Prom 2025

[Sebastian2005]

Hey Guys,

I was texting with a girl for a while, and now she sent me weird messages like: "Why are girls not chasing you? You look like a greek God"

That's what she said when she asked about photos of my body and when I sent them to her.

Now turned out she just wanted to have somebody to talk to in a spare time and it was me.

Before that I asked her to go bowling as a date and she is even interested but after that I feel like she just wants to be my "friend" and that's it which is unacceptable for me.

But on the other hand, I have a prom coming on 1st March and I thought about going with a nice girl that will be my girlfriend.

So question: Should I go alone without this chick or go with her?

It's a really hard decision for me.

And I would have to keep in touch with her for 3 months, knowing I would not have any future plans with her.

I have classmates who have thinner necks than my wrist and they have gf while I don't so not sure if I should treat going to prom alone as a loss.

Any help?

 

[GoodMan32]

I'd recommend not going to prom at all.

I never went to prom. By the time you're 33 (like me), whether you attended prom or not is irrelevant.

 

[BPH]

I was texting with a girl for a while, and now she sent me weird messages like: "Why are girls not chasing you? You look like a greek God"

That's what she said when she asked about photos of my body and when I sent them to her.

Uhh...why are you sending girls pictures of your body?

Before that I asked her to go bowling as a date and she is even interested but after that I feel like she just wants to be my "friend" and that's it which is unacceptable for me.

So you FEEL like she just wants to be your friend, but you sound like you don't KNOW for sure. Know an easy way to figure that out? Maybe find your balls and kiss her. If she rejects that, you know where you stand.

To answer your question...

Personally, I wouldn't go to prom with a girl unless I were either A. actively f***ing/dating her or B. wanted to actively f***/date her. There are expectations that your girl would want you to meet for that night - both in terms of money and time spent - so I wouldn't waste those things on somebody who might treat me as a friend. If I were you I would confirm how this girl feels about me, ideally by going on a date where you actually kiss this chick. Then either ask her to prom if it goes well or ask somebody else if it doesn't.

I myself never went to prom; I went to a really ghetto high school and the only girls I was interested in were in long-term relationships. I had a couple girls ask me, but I decided to save my time and money.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Girls at prom aren't always 100% connected with their date. Girls are looking for guys during the prom and you are not the only one there who will be without a date. Also, guys take girls away from other guys at prom all the time. It's her time to be loose and thus your time to take advantage of that. Use that time for prime flirting and potential f*cking in the car or in the janitor's closet.

 

[SW15]

I have a prom coming on 1st March and I thought about going with a nice girl that will be my girlfriend.

Your school does prom abnormally early. Most schools have prom in either April or May. Even if your prom is March 1, December is a little early to be thinking about it. Right now, not having a girlfriend in December is putting you slightly behind in terms of having a girlfriend by the time prom rolls around.

I wouldn't go to prom with a girl unless I were either A. actively f***ing/dating her or B. wanted to actively f***/date her. There are expectations that your girl would want you to meet for that night - both in terms of money and time spent - so I wouldn't waste those things on somebody who might treat me as a friend.

I agree. There is no reason to go to prom if you're not going with an established girlfriend. A big part of prom is having sex after prom.

I'd recommend not going to prom at all.

I never went to prom. By the time you're 33 (like me), whether you attended prom or not is irrelevant.

After high school, almost no one knows if you went to prom and almost no one cares.

For those who go to college after high school, it's quite common to start interacting with new people in college. US students who go to in-state colleges tend to see more people from their high schools, but most in-state colleges are large enough that your former high school classmates can be avoided.

If a college-bound US high school student wants to avoid their high school classmates in college, they can choose one of the following two types of colleges.

• An out-of-state public university
• Some private college/university

Trade schools can also be a good way to avoid former high school classmates. Working in the trades is also better than doing bullshiit white collar work after a bachelor's degree as well.

Most of the time, no one will care about prom attendance after high school. The subject of one's prom rarely comes up in conversations after high school and it's even more rare for it to ever be discussed after ages 22-23 (typical graduation age from a 4 year bachelor's degree program). I can't remember the last time prom was a conversation in a social setting for me. It has to be multiple years.

Future dates typically won't ask about it until long into a relationship, long after most men have had sex with the woman.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Bro, March 1st feels so far away, I don’t even know what I’m getting my family for Christmas.

