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Hi fellas, would love your opinion on this issue. There’s a girl at my job I don’t work with (and whom I never spoken to for that matter) that seems to behave odd around me. Firstly, I would usually ignore such behavior since we’re not on the same shift, but every since my first week she’s been staying over on my team’s shift so I began taking notice of these actions and the frequency in which they occur. For instance, whenever we happen to pass each other or make eye contact she gets a deer in the headlights look. Secondly, she tends to randomly show up at the section of the warehouse I’m at especially when I’m away from my coworker buddies — once she randomly showed up and shortly after I decided to move to test what she’ll do and seconds later she came to the area I relocated to. She also often looks shook (like a deer in the headlights) when we make eye contact. Lastly, I noticed whenever she’s having a conversation with someone at the job (specifically males) they’ll both oddly stare at me. For example, I once was making my way up an area w/ my head down and when I looked up her and another coworker (male) were just staring at me. Any clues what could be her problem? As I said, I haven’t had any interaction w/ this girl so unsure what the deal is …
 

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one of 2 or she is spying or she likes you, ignore and stay working, if you have any happy hour you will know more, for now just ignore
 

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How are everybody else acting around you? If other girls (and possibly guys) have been cold/short/ignoring you lately, then I’d be concerned she’s spreading some negative gossip about you.

If everybody else is generally acting normal to you, then I wouldn’t worry about it.
 

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I notice some women form alliances/cliques with other coworkers and try to convince them that they either like or dislike someone else on the job.

It’s petty and child-like. I haven’t seen this behavior since high school, and it’s absurd for adults to behave this way when there is work to be done.

It’s amazing how they’re able to make it through life guided by emotion, rather than logic.

I would ignore her the best you can. My mistake was reaching out and trying to be friendly and professional with everyone.

Unfortunately, I don’t think the hen-brain is satisfied with workplace harmony/simple logic.
 

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Ignore her.
 

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I notice some women form alliances/cliques with other coworkers and try to convince them that they either like or dislike someone else on the job.

It’s petty and child-like. I haven’t seen this behavior since high school, and it’s absurd for adults to behave this way when there is work to be done.

It’s amazing how they’re able to make it through life guided by emotion, rather than logic.

I would ignore her the best you can. My mistake was reaching out and trying to be friendly and professional with everyone.

Unfortunately, I don’t think the hen-brain is satisfied with workplace harmony/simple logic.
You said it better than I could. This is exactly what I had in mind.
 

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Hi fellas, would love your opinion on this issue. There’s a girl at my job I don’t work with (and whom I never spoken to for that matter) that seems to behave odd around me. Firstly, I would usually ignore such behavior since we’re not on the same shift, but every since my first week she’s been staying over on my team’s shift so I began taking notice of these actions and the frequency in which they occur. For instance, whenever we happen to pass each other or make eye contact she gets a deer in the headlights look. Secondly, she tends to randomly show up at the section of the warehouse I’m at especially when I’m away from my coworker buddies — once she randomly showed up and shortly after I decided to move to test what she’ll do and seconds later she came to the area I relocated to. She also often looks shook (like a deer in the headlights) when we make eye contact. Lastly, I noticed whenever she’s having a conversation with someone at the job (specifically males) they’ll both oddly stare at me. For example, I once was making my way up an area w/ my head down and when I looked up her and another coworker (male) were just staring at me. Any clues what could be her problem? As I said, I haven’t had any interaction w/ this girl so unsure what the deal is …
Make casual conversation with her and if she's friendly, invite her out for a drink. Only once she's alone with you and clearly interested you should make a move. If she makes excuses or avoids getting close to you then just forget about her and consider her a timewaster.
 
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