Solomon79
Don Juan
At 29, I'm trying to be ruthless with myself about what is holding me back from achieving my potential with women, and I wondered what you guys thought. Perhaps you can identify with my situation. I know I need to break through some fears, or weaknesses, but first I need to identify them, then work out a practical means of how to get practice.
I am confident. Good career, quite good looking, good in conversation, and not too boring. I can and do attract good looking women. But it's not really happening for me at the moment, because I am just not spontaneous enough, I freeze when it comes to openers etc. I can't ice break. Being honest with myself, I've lost some of the art of small talk.
I think my problem is that I've become too laid back and too confident, if that makes sense. There are few women who I will bother with now, because I know what I like, but the flip side is, that means I get less practice in the game, so I am rustier. Bear in mind, I attract HBs of a very good calibre, and I don't want to aim lower. Again, lack of practice means I am not picking up the opportunities.
I know that I need to get some practice and overcome some fear barriers. But I'm struggling to identify the exact nature of those barriers and how I can break them down, without changing myself, as I am almost entirely happy with my personality as it is now. Yet, I accept I need to make changes.
Perhaps this is normal as you get older? It's like, you become naturally much more content in your own skin, and accept yourself. Even though, at the same time, you know you need to do things differently to get different results?
What do you think?
I am confident. Good career, quite good looking, good in conversation, and not too boring. I can and do attract good looking women. But it's not really happening for me at the moment, because I am just not spontaneous enough, I freeze when it comes to openers etc. I can't ice break. Being honest with myself, I've lost some of the art of small talk.
I think my problem is that I've become too laid back and too confident, if that makes sense. There are few women who I will bother with now, because I know what I like, but the flip side is, that means I get less practice in the game, so I am rustier. Bear in mind, I attract HBs of a very good calibre, and I don't want to aim lower. Again, lack of practice means I am not picking up the opportunities.
I know that I need to get some practice and overcome some fear barriers. But I'm struggling to identify the exact nature of those barriers and how I can break them down, without changing myself, as I am almost entirely happy with my personality as it is now. Yet, I accept I need to make changes.
Perhaps this is normal as you get older? It's like, you become naturally much more content in your own skin, and accept yourself. Even though, at the same time, you know you need to do things differently to get different results?
What do you think?