Putting women on an emotional roller coaster ride
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Why on earth would you want to intentionally create drama in your involvements with women? That's what you should be trying to avoid and not tolerating. You shouldn't be seeking it out or trying to create it. That's just foolish.
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I dont mean SERIOUS drama, like going out and having an affair and dropping subtle hints that you are. Heck.. even if you aren't even CLOSE to having an affair, the worst thing you can do is make it seem like you are.
silly random drama to complicate the plot a bit.. is having to suddenly leave on a 4-day trip for work (no longer, no shorter), visiting your ill grandmother (aww), to your uncle's cottage birthday party.. whatever. and not call her until you come back.
This puts her on an emotional rollercoaster, because she's starting to wonder, are you cheating on her? or maybe did you just forget about her? or maybe you found someone else there that you like better.
Then you come back after 4 days.. (long enough for her to get worried around end of day 2, and short enough for her not to start getting pissed, after day 4)... drop her a line saying "i am back, had lots of fun. Missed you a whole lot."
Thus.. your absense, well put her on a downer towards the middle to end.. and your presence will make her happy and reassure her that everything is alright
Because to a woman, life without drama, is like a book without a plot. BORING.
I dont mean SERIOUS drama, like going out and having an affair and dropping subtle hints that you are. Heck.. even if you aren't even CLOSE to having an affair, the worst thing you can do is make it seem like you are.
silly random drama to complicate the plot a bit.. is having to suddenly leave on a 4-day trip for work (no longer, no shorter), visiting your ill grandmother (aww), to your uncle's cottage birthday party.. whatever. and not call her until you come back.
This puts her on an emotional rollercoaster, because she's starting to wonder, are you cheating on her? or maybe did you just forget about her? or maybe you found someone else there that you like better.
Then you come back after 4 days.. (long enough for her to get worried around end of day 2, and short enough for her not to start getting pissed, after day 4)... drop her a line saying "i am back, had lots of fun. Missed you a whole lot."
Thus.. your absense, well put her on a downer towards the middle to end.. and your presence will make her happy and reassure her that everything is alright
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if youre forced into an argument ... argue your point as if you actually cared... then the next moment go onto a complete different subject smiling like it never happened
thats easy enough
thats easy enough
Some of you are just so lost...
You don't hold onto a woman by creating chaos and emotional upheaval and drama. You hold onto her by being a good catch, not being needy, being interesting and fun to be with and having a life of your own. You do NOT tolerate drama, headgames and foolishness...and you certainly do NOT create it. That's just plain retarded. If you create drama in your involvements then ultimately it is YOU who suffers from it. Not only should you never encourage or put up with that kind of nonsense...you sure as hell should NEVER try to cause it.
You don't hold onto a woman by creating chaos and emotional upheaval and drama. You hold onto her by being a good catch, not being needy, being interesting and fun to be with and having a life of your own. You do NOT tolerate drama, headgames and foolishness...and you certainly do NOT create it. That's just plain retarded. If you create drama in your involvements then ultimately it is YOU who suffers from it. Not only should you never encourage or put up with that kind of nonsense...you sure as hell should NEVER try to cause it.
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you should see how happy girls are when i go from argumentative to my regular jovial self
its push and pull and quite effective
its push and pull and quite effective
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Wyldfire, you're off the mark AGAIN.. Maybe you've been jilted so many times, you're willing to settle for the mundane predictable nice guy... and more than willing to vouch for them too... It's like a mother telling her daughter "I don't want you to date that creep" Will she listen??
Lets face it, women are like emotional Drama tampons.. They need to feel and absorb emotions throughout the drama spectrum.
You obviously don't know what a few well placed strategic but not over the top emotional rides can do for the relationship..
Lets face it, women are like emotional Drama tampons.. They need to feel and absorb emotions throughout the drama spectrum.
You obviously don't know what a few well placed strategic but not over the top emotional rides can do for the relationship..
Actually, I've never been jilted at all. I don't go for effeminate weak men, either. Again...men do NOT need to create drama in their relationships with women. If you have to resort to such methods you are either settling for very low quality women or you lack the tools necessary to have a healthy relationship.
(btw, i tried putting this in a sig but it didn't come up)..