Is this the same girl from the other thread? It might help if you share your goals—whether it's improving your game, getting laid, gaining clout, etc. Also, what are your stats? Do you hit the gym?

One thing I can tell you is that you're coming across as too relationship-focused, which can turn women off. It gives off a more feminine energy. You might want to read up on masculine and feminine energies to better understand the dynamics.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Depends:

Are you planning on going to university/joining the military or staying in your hometown?

If the first option, you are too late in HS to be worried about finding a gf for prom. Focus on your exit plan out of high school and only spin plates with girls that show you high IOIs only.

If the second option, go to prom/continue putting yourself out there to build that social network that you will need to hold strong until your late twenties especially if you live in a smaller city.

 

[SW15]

Are you planning on going to university/joining the military or staying in your hometown?

I'm glad that you asked @Sebastian2005 that question. It would have some impact on the present situation.

If the first option, you are too late in HS to be worried about finding a gf for prom. Focus on your exit plan out of high school and only spin plates with girls that show you high IOIs only.

If @Sebastian2005 is a high school senior right now with no girlfriend, then I think you're correct right now that he needs to be building for the future. I don't think he can accomplish much in his next 5-6 months of high school.

If he's going to college, he's probably deep into evaluating colleges and making a college decision. It'd be a good idea to set himself up for sexual success. This forum has 2 good threads about college sex life.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

The college hype is unreal, true players get how overrated it is.

Looking back at it, I am amazed at how big the hype around college truly was. Maybe my boy @CornbreadFed and @SW15 could speak on this but I speak with so many guys who seem to have peaked in college and don't realize how beautiful life can get after it. FWIW, I was in a fraternity in college, a...

www.sosuave.net

If he's not going to go to a 4 year college/university and instead he's going to go straight to work, go into the military, or go to trade school, then it's a bit of a different path. Sexual success on those paths looks a little bit different.

Many big American cities are filled with adult transplants from smaller towns/new college graduates. Dallas and Houston are great examples of this. Many young adults in their 20s/early 30s migrate to Dallas, Houston, etc. with no previous connections to those cities. They are in X big city for its job market and social scene. In terms of the social scene, these are the guys who look for pussie on swipe apps, go to nightlife venues, and occasionally do non-bar approaching.

It's a very tough path to show in a big USA city and rely upon swipe apps and approaching strangers to get sex and/or get consistent sex from a longer term committed relationship. Most guys who do that are small fishes in a big ocean. They don't stand out in any way and they are struggling to get laid.

If the second option, go to prom/continue putting yourself out there to build that social network that you will need to hold strong until your late twenties especially if you live in a smaller city.

There's a path to sexual success this way. I've seen guys who were raised in the same area K-12 stay in that area as adults and get laid on the strength of their social circles in smaller towns/smaller metropolitan areas. This is something I've tended to see more from guys who live in areas with under 500,000 in population. At most, these guys go away to a regional college/university within a few hours of the hometown where they were for the entirety of their childhood.

A lot of married guys follow this path. If a man has a social circle in his hometown from his K-12 years, he can ride that to a few LTRs in a marriage in his hometown without ever having to uproot to a huge city like Dallas, Atlanta, Houston, etc.

The guys who uproot to big USA metro areas like the ones I have mentioned are the guys with limited social circles in their hometowns and have no desire to remain in their childhood hometown, the rootless guys who relocated a bunch before age 18 with a parent/parents and have no hometown/no real social circle anywhere, and the most career motivated guys.

 

[Travel memoir21]

My advice, just pick any decent, sweet girl and take her out to prom and have a blast.


Your young, you’ve got a future ahead of you. Enjoy your youth, but responsibly, figure out who you are and your values and highest ideals in life….life is precious, don’t waste it on partying, drugs and hobag women…thats a recipe for degradation.

……By the way, has anyone seen this movie? There was a dancing scene with prom involve lol

 

[New_Journey]

I was texting with a girl for a while

Why?

and now she sent me weird messages like: "Why are girls not chasing you? You look like a greek God"

Translation: I was hot for you, but you didn't escalate, now I'm losing attraction for you, let me throw you a nice $hit test and when you fail, I won't like you no more.

Now turned out she just wanted to have somebody to talk to in a spare time and it was me

Wrong, she wanted to get fvcked in the a$$ by you, but you didn't escalate and behaved as a gay friend, therefore that's how she's treating you.

