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problems with my girlfriend

quest

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ok, now i think that things are **** hot, but i want to know what u guys think.


been seeing her for prob 3 months, going out for 1 month

my mate seeing her mate, says "she still loves her ex, and is going away to stay with his friends to make him jealous"

i go to her house for dinner (her mum invited me the day before to do her sisters homework.. lol) she wasnt home till later.

she came home, had dinner, small talk with her folks. went to her room and said something i forget, but i had the chance to say, i want to talk to you about something. then i told her about what he said.. then her ex rang.

she handed me a note which she had in her pocket. while talking to her ex. (day before i said to her that 'blah blah blah, her body language made it seem like she wasn't so keen, blah blah blah') so her note says, "i do care about you and sorry i'd been acting strange. you're the first person that has stopped me thinking about my ex, and i never thought i could find someone i can be this honest with. (she's told me some big ****) i honestly do love you and i wouldnt care if you were the last guy i kissed for the rest of my life"

this note ment alot because she had written it before i asked her about the thing my mate said.


then she wrote me another letter while talking to her ex i don't remember what she said. but we passed it back and fourth quite a few times.

after the call, she showed me her diary which she writes in not very often. but there were about 5 entries in there.. 3 or 4 all about me + scribbles of I LOVE *quest* etc. there was one from before we were going out where she was praying to god that i'd ask her out.

i asked her out when she was on the way to see her ex (5 hours away), we were talking on the phone and she was like "u never send a cute sms to me" so i wrote some **** asking her out, she said yes.

now i always feared that she had hooked up with her ex up there, never really bought it up. in her diary it said he tried to but i'd asked her out and she couldnt.

so anyway.. i'm thinking she is really interested in me, although for the last 2 weeks i've felt as though she isnt. i think its me being insecure because she's my first real girlfriend.


but back to the "staying with her ex's friends" she wants to get a job, which is seasonal, which is about 4 hours drive from where we are now. and if she gets it she'll stay with his friends for the 4 -6 months the job lasts.
she says she'll stay if i'd dump her if she left, i've said previously i wouldn't but now i'm concerned..

advice.. please!
 

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man, just ask her. dont sit around with the headache of wondering if she is or isnt, just ask. she says she digs you, but you arent sure, right? well only one way to find out. if she says yes to you, good, there are jobs locally i bet. if not, then save the heartache and ditch her now
 

quest

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yeah she has a local job..
this'd be better money. its more the location though. holiday joint.
she says she loves me, and yeah the note and all makes it seem like she really 'digs me'..
i'm sure she does.. but how can i not be insecure about my girlfriend away for like 4-6 months? i'm trying...
 

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man i feel you, just tell her you cant stand the thought of being away from her for that long and you rather her stay local. maybe even find her a good job or tell her to stay with the one she has. but id say dont let her go, especially with her exs friends, and therefore her ex likely as well
 

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The only way to really tell if she has the "high interest" that she claims is through her actions. Does she initiate the first touching or kissing, at least a few times here and there? does she ring you? does she ask you to come over, or do you ask to come over? If her interest IS high, then she will be the aggressor, if not, start being a challenge, only kiss her for a few seconds, then back away, always do "take aways" and see what happens!
 

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yeah, well as i said, from her diary and her letter and the way she talks her IL is very high, she's said i love u..
but her actions lately had been making me think she didn't like me, making me very insecure.
i felt her leg in the morning.. (through pajama's) and i'm like whats that? felt diff to normal leg.. she's like, i think its xma (spelling, i donno..) then she called tonight and said, she has to go to doctors cause there is rash up in her *uhm uhm* been there for a few days.. which is probably why she hasnt felt especially sexy..

IL is there, but i don't want her to go to away, and i don't want to hold her back... i want to trust her enough to let her go.. but she might not even get the job.. i'll let u know how she goes with the interveiw.
 
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