or eliminate some of that space between us, the more things will get boring and awkward. Pretty soon a serious move will be made, no matter how she responds, but I want her to make things more clear 1st so I make the right move, I suppose
I met this girl, along with 2 of her friends, through one of my guy friends. The 1st night we hung out I noticed her glancing at me througout the night, for long enough at times that I might even say she was staring. She smokes, drinks, has a great personality and if you hung out with her for a night you would never guess she is 16 yo and has never even had a bf. I feel like Ive struck gold, but Im not sure how to handle a girl in this situation as Ive never been in one quite like this. Her friend told my friend that she is interested. We have talked a good deal. However she is really doing a good job of confusing me into not knowing what step to take next. I have known her for a few weeks now, hanging out and just chilling with the 5 of us every friday and saturday night for 3 weeks. From her friend telling my friend she's interested, and the way her friend says little subtle remarks when we're hanging out such as, asking me if I know "hot to work it" when her friend was struggling with the radio, etc, It has become fairly obvious that I have a window open.
So I think she is one of the most strikingly beautiful girls Ive seen my age in some time, and shes 16. On top of that, I get the feeling she is interested the 1st time we hang out and then her friend confirms it. So we'd been hanging out a week or 2 now and my friend has managed to kiss both her friends, and strike upa bit of jealousy between the other 2 girls. One of the girls is obviously trying to hook her and me up, and my friend does a good job with throwing out joking comments such as, "enough of this hard to get". It has become pretty obvious she is just shy, and her friend has said I will have to be very patient with her and she willl take persistence. That is fine with me, as I am really into her. Now in comes the problem. We have talked a good deal in person, her and her friend have already said they dont like to do anything but hang out with eachother and drink each weekend, no parties, swimming, hot tubs, restaurant, movies, etc. So we just hung out a few weekends in a row. I asked her for her ph # last Saturday and said something to the effect of "you must atleast like talking on the phone" in which she responded with a simple "no" while still giving me her #. I felt like an idiot and of course afterwards thought I shouldve said something else. Shortly after this I was sitting next to her and she was non-responsive to my attempts at holding her hand or putting my arm around her, etc. Feeling very discouraged now, frustrated and upset that I mightve fvcked things up, I smoothly got up said I was tired and had a long day and left shortly after all this. I felt like I was getting no signs that she was interested be it whether she is shy or not interested, it discouraged me either way. And from her being so non-responsive (neither embracing my attempts to make physical contact with her, nor showing a disinterest in such moves) and her response to my seemingly foolish way of getting her phone #, so I thought it time to leave. I went and got wasted at a bar a few of my friends were at, watched them do karaoke, and ended up having a pretty damn good night. I decided I wasnt upset that she wasnt interested, and reassured myself that I didnt want to let any girl become a higher priority than the things in my life I have been getting accomplished, and have been making me feel real good about lately. I keep reminding myself not to be so shortsighted and to look at the big picture and my real goals. I dont want to let myself obsess over ANYONE. So Tuesday comes and I pick up my friend and we go out to the causeway for our tuesday night jog. He tells me that this girl called him to get my phone # and tried to call me the day be4, on monday. I am gone from 9 am to 9 pm during the week and didnt get the call. So now I am once again confused and once again just as interested as be4. I didnt call her back at all during the week and she called me on friday night at about 9 to come hang out with the crew. I told her I just got home, which I did, and was going to get in the shower and call her back as I wasnt sure what I was doing for teh night if anything. I called her back bout an hour later and told her I was tired and just going to crash for the night. She said ok and suggested maybe hanging out the following night (which wouldve been last night). Id already decided earlier in the week I wasnt hanging out with her this weekend, and didnt hang out last night.
So now Im not really sure what to do next and am looking for a little advice. I dont want to put the full-court press on her and scare her off, as she has still made things pretty cloudy regarding her interest level, but I dont want to stay waiting back for too long, to the point where things get awkward. I dont know how anyone else would be able to tell her interest level if I am the one who knows her and I cant tell, but I have given a good amount of the details regarding the situation and I know there is some more experienced of people out here that might be able to give me a little direction.
She has not resonded, either good or bad, to me making obvious moves on her to make physical contact, she gave me her phone # but didnt seem overly interested at talking, however she called my friend for my # and called me 2 days later, has told her friend she is interested in me but however she has not shown shes overly interested when we're hanging out in person. I thought it was a good time to back off a bit this weekend, and am now presenting the sitution to all of you "DJs" out there to possibly give me a little advice or direction that I am not picking up on.
EDIT: I think it is somewhat important to add that although she has a very intriguing personality things are getting somewhat boring hanging out at the same spot each weekend. We are trying to get these girls to get out and do something but are having problems finding anything theyre interested in. Its beginning to get hard to be creative each friday and saturday night and this is another big reason I chose not hang out this past weekend. I want both of us to still want to hang out with eachother, and not get bored while I am trying to figure this girl out. Nnot an easy feat when I cant find something she likes to do. i am into her enoguh that I dont care if she just likes hanging out each weekend, I feel if things progress right that wont matter and we will find things to do. But right now, things are getting more and more boring each weekend as far as the setting goes, and the more she confuses me into not knowing whether to give her more space or eliminate some of that space between us, the more things will get boring and awkward. Pretty soon a serious move will be made, no matter how she responds, but I want her to make things more clear 1st so I make the right move, I suppose
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