Before that I asked her to go bowling as a date and she is even interested but after that I feel like she just wants to be my "friend"

She lost attraction for you, you didn't risk rejection by escalating sexually.

But on the other hand, I have a prom coming on 1st March and I thought about going with a nice girl that will be my girlfriend

This right here is your problem. Why do you want a gf?

So question: Should I go alone without this chick or go with her?

Buddy, she's not gonna go with you, you didn't escalate, in her mind you're a guy with no confidence.

So question: Should I go alone without this chick or go with her?

It's a really hard decision for me.

Are you looking for a father figure to make the choice for you? Cause I doubt you want a bunch of stranger that you don't know make that decision for you.

And I would have to keep in touch with her for 3 months

So you are gonna be entertaining a girl for 3 months with the hopes that she goes to prom with you? Why? Cause you don't have any other option, that's another of your problems, focus on fixing THAT.

I have classmates who have thinner necks than my wrist

He is probably more masculine that you, goes after what he wants and is not scared of rejection from a girl.

they have gf while I don't so not sure if I should treat going to prom alone as a loss.

So you want validation from other people that you have a gf, the validation high that you'll be experiencing from people looking at you like "Hey look, he's got a gf, wow, and look how hot she is.." That's just stories in your mind.

In your mind not having a gf and not going to prom with her counts a loss. Stop chasing validation from other people. You're young, I fvcking wish somebody would have told me this when I was 19.

 

[Sebastian2005]

Why?



Translation: I was hot for you, but you didn't escalate, now I'm losing attraction for you, let me throw you a nice $hit test and when you fail, I won't like you no more.



Wrong, she wanted to get fvcked in the a$$ by you, but you didn't escalate and behaved as a gay friend, therefore that's how she's treating you.



She lost attraction for you, you didn't risk rejection by escalating sexually.



This right here is your problem. Why do you want a gf?



Buddy, she's not gonna go with you, you didn't escalate, in her mind you're a guy with no confidence.


Are you looking for a father figure to make the choice for you? Cause I doubt you want a bunch of stranger that you don't know make that decision for you.


So you are gonna be entertaining a girl for 3 months with the hopes that she goes to prom with you? Why? Cause you don't have any other option, that's another of your problems, focus on fixing THAT.


He is probably more masculine that you, goes after what he wants and is not scared of rejection from a girl.



So you want validation from other people that you have a gf, the validation high that you'll be experiencing from people looking at you like "Hey look, he's got a gf, wow, and look how hot she is.." That's just stories in your mind.

In your mind not having a gf and not going to prom with her counts a loss. Stop chasing validation from other people. You're young, I fvcking wish somebody would have told me this when I was 19.

All of that what you wrote makes sense but you mentioned she lost attraction to me because I was not going after. Actually I wanted to meet with her on 2nd day we were texting since I knew there is nothing to wait for.

 

[Sebastian2005]

All of that what you wrote makes sense but you mentioned she lost attraction to me because I was not going after. Actually I wanted to meet with her on 2nd day we were texting since I knew there is nothing to wait for.

And I mean it was Sunday and I said to meet on Friday. She agreed and then we had nice convo for 5 days. Then something came up from her side and now we’re here

 

[Sebastian2005]

I'm glad that you asked @Sebastian2005 that question. It would have some impact on the present situation.



If @Sebastian2005 is a high school senior right now with no girlfriend, then I think you're correct right now that he needs to be building for the future. I don't think he can accomplish much in his next 5-6 months of high school.

If he's going to college, he's probably deep into evaluating colleges and making a college decision. It'd be a good idea to set himself up for sexual success. This forum has 2 good threads about college sex life.

Observations about college sex life from someone that went to a party school.

I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...

www.sosuave.net

The college hype is unreal, true players get how overrated it is.

Looking back at it, I am amazed at how big the hype around college truly was. Maybe my boy @CornbreadFed and @SW15 could speak on this but I speak with so many guys who seem to have peaked in college and don't realize how beautiful life can get after it. FWIW, I was in a fraternity in college, a...

www.sosuave.net

If he's not going to go to a 4 year college/university and instead he's going to go straight to work, go into the military, or go to trade school, then it's a bit of a different path. Sexual success on those paths looks a little bit different.

