Punching above

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

You are a roaring rollicking success @Fruitbat and you have a beautiful sweet wife and a child (Hope y’all enjoyed a lovely Christmas).

People are stupid. They often say stupid things. I’d handle any sort of direct insult like this in a humorous cheeky way that puts such people in their place but with some levity so as not to grossly offend. I recall you were loyal to her despite all the Asian eye candy running around in the Far East when you went to visit her family. You behaved honorably. She noticed. Her folks noticed too. Honor as you well know is a big deal in Asian culture.

So if some ding a ling makes some idiotic comment about how you are punching above (keep in mind also that this is a way for men to tell you that they think your wife is hot and how did you pull her)…

Here’s your line, which you deliver with a grin…

“Well yes, I out-punted my coverage for sure. My delightful British wit got her in the door and my big d1ck sealed the deal. She can’t leave me alone boys. Life is good.”

And then you simply change the subject.

The way to deal with people like this is agree and magnify. Rub their faces in it. They won’t say that to you again.

And you simply continue to be your charming irascible self.

You are managing your life well. Get into better shape over time & keep up the good work.

Happy 2022 and Cheers

 

[Fruitbat]

Advice from the old lady:

You are a roaring rollicking success @Fruitbat and you have a beautiful sweet wife and a child (Hope y’all enjoyed a lovely Christmas).

People are stupid. They often say stupid things. I’d handle any sort of direct insult like this in a humorous cheeky way that puts such people in their place but with some levity so as not to grossly offend. I recall you were loyal to her despite all the Asian eye candy running around in the Far East when you went to visit her family. You behaved honorably. She noticed. Her folks noticed too. Honor as you well know is a big deal in Asian culture.

So if some ding a ling makes some idiotic comment about how you are punching above (keep in mind also that this is a way for men to tell you that they think your wife is hot and how did you pull her)…

Here’s your line, which you deliver with a grin…

“Well yes, I out-punted my coverage for sure. My delightful British wit got her in the door and my big d1ck sealed the deal. She can’t leave me alone boys. Life is good.”

And then you simply change the subject.

The way to deal with people like this is agree and magnify. Rub their faces in it. They won’t say that to you again.

And you simply continue to be your charming irascible self.

You are managing your life well. Get into better shape over time & keep up the good work.

Happy 2022 and Cheers

thanks, very kind comments but just FYI British charm and wit is just called “charm and wit” here.

we have sweets here called “American hard gums” (which ironically are soft). I presume these are just called “hard gums”

 

[BeExcellent]

thanks, very kind comments but just FYI British charm and wit is just called “charm and wit” here.

we have sweets here called “American hard gums” (which ironically are soft). I presume these are just called “hard gums”

Yes of course. The funny thing is that I have no idea what “hard gums” and “soft gums” are. I’d guess salt water taffy…or caramels.

Ok so ditch the British (Duh, lol) and insert charm & wit.

My step mother was English. She said (to my ear) the most colorful things

 

[Fruitbat]

Yes of course. The funny thing is that I have no idea what “hard gums” and “soft gums” are. I’d guess salt water taffy…or caramels.

Ok so ditch the British (Duh, lol) and insert charm & wit.

My step mother was English. She said (to my ear) the most colorful things

Apparently Google says they are just called good old plain “Gumdrops” in the USA.

as for Taffy, we just call them “chews”

 

[mrskinnypantz]

my wife always wants sex (we been married 3 years snd she has never turned me down) and she is always slopping wet.

sounds like you're punching below, not above.


all jokes aside, the bolded is a really good sign, ignore everybody else. they are probably mad they dont have a sexy wife, dont let them plant insecurities in your head.

is it the case we just don’t understand women? If I was her I would get some hot stud but she could have clearly got one.

it just depends on the woman and what she wants. in this case she seems to have matured early or just simply needs more than good looks
good looking is not enough anyway if you're socially inept, awkward, or too afraid to carry a conversation with a woman.

 

[Fruitbat]

So do I. I just have to have all my other traits dialed up to 11 to make up for what an ugly tall guy gets automatically. But we are analyzing OP's question, this thread is not about you.

I think you’re right to some extent, being tall has helped me. I had a GF when I was young and she was REALLY into height. She left me (6’2) for a guy who was 6’5’, so be aware, even being relatively tall there’s always someone taller.

this girl aside, I would say tall on its own needs to be combined with broad. I have a big old frame but being tall and thin like a gold club ain’t getting you far.

my best mate growing up was 5’9 but Italian looking and very facially attractive, almost model standard. I was a big six footing farm hand looking guy.

he absolutely beat the living crap out of me with every girl and I couldn’t get a look in. Being tall helps but being genuinely attractive beats All.

 

[Fruitbat]

You do something in your actions that makes her FEEL attracted. Consistently.

Could be her Love languages that you speak well...

Regardless of what your X-Factor is tyhat drives her attraction I will stand by the assertion that it is how she FEELS because of you that she is with you.

She said that her friends moan about their husbands being immature and that they see me as mature and balanced.
I think this is just because I’m a little older. I’m not particularly mature and have a childish sense of humour.
also, all our friends are white guy/Asian gal. Some of these are the stereotype (ie the guy prob was struggling with white girls)
I chose non white because nearly every girl I dated who was of my culture and similar age was cooked up on feminism and just ready to argue over everything and anything. The younger ones were just on the carousel.

One thing for sure, most of the guys are breaking their banks to buy these women stuff. I’ve never ever done this and spend next to nothing on stupid shyt she wants like bags etc but I do spend big on things she needs (education, driving lessons) and plus I save for our daughter.

I think she digs having someone level headed enough to do the right thing, not the flamboyant thing.