Proof that high status ain't everything

[mrgoodstuff]

Some male models are "too fine", and a lot of the "hot" women won't deal with a man that makes them look worse in comparison, so your pool might be smaller than you think. It would be women who aren't at that pinnacle or older women who won't care and love to sugar momma you with love.

 

[Poon King]

When you say "Proof that high status ain't everything" in the OP you can easily replace "high status" with money, muscles, a big d!ck or just about anything else women are stereotypically attracted to.

There is no man on earth who is sexually attractive to 100% of women. And there never will be. Because women are hypergamous and primarily care about how a man fits into their goals at the moment. Those goals will vary from woman to woman. For some its having kids, for some its financial security, for some its safety, for some its amazing sex, and the list goes on.

This is why I have always told men not to worry about crafting themselves into what they believe women want. Instead, focus on having MAXIMUM control in your own life. This is the alpha mindset and it creates a natural level of confidence and inner peace that automatically attracts lots of women.

Here's a cool story. I recently met a HB6 who seemed interested in me. Generally I only deal with HB7's and above, but this girl seemed to fall into my lap so I figured why not? She was f*ckable enough. So I went for it. She delayed sex, which I assumed came from insecurity since I was better looking than her. Then she ultimately rejected me and told me she wants to be friends.

So now the question becomes this: Why is it so easy for me to f*ck HB8's with little effort.. yet I get rejected by this borderline average chick? The answer to the question is: WHO CARES? NEXT.

 

[guru1000]

OP, a fashion model is not the idealization of what most hot women crave. Looks play a huge role when accompanied by extreme masculinity. And giving a fvck in such a sensitive, delicate manner (as you do) in personal relations resonates more with an effeminate frame, rather than the masculine.

By the way you type, I had thought you were a woman until reading this thread. Here are a few examples:

She likes to touch me, she stares deeply into my eyes

I sincerely believe that she subconsciously only falls in love with men she can't have in order to avoid heartbreaks.

Although she thinks I'm handsome and we made out some time ago, she doesn't even want any casual, no-strings-attached relationship because she wants the 'one' *sigh*.

Masculine men don't type like this.

 

[Trump]

When you say "Proof that high status ain't everything" in the OP you can easily replace "high status" with money, muscles, a big d!ck or just about anything else women are stereotypically attracted to.

There is no man on earth who is sexually attractive to 100% of women. And there never will be. Because women are hypergamous and primarily care about how a man fits into their goals at the moment. Those goals will vary from woman to woman. For some its having kids, for some its financial security, for some its safety, for some its amazing sex, and the list goes on.

This is why I have always told men not to worry about crafting themselves into what they believe women want. Instead, focus on having MAXIMUM control in your own life. This is the alpha mindset and it creates a natural level of confidence and inner peace that automatically attracts lots of women.

Here's a cool story. I recently met a HB6 who seemed interested in me. Generally I only deal with HB7's and above, but this girl seemed to fall into my lap so I figured why not? She was f*ckable enough. So I went for it. She delayed sex, which I assumed came from insecurity since I was better looking than her. Then she ultimately rejected me and told me she wants to be friends.

So now the question becomes this: Why is it so easy for me to f*ck HB8's with little effort.. yet I get rejected by this borderline average chick? The answer to the question is: WHO CARES? NEXT.

Where the hell has this guy been? Good he is back.

 

[LiveYourDream]

@DiegoSantori, Some food for thought...

I get the impression that if you lost your good looks tomorrow, you wouldn't know who you are without them. I get the impression that you currently rely on the outer shell of your appearance, to define yourself, and what you feel you might be entitled to in the world, including attention from women.

I get the impression that what you experience, inside the shell is actually quite empty and even lonely at times, perhaps. That's a hard way to live, even with a good-looking exterior.

I get the sense you are not yet really sure who you are. Because of that, you also haven't yet been able to truly get to know yourself as a MAN. You have the exterior and the attachments (and perhaps even sex), but beyond that you seem quite detached from your masculinity, to me.

I am not writing this to single you out and shame you in any way. What I suggested may not even be true for you. Everyone has insecurities and opportunities to better themselves, myself included big time. I offer my perceptions to you as a reflection for you to ponder, if you choose.

TL;DR
I think you might be best served to take your focus off relating to yourself from your looks as well as taking a break from chasing women for a bit, and instead focus fully on developing and knowing who you are as a person, and as a MAN.

Women will come and go. Looks (and their marketability) will fade. You are the one constant in your whole life. Spend some time and energy focusing on you, and who you are on the inside, so when women disappoint and/or your clients aren't booking you some month, that you will remain as solid and centered as ever, because you know who you are, and who you are is greater than anything happening on the outside.