Many big American cities are filled with adult transplants from smaller towns/new college graduates. Dallas and Houston are great examples of this. Many young adults in their 20s/early 30s migrate to Dallas, Houston, etc. with no previous connections to those cities. They are in X big city for its job market and social scene. In terms of the social scene, these are the guys who look for pussie on swipe apps, go to nightlife venues, and occasionally do non-bar approaching.

It's a very tough path to show in a big USA city and rely upon swipe apps and approaching strangers to get sex and/or get consistent sex from a longer term committed relationship. Most guys who do that are small fishes in a big ocean. They don't stand out in any way and they are struggling to get laid.



There's a path to sexual success this way. I've seen guys who were raised in the same area K-12 stay in that area as adults and get laid on the strength of their social circles in smaller towns/smaller metropolitan areas. This is something I've tended to see more from guys who live in areas with under 500,000 in population. At most, these guys go away to a regional college/university within a few hours of the hometown where they were for the entirety of their childhood.

A lot of married guys follow this path. If a man has a social circle in his hometown from his K-12 years, he can ride that to a few LTRs in a marriage in his hometown without ever having to uproot to a huge city like Dallas, Atlanta, Houston, etc.

The guys who uproot to big USA metro areas like the ones I have mentioned are the guys with limited social circles in their hometowns and have no desire to remain in their childhood hometown, the rootless guys who relocated a bunch before age 18 with a parent/parents and have no hometown/no real social circle anywhere, and the most career motivated guys.

Actually I’m not USA - I’m from Poland. And not planning to go to uni and waste my life. Already making money online from my business. So you saying to not focus now on serious relationship?

 

[CornbreadFed]

OP, a prom story was what brought me to the internet for dating advice because I did not have any available. Similar story, girl seems interested in me by inviting me to stuff/bugging me, my novice self-screws up by over-analyzing instead of making a move/just being a newb to dating in general. I end up not going to prom because she ends going with some foreign exchange edgy German guy. I don't end up going to Prom, but I end up taking her out in college later which ends in disaster. Further down the road, we are at a party and she tries to **** block me from banging 2 hot women and I manage to get her to pvss off. I do not hear much from her, but she does ironically live in the same city I do and I saw her last year at a bar.... She ballooned . My advice, ask her to prom and only go if you get a confident yes. Do not tolerate any wishy washy flakey BS.

 

[SW15]

Actually I’m not USA - I’m from Poland.

Very nice!

And not planning to go to uni and waste my life.

I think you're also making the correct decision with that. Attending university for a 4 year bachelor's degree causes a lot of problems.

Start working after high school or get certified in a trade via trade school. University is a waste of effort. The white collar career path after university has a lot of downsides and is far less stable than it once was.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Actually I’m not USA - I’m from Poland. And not planning to go to uni and waste my life. Already making money online from my business. So you saying to not focus now on serious relationship?

I was just in Poland haha. If this is your decision, then you should focus on developing your social circle and be a yes man to any social opportunity. Put yourself out there.

 

[Agamemnon43]

He got so much practical advices that he doesn't need in the first place. He's not even from the US, it generally doesn't apply to him.

Listen, you are young. Girls talk a lot and they don't know what they're talking about. They will give you so many opportunities for flirting and what we call "push-pull", which can work so well for you. You can distance yourself from the pack of other boys your age so easily with a little confidence- they are dumb as well. Don't worry too much about what you're gonna say to girls. Say crazy and dumb things and whatever comes to your imagination. Now, you made the first mistake when you sent her photos of your body when a better response would be "You can see my body- only in person haha". Tease them. Throw in some attention, then pull yourself back while she adores you with her attention. See where it leads- it will lead to somewhere. I know girls in Poland are not "whuores" like in the US, but with so many beautiful women on offer, you should absolutely find something and it's worth trying.
You will get opportunities like this alot. Don't take anything too seriously- just throw crazy ideas out there to girls and see what happens. Be communicative and put yourself out there in society. Girls your age don't have any high standards as long as you look good.
Prom is far away- enjoy your time and focus on today and tonight.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This question stems from the lack of options.

Get more options, that's my advice.

No man who has options is going to be worrying about something 4 months in advance with a random chick he never met.

 

[CornbreadFed]

This question stems from the lack of options.

Get more options, that's my advice.

No man who has options is going to be worrying about something 4 months in advance with a random chick he never met.

Scarcity Mindset is the malaria killer for men in dating.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Scarcity Mindset is the malaria killer for men in dating.

100% brother.