We all talk about how important it is to have DJ qualities, but at the end of the day a few women DO like some AFC traits. But most of the time it's more about where they are in their life at the time. It's what works best for THEM at the moment.edger said:If women settle for AFC's because there aren't enough DJ's around, then how come we were never "settled" for in our AFC days? I'm just confused. I've never known a woman to settle for me while I had AFC ways, and from what I know, nobody else here has either.
I have a feeling that 9 times out of 10 the chick is gonna pick the DJ, all else being equal. But, and this is a big BUT.....if she is REALLY looking to settle down she is going to gravitate toward the guy that's gonna be there for her through thick and thin. And isn't that the epitome of AFC? Being there for HER unconditionally, even at HIS expense? The DJ is more aware of his value and is less likely to settle down, especially with a chick who reeks of desperation to tie someone down.
In other words, she CAN'T get the DJ to commit. If she could get him to commit and she saw the potential for him to be able to provide for her, she would choose him in a second.
I've said it many times....sometimes being a DJ you miss out on things that others get to experience. Sure, you cut out some of the BS that a guy who isn't as aware might experience, but at the same time you miss out on the blissfully ignorant "honeymoon" phase with some women just because you are more picky and less tolerant of womens behavior.
Science has shown that women often look to have their needs met through MULTIPLE partners. Boring guy is at home watching the kids while she's out banging Mr. Right Now.
I know a chick that has a NEWBORN BABY that is out fooling around behind her husbands back. How sad is that?
Get used to it cause all you can do is strive to be the best man you can be, but at the end of the day the fate of your relationship rests on her integrity and her perception of you as a man.