Pursuing Girls.

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Long story short, used to talk to this girl over a year and a half a go she wanted something serious and I didn't so we went our separate ways.

She's recently texted me to see how things are going. I took this as a invitation to invite her out for dinner. I got her out for dinner on a Friday night and then we hungout at my apartment. We had a good date and everything went well.

The question I have though is this girl besides reaching out to me for the 1st time in months rarely initiates with me and sometimes doesn't even text me back, actually quite often or takes forever to respond. When I call her though she always answers and is willing to talk.

Is this lack of interest in her part or am I over analyzing? I also went out on a date with a girl yesterday with similar texting habits as well. But when I call always answers and she even payed for the last date. I always thought a girls texting habits were a big clue to her IL. What gives?

 

[Brosy]

Sounds like the first girl was feeling lonely and went through her phone book for a bit of a validation/attention from someone she knew was interested in her.

I'd concentrate on the new one.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Yes but why would she be looking for validation/attention when I never gave her the chance to be my girlfriend in the 1st place?

 

[thunder_god]

You should have just went on the date and ****ed her and not worry about this stuff. At the very least go for a make out session with her. Let her deal with this bull****.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

rarely initiates with me and sometimes doesn't even text me back, actually quite often or takes forever to respond. When I call her though she always answers and is willing to talk.

If she always answers calls, then it sounds like she just doesn't check her phone much. I know a girl who's the same; even her best friend complains about it. It's like they lack that compulsion most of us have to answer a text when we see it. I guess they put it off until later and then forget.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Long story short, used to talk to this girl over a year and a half a go she wanted something serious and I didn't so we went our separate ways.

She's recently texted me to see how things are going. I took this as a invitation to invite her out for dinner. I got her out for dinner on a Friday night and then we hungout at my apartment. We had a good date and everything went well.

The question I have though is this girl besides reaching out to me for the 1st time in months rarely initiates with me and sometimes doesn't even text me back, actually quite often or takes forever to respond. When I call her though she always answers and is willing to talk.

Is this lack of interest in her part or am I over analyzing? I also went out on a date with a girl yesterday with similar texting habits as well. But when I call always answers and she even payed for the last date. I always thought a girls texting habits were a big clue to her IL. What gives?

Things always start off slow and spotty like this, at least with me they do. Early game on a girl like this is always about the quality of your communications.

-I'll text her to ask if it's ok to call her and chat.
I don't want a girl to get used to not taking my calls, or me looking desperate by calling her repeatedly.

-If I invite her out i'll ask when she's free first.
I like asking "lets do something Saturday?" like that it's about us and not the event. And since we both put the date together I know she's free for sure. If she flakes theirs no excuse, i'll just stop calling her.

These are two way to make sure your efforts are not wasted. After a couple times out and she's a bit more vested and knows were gonna have fun i'll relax with the lock down tactics because I won't have to make up for that initial low interest.

 

[TheWho]

Long story short, used to talk to this girl over a year and a half a go she wanted something serious and I didn't so we went our separate ways.

She's recently texted me to see how things are going. I took this as a invitation to invite her out for dinner. I got her out for dinner on a Friday night and then we hungout at my apartment. We had a good date and everything went well.

The question I have though is this girl besides reaching out to me for the 1st time in months rarely initiates with me and sometimes doesn't even text me back, actually quite often or takes forever to respond. When I call her though she always answers and is willing to talk.

Is this lack of interest in her part or am I over analyzing? I also went out on a date with a girl yesterday with similar texting habits as well. But when I call always answers and she even payed for the last date. I always thought a girls texting habits were a big clue to her IL. What gives?

She might be just busy, why don't you give it a shot?

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Well idk something just seems up to me.. maybe im over analyzing but idk I need to make up my mind quickly wether I want to pursue or not. I probably should concentrate more on girl #2.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

The above mentioned girl #1initiated contact with me last night while I was on a date with another girl. I didnt respond at all. Im kind of pissed off in all actuallity that the last time I invited her out she pretty much ignored me. So now shes textin me out of nowhere two weeks later? She's very good looking and I want to get her in bed but my pride doesnt want to text her back. What would yall do?

 

[AttackFormation]

The above mentioned girl #1initiated contact with me last night while I was on a date with another girl. I didnt respond at all. Im kind of pissed off in all actuallity that the last time I invited her out she pretty much ignored me. So now shes textin me out of nowhere two weeks later? She's very good looking and I want to get her in bed but my pride doesnt want to text her back. What would yall do?

I and I assume many others on this forum have been in roughly this situation. My advice? NC that wh0re. These girls are just trying to get you back into supplication of them. Nothing is scarier than being ignored to a woman with low self-esteem because she relies on male attention to validate herself. To her you're like a fuel hose with its own life, she gets concerned when you stop filling up her petrol tank and now she's walking over to see what the problem with the hose is. Remember that like a mouse trap, the odds of you falling for her game are significantly worse if there's no lure - that lure is you thinking there's a reward for castrating yourself by rewarding her sh!t behaviour. Don't fall for her game.

Ultimately, who do you want to be? the guy who rewards good behaviour and walks away from bad behaviour, or the fuel hose? it's tougher to choose the former when there aren't any other girls you're in contact with but you evidently are, so to me it would be a clear sign of weakness to choose the latter. She's good looking? good - that means you need to be stronger in order to walk away from her bad behaviour, it'd be easy if she were ugly.

However if the opportunity to f*ck her shows up, do it and then dump her after.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Bump.

 

[G_Govan]

You turning down her request for something serious was taken as a rejection. She's back to toy with you for egotistical reasons. She ignores you on purpose, don't believe any of this "busy" nonsense. Chicks keep tabs on their phones like nothing else in their lives.

Once you show initiative and she doesn't respond, the ball is in her court.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Thanks for the advice.