Genghis Juan
Senior Don Juan
I know alot of the masters here don't subscribe to the contraversial topic of "Confidence and Persistence"; where you have to play the role of the seducer for a girl who's intial interest is low to moderate.
However, I got this girl, HB9, on the "back burner" who is a very conservative girl. She is 26yo, doesn't like to drink, doesn't like bars & clubs, isn't "out there" and is definitely "marriage-minded".
She doesn't fit the profile of a professional dater either because she did pay for a dinner (for my b-day).
The conundrum is this: she got out of a serious LTR with someone she wanted to marry 10 mos. ago. I think it lasted about 2 to 3 years. She may need more time for her feelings to settle. I get mixed signals from her all the time:
2nd date, "Oh, this is going to work! I'm going to give Boston another chance!"
3rd date, "I wouldn't be on this date if I wasn't interested, but I want to take it slow. You'll have to beat up my old bf's....time will tell".
4th date, "I'm not LJBF'ing you. If you're not comfortable with this pace you can move on....You have so much to offer....I like your confidence....I could date once a week....I'm not playing games...I don't have time to date someone else like I'm dating you....My parents are wondering what the hold up is....Its just that I'm on the fence about staying in Boston or going back to KY...but I've felt this way for a few years...I don't want to get too involved, then decide to leave and you think I'm a *****."
We only date about once every 3 or 4 weeks, even though she recently said she could date once per week. Some of my boyz are telling me she's either playing games or just a major flake. My intuition is telling me she is a "good" girl who is probably still afraid to get involved again.
Blunder:
I accidentally called her at 8am one weekday morning from work! I use my new cell phone as a phone book there. When I look up a contact's number, sometimes I hit the stupid arrow key and the number scrolls up and I call the wrong person. I was calling another friend when all of a sudden a girl's voice answers, so I just hung up. I realized that it was this girl!! So I have layed low and haven't contacted her for a week and a half.
Anyways, I'm going to a business school social event tonight, and tomorrow I'm going to a speed dating thing in town to look up for some new prospects.
Any input into a strategy I should implement or similar experiences let me know. Next time I date her, I have to blitz her with the humor though to raise her IL. I've managed my emotions much better ever since I first met her. I definetly had 1-itis for a while, but know, thanks to this site, my game has come a loooong way.
Later.
However, I got this girl, HB9, on the "back burner" who is a very conservative girl. She is 26yo, doesn't like to drink, doesn't like bars & clubs, isn't "out there" and is definitely "marriage-minded".
She doesn't fit the profile of a professional dater either because she did pay for a dinner (for my b-day).
The conundrum is this: she got out of a serious LTR with someone she wanted to marry 10 mos. ago. I think it lasted about 2 to 3 years. She may need more time for her feelings to settle. I get mixed signals from her all the time:
2nd date, "Oh, this is going to work! I'm going to give Boston another chance!"
3rd date, "I wouldn't be on this date if I wasn't interested, but I want to take it slow. You'll have to beat up my old bf's....time will tell".
4th date, "I'm not LJBF'ing you. If you're not comfortable with this pace you can move on....You have so much to offer....I like your confidence....I could date once a week....I'm not playing games...I don't have time to date someone else like I'm dating you....My parents are wondering what the hold up is....Its just that I'm on the fence about staying in Boston or going back to KY...but I've felt this way for a few years...I don't want to get too involved, then decide to leave and you think I'm a *****."
We only date about once every 3 or 4 weeks, even though she recently said she could date once per week. Some of my boyz are telling me she's either playing games or just a major flake. My intuition is telling me she is a "good" girl who is probably still afraid to get involved again.
Blunder:
I accidentally called her at 8am one weekday morning from work! I use my new cell phone as a phone book there. When I look up a contact's number, sometimes I hit the stupid arrow key and the number scrolls up and I call the wrong person. I was calling another friend when all of a sudden a girl's voice answers, so I just hung up. I realized that it was this girl!! So I have layed low and haven't contacted her for a week and a half.
Anyways, I'm going to a business school social event tonight, and tomorrow I'm going to a speed dating thing in town to look up for some new prospects.
Any input into a strategy I should implement or similar experiences let me know. Next time I date her, I have to blitz her with the humor though to raise her IL. I've managed my emotions much better ever since I first met her. I definetly had 1-itis for a while, but know, thanks to this site, my game has come a loooong way.
Later.
, and this gesture may look too eager on your part.