I am a 22yo woman. (who's here for almost the same purpose as you are.. you are learning about women.. and so i want to as well.. to learn about myself and what makes me tick.. and just to try to understand why the men in my life who i KNEW i shouldn't have gone for were the ones that attracted me the most and made me stick around, and how this knowledge can help me teach my guy friends how to be better with women)
And i'm telling you. women LOVE drama. The 4 day trip thing i mentioned up there. I've had that done to me several times. whether intentional or not (most likely not as that man went away very frequently on business trips).. but every time the man was gone i was sad and pissed at not having him around, and when he was back, i appreciated his company so much more. After several of those trips.. He left for another one, called me the first day.. said his phone is about to die and he forgot his charger... and on around middle of day 4 i realized that i loved him. and just missed him too much and wanted him back around here. It was simple.. and efficient. lol it was JUST enough drama for me to feel down for a couple days because i haven't heard from him.. but nothing to make it a PROBLEM.
Drama doesn't neccessarily = problem. you dont want a problem. you just want a twist in the plot, to make her wait for it to untwist itself back.
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There's nothing hurtful or evil about doing this. A woman is going to enjoy being with someone who can make them feel emotional states. Men who can't elicit emotions are boring and common.
Your post is a beautiful example as to why women should just stay the **** off this board.
edit: except thrud, because her posts don't sound like she's some fat ****block parroting the same social conditioning men have endured for years...
You're a moron. An emptional response is the key to any attraction. Emtional states are a tool, and careful manipulation of them is what makes a man a DJ.
There's nothing hurtful or evil about doing this. A woman is going to enjoy being with someone who can make them feel emotional states. Men who can't elicit emotions are boring and common.
Your post is a beautiful example as to why women should just stay the **** off this board.
edit: except thrud, because her posts don't sound like she's some fat ****block parroting the same social conditioning men have endured for years...
First of all...missing someone on a business trip that you're dating is NOT "drama". Each person spending some time doing their own thing is normal and healthy and a requirement in any good relationship. Most women use these normal situations to get their emotions out. If the guy is simply not being clingy and doing the things he should be doing to have a normal, healthy relationship then he does not need to try to put the woman into emotional upheaval because she does that to herself anyway IF that's something she needs to do.
My point is that if a man tries to bring additional drama into the equation it is TOO MUCH and a headache for him. Then he ends up coming back here and whining about how the girl is behaving so badly and asking for advice. Had he just not been too needy, showed her a good time when he was with her and went about his business he wouldn't have to worry about things so damn much.
Sometimes you guys make things so much more complicated than they have to be.
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Again...IF you are handling yourself correctly as a man then you do NOT need to resort to creating drama. You shouldn't even have to worry or think about that...IF you're doing things properly.
A man who is secure in who he is, maintains hobbies, is not too clingy or needy, is fun to spend time with and who understands the importance of not spending too much time with the woman he's involved with does NOT need to try to "elicit emotional responses". Most women do this to themselves if that is something they require. The proper balance happens NATURALLY if the man just acts like a freaking man and is not too clingy, needy and girly. If you have to go out of your way to CREATE drama then you are doing something WRONG and the balance will be all out of whack. That is the point I'm attempting to make here. Damn you guys insist on making things ten times harder than it has to be.
Again...IF you are handling yourself correctly as a man then you do NOT need to resort to creating drama. You shouldn't even have to worry or think about that...IF you're doing things properly.
No...it was a business trip...the guy's job. You just reacted to a very normal thing by working yourself up over it because you are a woman who likes drama. Not all women like emotional rollercoasters or drama. I'm one who dislikes that very much. It sucks the life right out of me and literally makes me feel ill. Had I been in your shoes and the guy had to go away on business trips for a few days I would welcome the time to myself and spend that time doing things I enjoy. I wouldn't have the time to miss him because I'd be having fun on my own.
well i guess this is where our situations differ. I work for a very busy promotion company, and i am still in school. i barely have time to think about anything else except myself. My social life is so deeply intervined with my work that i can't tell one from the other. He was the only thing in my life that was radically different than everything i could've done. we just.. chilled together. so.. chilling alone was lonely, and didn't happen. and hence i missed him, and missed just relaxing with him, and the stability and peace he brought to my life.
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this needs to be nominated for 'Most Ironic Statement of the Year'
Absolutely true. This is the crux of why women shouldn't be allowed to post on this board.
"Never listen to what a woman says, watch what she does"
Wyldfyre comes on here giving advice, but she's a woman. She doesn't even know what her "emotional" triggers are, but she's trying to tell us?
It's hilarious. She's trying to act like she's different from most women because she hangs out on a DJ board.
You're no different wyldfyre, you give crap advice because you're a woman, and you don't know what you want.
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