public disrespect

[calvran]

Okay, so today I get to school, full of exciting tales of the weekend, and I walk up to one of my friends, start talking to him, and this girl I thought I was friends with jumps in, so I go to give her a hug.
She pulls away, and starts going off about how I seem too desperate, everybody still likes you but we all think you are too desperate (Nobody is saying anything, and they are all just looking at her) and then she starts telling me I'm trying too hard. I just look at her and say, "Ouch" and go back to talking to my friend.

Later, as I'm walking back from class, she says hi to me, I say hi back to her and don't stop.

At lunch, she comes up behind me and is like, "Hey." I say hey, and she stands there for a second and asks, "where's my hug?"
I start to hug her, then I stop myself and say, "No, it'd be too desperate of me." She tells me I'm evil or something and walks off.

What my question is, while on one hand I appreciate the feedback from a girl, there's still the matter of my pride, and I don't like people disrespecting me like that. I'd like to basically ignore her like I've been doing, and pretty much nonverbally (or verbally if I get the chance) tell her to fvck off, but I don't know if I'm letting my pride get too much in the way and shooting myself in the foot what with making friends with other people because of this. What would you guys do in this situation?

 

[THA REALNESS]

That's an L.

Next Her. B1tch is obviously crazy or on one of her ladies days.But whatever who cares ? Next.

 

[THA REALNESS]

BTW,Many girls do stupid sh1t like that.

That's why you shouldn't be freinds with them. You should tell her to fukk off if it really bothers you like that.


No ,your standing up for yourself and you shouldn't let it affect your judgement.You wouldn't take that crap from anyone else would you?

 

[Sammo]

First of all pride is of no use to you, get rid of it. It clouds your judgement, ijt makes you stop when you think you have won, it makes you give up when you think you have lost, what good is that to anyone?

Now you have lost your pride, what would be the logical thing to do? NEXT, dont make it apparent to her that it got to you, because it didnt. Talk to her as if you had no pride, dont give hugs though, give light kino so she remembers what your touch is like and then give your attention to others so its clear she's never going to get that touch back.

 

[THA REALNESS]

Originally posted by Sammo
First of all pride is of no use to you, get rid of it. It clouds your judgement, ijt makes you stop when you think you have won, it makes you give up when you think you have lost, what good is that to anyone?

Pride is what MAKES A MAN A MAN.

 

[THA REALNESS]

Originally posted by Sammo
Now you have lost your pride, what would be the logical thing to do? NEXT, dont make it apparent to her that it got to you, because it didnt. Talk to her as if you had no pride, dont give hugs though, give light kino so she remembers what your touch is like and then give your attention to others so its clear she's never going to get that touch back.

BLASPHEMY!!!

 

[Ace of Spades]

Let her go dude.

You don't need fake friends. It's only HS but it's still not worth being around people who like you when you're alone but not in public.

 

[McKindley]

its rude of her to say stuff like that in front of people. She should've told you that in private if she really meant it. And she might not have meant it. Just trying to get a rise out of you or something. Girls do that sometimes.

If it really bothers you, quit giving her hugs and when she asks you why you can launch into if you really want to. Or you can by coy and piss her off, which is fun too.

And this all goes to prove why I never initiate hugs with girls. it can (often does) come off as desperate. And yes, that is my pride speaking.

 

[SnatchJP]

PEOPLE! CALM DOWN!!!!!

PLEASE! yikes! You guys are acting like this girl slapped him silly and spat on him! She just pointed out a flaw in your gameplan. I know it hurts your pride, but deep down, all constructive criticism will hurt our pride a little. Just suck it up, learn from your mistakes and move on, a better DJ than you were before.

Personally, I think you've handled things fine thus far. I would definetly cut down on the hugging if you're getting public comments on it. But your teasing this girl ("No, that would be desperate of me") was right on the mark.

If you want to hone in on this girl you could try making a big deal out of hugging other girls while she's around and then doing what you did again. (Move to hug her then reconsider because "it's too desperate".) Just make sure she knows that you're teasing, and not being delibrattely mean. It might help you out.

 

[Sammo]

Originally posted by THA REALNESS



Pride is what MAKES A MAN A MAN.

Pride is what makes a man weak. Pride can be hurt by others and is affected by external factors. Now a real MAN as you put it, is in control of his own well being and he doesnt let others affect his 'mood'.

 

[drixsa]

sammo has got his head on straight.

i dont think i can sum it up better myself.

though itll be interesting to see where you stand in 5 years from now.

original poster- i just think the chick is weird. you give someone a hug and you are desperate>? WTF?

she is probably thinking of other incidents and just spit that out.

just another dumb chick.

i dunno if your interested in her, but you shouldnt be.

 

[MacdaddyJr]

Don't put up with that sh*t. Unless it's really the god awful truth and you need to fix it. It's not about pride, it's about respect.

 

[Porky]

"Where's my hug?"
"Where's MY blow job?"

HAHAHA. See, you give lots of hugs apparently, so she gives lots of *******s.

then again, maybe that wouldn't be somethin ggood to say.

edit: I just read it again, and it sounds to me like she was trying to make a bad joke (people just don't say that, and I doubt with 50-some posts here you'd be so desperate as to give every girl a hug...right? RIGHT?) and then tried to redeem herself later at lunch. there's a guy I know who gives every girl he sees a hug, and they can't stand how desperate he is. But, if one of them told him off, they wouldn't go up later and try to hug him.

Still though, ask her where your blow job is!

 

[Microphone Fiend]

yea she could have had the decency to pull him to the side, I think she was just asking for attention in front of everyone, and then she hugs you later on like nothing happened?

<sniff, sniff> I smell an attention *****

 

[SnatchJP]

You know some girls really don't think about taking guys to the side. It's not a personal insult, it's just oversight. If you have a real problem with it, talk to her in private about it. Otherwise, I say deal and play on!