putting the moves on after you bring a girl back to your crib

[crackhead]

as bad as it sounds, I find that if I'm not drunk, I'm usually pretty uncomfortable in this situation

it's pretty silly, but anyone have some applicable tips for this situation, whether it's just things to keep in mind to have a positive attitude, or actual techniques?

thanks

 

[RKTek]

Most importantly, you should have something to DO, other than sexual maneuvers, at your place. You should have a VCR with movies, or a foosball game or a front porch swing, or a pool, or a game of Pictionary, or you like to cook and she likes it too, or you both work on your antique car.

The best evening is when you plan things ahead of time "How about we stop by BlockBuster to choose a video, then grab some burritos to go at Taco Bell, then head back to my place for supper and a movie?" is a start. So, you get a coffee table or similar to pull up in front of the TV while the two of you are side-by-side on your couch. You eat and watch the movie. Maybe after eating you're sitting together and she wants to hold your hand (it's really good if she makes the first move) and you respond. Then in a few minutes you put your arm around her and it goes from there.

The thing is, you should have some pretext for her going to your place. Of course, if the relationship is healthy, it'll end up with sex but any decent girl wants to feel like she's not just going to your place to get boinked.

So set up something to do, no matter how lame it is, and if she's into you, she'll show up. If she's also into you she'll help you get closer to her. Rule of thumb: If she's at your place and nothing happens, dump her because it shows she really did only want to eat and watch a movie. So relax. If it was meant to be, it'll be, if it doesn't work out, it's for a reason and you'll be better off. Either way...

 

[crackhead]

cool thanks, good stuff

I'm also referring to after you've been out already like after a movie or dinner "hey wanna come to my place"

but yeah, it's not rocket science, just sometimes i'm akward to make the first move and am waiting for some sign when I should be just smoothly workin' it

 

[htemorp]

That's absolutely. You must be doing something and have alternative motives...great advice.

 

[CGE333]

Years ago the line at Arizona State University was "hey do want to come over and see my fish tank?"

 

[violator]

My experience is that a woman who agrees to go back to your place after a date (especially at night) assumes that your are going to put the moves on her.

Once you get her to your place, don't just rush things because that will make her uncomfortable. Like RKTEK suggested, watch a movie or something and have her sit close to you. If both of you are attracted to each other, things will just happen naturally without even thinking.

This happened last week when a girl ended up at my place. We were just sitting and talking, when I went to kiss her and things just fell into place and we ended up having sex.

You just have to feel that vibe and you will be able to sense when she is ready. She will lean towards you and her body language will make it clear that she expects you to make a move. If your gut senses this, then go for it.

 

[crackhead]

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