Some of my perceptions may be true or maybe none. I am not at all attached. I am offering a reflection, in case it offers you thoughts to ponder and the possibility of a deeper experience of knowing who you are, on the inside, and living your life from that place.

 

[ohrein]

When you say "Proof that high status ain't everything" in the OP you can easily replace "high status" with money, muscles, a big d!ck or just about anything else women are stereotypically attracted to.

There is no man on earth who is sexually attractive to 100% of women. And there never will be. Because women are hypergamous and primarily care about how a man fits into their goals at the moment. Those goals will vary from woman to woman. For some its having kids, for some its financial security, for some its safety, for some its amazing sex, and the list goes on.

This is why I have always told men not to worry about crafting themselves into what they believe women want. Instead, focus on having MAXIMUM control in your own life. This is the alpha mindset and it creates a natural level of confidence and inner peace that automatically attracts lots of women.

Here's a cool story. I recently met a HB6 who seemed interested in me. Generally I only deal with HB7's and above, but this girl seemed to fall into my lap so I figured why not? She was f*ckable enough. So I went for it. She delayed sex, which I assumed came from insecurity since I was better looking than her. Then she ultimately rejected me and told me she wants to be friends.

So now the question becomes this: Why is it so easy for me to f*ck HB8's with little effort.. yet I get rejected by this borderline average chick? The answer to the question is: WHO CARES? NEXT.

Best reply in the thread.

 

[Desdinova]

She likes to touch me, she stares deeply into my eyes when we're talking but she is in love with a guy who doesn't want her

High score theory. He got to the top of her list, and he shall remain there for the rest of her life. Women who have unattainable men at the top of the high score list are permanently damaged goods. At age 30, she's going to have a lot of men on her list. You are sitting at the very bottom. You're just there for entertainment while she fantasizes about the guy at the top.

 

[bigneil]

It's good to be handsome, but how is being a male model (i.e., a man who is highly suspected of being gay or bisexual) high status? Unless you are famous and/or making $120K+ it's not high status to a woman.

Women want male models the way men want rich women.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It's good to be handsome, but how is being a male model (i.e., a man who is highly suspected of being gay or bisexual) high status? Unless you are famous and/or making $120K+ it's not high status to a woman.

Women want male models the way men want rich women.

Speak for yourself bigneil, some of us would like rich but generous and reasonably attractive women. It's so sexy when a lady goes into her pocket for us.

 

[bigneil]

Speak for yourself bigneil, some of us would like rich but generous and reasonably attractive women. It's so sexy when a lady goes into her pocket for us.

And some of us have rare, peculiar tastes that go against the historical norm of the Resources for Eggs trade industry called Mating.

When will people realize that individual examples do not form or disprove a trend?

 

[zekko]

Speak for yourself bigneil, some of us would like rich but generous and reasonably attractive women. It's so sexy when a lady goes into her pocket for us.

I appreciate a woman spending money on me, but it's not a turn on. I mean there's nothing wrong with it, but it doesn't ignite that primal area in your brain the way a woman's appearance, breasts, and hip to waist ratio do.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I appreciate a woman spending money on me, but it's not a turn on. I mean there's nothing wrong with it, but it doesn't ignite that primal area in your brain the way a woman's appearance, breasts, and hip to waist ratio do.

Makes my mouth water, cause I take care of everyone around me. So the thoughtfulness is sexy. But yeah, I still see the raw meat like the rest of you.

The world lets them go out an hunt now and bring meat and resources home. You should be excited that she wants to share that with you.

 

[zekko]

The world lets them go out an hunt now and bring meat and resources home. You should be excited that she wants to share that with you.

Like I said, I enjoy it and appreciate it. It's just not a sexual thing.

Now not everything needs to be a sexual thing, but a lot of the focus here is on being sexually appealing, about what each of the genders find sexually attractive.

 

[bigneil]

Makes my mouth water, cause I take care of everyone around me. So the thoughtfulness is sexy.

WINNER! Greatest Contradiction of 2016.

Men who "take care of everyone" aren't getting a boner when someone pays their fair share.

Did mrsgoodstuff hijack your account maybe? She thinks taking boy toy to Applebee's turns him on? No, he's 18. He's automatically turned on.

The world lets them go out an hunt now and bring meat and resources home. You should be excited that she wants to share that with you.

God, I'm tired of women who pose as men holding the opinions women pretend men hold.

 

[bigneil]

The world lets them go out an hunt now and bring meat and resources home. You should be excited that she wants to share that with you.

She brings meat home from work alright. 51% of spouses who cheat do so with men they meet at work.

Funny how a "man who takes care of everyone" is sending his women out to bring home the bacon. I guess by "taking care of everyone" he means that he irons her shirts and puts dry dog food in the bowl between soaps?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She brings meat home from work alright. 51% of spouses who cheat do so with men they meet at work.

Funny how a "man who takes care of everyone" is sending his women out to bring home the bacon. I guess by "taking care of everyone" he means that he irons her shirts and puts dry dog food in the bowl between soaps?

I make enough money to bring it all home, but if the woman wants to go out and conquer I'm going to enjoy the spoils of her labor.

 

[zekko]

She thinks taking boy toy to Applebee's turns him on? No, he's 18. He's automatically turned on.

Lol, so true. Sometimes I miss the wild hormones I had at that age, but it's nice to be able to think clearly too.

 

[BeExcellent]

@DiegoSantori its more complex than what you are. As @Poon King said, no man is going to appeal to 100% of women. It's just a fact. Before I dated my ex husband I dated a male model. He was honestly one of the loneliest and most neurotic people I ever met, which stunned me as I got to know him given his looks and success (he to routinely went to Milan, he did fragrance print, the Harold's catalog among others, runway during Fashion Week, his portfolio was impressive). I could write you a cautionary tale essay based on what happened to him (he is dead now), but I won't. Your looks are not going to last forever. Work on who you are on the inside so that is solid once the looks inevitably fade. Start your own book, become an agent, assist others, encourage and be kind. Kindness counts to the people who are the product in such a cutthroat industry.

As for your girl you like, some women are not going to date someone younger (I won't except under the most exceptional of circumstances that involve intellect, wisdom, education and experience - notice that looks and physical traits do not make my list), perhaps you too want what you cannot have. It is a human tendency.

Instead look around you and select from the women who do show you interest. Look for kindness and authenticity, for someone who appreciates you the man not you the model. That is the pool to draw from, and surely there are some worthwhile women in that group. I'm pretty awesome too, but I'm not everyone's cup of tea, nobody is. Big fat hairy deal. You just have to take it for what it is and drive on.

 

[DiegoSantori]

Thank you for your responses! I've read all of them and some replies were really eye-opening. I've been thinking about the reason why I care so much about this chick. As a matter of fact, I've wasted a lot of time & energy with her and I don't want this to happen again in my life, so I've been searching for the real reason why I became so infatuated with her and I guess, I found it. I recently read a theory which fits in with my experience. It's all about "Out of sight, out of mind":

1. Initially, you may think that you yearn for one individual girl. It is easy to believe this because you constantly think about the one individual girl. Maybe you are even around other girls and they express an interest in you, but this one girl blots out all the others.
   
   
2. If however, you're away from this girl long enough, as in, you never see her, you may start tentatively fixated on other women; suddenly, they become the focus of your obsession.
   
   
3. If one of the girls in 2. disappoints you, you will then default to the girl in 1., unless you already have met another girl in the 2. category.
   
   
4. If you give up on 1., the psychic parasite that lives inside you that creates the oneitis will flail around and attach itself to random women that cause reasonable romantic hopes in you. It is at this point that you may finally smell the rat and realize that the whole thing has been an illusion all along. How can you have a one true love if it keeps changing?
   
   
5. Awareness of the trap will not necessarily prevent you from falling back into it, however, each time it happens, you should become more mindful of what is going on.
   
   
6. Being in actual healthy relationship where you actually like your partner, instead of merely tolerate them, will go along way towards healing you of this condition. Young men are especially prone to oneitis because odds are, they've never known a good woman in the biblical sense. If you've never experienced the reality, you can be overpowered by the dream.
   
   
7. You also learn that since the dream can be more powerful than the reality, your own mind and it's ability to distort things of better or for worse, is a very powerful thing.
   

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

First and foremost, I don't care if you believe me or not, but I'm working part-time as a male fashion model and the money's fine. Lying to you wouldn't even make sense in this case. It would be a waste of time.

I'm 25 and there is this chick who's 5 years older than me. She knows about my job, she knows that I fly to Milano, Italy on a regular basis for professional reasons, she knows that my financial situation is healthy and she knows that brands sponsor me on Instagram.

No offense dude, but you're not high status. You're "hot" and you make decent money, but you don't fly to Milano back and forth on your own dime. If you were ten years older, had made several million through your business acumen, flew to Milano on your own personal jet, AND had decent amount of game, then you COULD consider yourself high status.