Problems in the bedroom

[Torin]

I realize this a little outside the normal scope of the normal messages, but this is the only boar dI know I might get a semi-serious/helpful answer from.

Simple question really, have girlfriend, love girlfriend, am very turned on by girlfriend, but when we (try to) have sex, half the time I go inactive when I get take my clothes off.

Am not gay, can't be impotent, due to the other half of the time, anyone have this happen to them/know what's going on?



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When Lightning strikes, you've got to be ready.

 

[Ivan Drago]

Tell her to give you oral sex whenever you go soft. If you don't get hard soon after, talk to a doctor.

 

[Bungo Pony]

Performance anxiety. We all get this. It comes from concentrating too hard on keeping it up.

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"If everything is wrong we'll go our separate ways,
You'll have to find a man who does just what you say,
To break up is a shame, it spoils the chance we had,
But it's you, Yes it's you, Oh it's you" - The Hollies

 

[jbbrain]

maybe youre gay..

just kidding..Dude, who knows why?

Has this happened before with other girls?
Definitely check into the blow job thing..should work wonders..if not..casually visit a physician, I'm sure it's nothing, but I understand you wish to "saddle em up!" again, real soon.

 

[Garp]

It's just stage fright; no need to start considering viagra. Taking your clothes off doesn't mean the sex has to start RIGHT THEN. Just roll around naked for a while.
Be sure to tell your girl that there isn't anything wrong with her, she turns you on, etc. Young women get very insecure about stage fright and think there is something wrong with them (if you don't explain it.)

 

[SeldomSeen]

1) take a good mens vitamin mineral supplement
2) take some herbs preferably Kava Kava (helps reduce stress by inducing a calming effect
3) exercise a bit (light joggin)

these things may help reduce some some performance anxiety, also have her lightly stroke your "member" and rub on your body and while she's doing that breathe slowly and try relaxing. Relaxing is the most important thing

 

[Torin]

Where do they sell that Kava stuff anyway?

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When Lightning strikes, you've got to be ready.

 

[alboh]

Try this: next time you need to get a hard-on tell your brain "whatever you do, DON'T get a hardon" over and over. Works!

 

[alboh]

Try this: next time you need to get a hard-on tell your brain "whatever you do, DON'T get a hardon" over and over. Works!

 

[radiodude]

Good point alboh!!! I find that when I tell myself it's 'forbidden' or 'naughty' to do something, I want to do it really bad.

Torin, when you're in the moment and you start to tense up, just say to yourself something to the effect of uh oh...I shouldn't get hard!!!....I might become too aroused and shove my dyck in her pvssy...uh oh!!, we might both have really strong, hot sweaty sex with BIG orgasms at the end!!!!..and won't it feel gooooood?!?!

hehehahahahehehe..

GET MY POINT???

 

[Corndowg]

so is this kava stuff worth the money?...and reliable?

 

[A1SteakSauce]

This happened to me after a bad breakup, for awhile my sex drive was gone, then it was flaky. What happened was I got physically depressed even if I wasn't mentally depressed. It caused my thyroid to slow down. The doc says it happens a lot, but guys never admit it (in fact, I lied and said I hadn't had a breakup, but I knew when he asked me it was true). It was kind of repressing my heartache or something. The body has a mind all its own.

Good vitamins, working out, and an iodine tablet (improves thyroid function) solved things for me. Interesting, viagra had no effect whatsoever.

A1

 

[K56Connect]

I have a different problem for me. I'm a 22 year old male. This may come off as bragging, but it's not. I've had sex eight times in my life, 5 times with one girl and 3 times with another girl. Well, that's not the bragging part, the bragging part is that I only came once during all of this sex. I've went for as long as 3 and a half hours and still nothing would happen. I'm hard from the moment the girl kisses me and I stay hard throughout, but I only came that once, and that was while she was giving a *******, I pulled out of her mouth, jerked it until I shot and then shoved it back in her mouth. And I desperately want to come during a ******* or inside of them, but it never happens. I think the reason I have this problem is that I jack off INCREDIBLY fast. When alone, I pull it out, pump at about 400bpm (beats per minute) and blow my wad in 30 seconds; done it this way all my life. Now, I know I can't move that fast in bed and no sane girl is going to suck that fast. It's like I've been accustomed to only comming when it's fast paced. In fact, I've tried to jerk nice and slow, but I got nothing out of it. In my mind, this is a problem because it's sheer torture going for over 3 hours. You would think the girls would like it too, but they feel inadequate when they get theirs, but I'm still laying next to them with a hardon. At first, they try harder to get me to come, then they just get fed up with me and move on. And I know it wouldn't look good if I started whacking off after sex. Anyone here have any similar stories/solutions to this. And believe me, I've tried everything. I've even thought about banging incredibly hot chicks that I see in porno, but it never helps when I'm screwing at a third of the speed I whack off to.

 

[Taz]

So practice beating off at a slower speed. What's the rush?

 

[Big-J]

Originally posted by K56Connect
I have a different problem for me. I'm a 22 year old male. This may come off as bragging, but it's not. I've had sex eight times in my life, 5 times with one girl and 3 times with another girl. Well, that's not the bragging part, the bragging part is that I only came once during all of this sex. I've went for as long as 3 and a half hours and still nothing would happen. I'm hard from the moment the girl kisses me and I stay hard throughout, but I only came that once, and that was while she was giving a *******, I pulled out of her mouth, jerked it until I shot and then shoved it back in her mouth. And I desperately want to come during a ******* or inside of them, but it never happens. I think the reason I have this problem is that I jack off INCREDIBLY fast. When alone, I pull it out, pump at about 400bpm (beats per minute) and blow my wad in 30 seconds; done it this way all my life. Now, I know I can't move that fast in bed and no sane girl is going to suck that fast. It's like I've been accustomed to only comming when it's fast paced. In fact, I've tried to jerk nice and slow, but I got nothing out of it. In my mind, this is a problem because it's sheer torture going for over 3 hours. You would think the girls would like it too, but they feel inadequate when they get theirs, but I'm still laying next to them with a hardon. At first, they try harder to get me to come, then they just get fed up with me and move on. And I know it wouldn't look good if I started whacking off after sex. Anyone here have any similar stories/solutions to this. And believe me, I've tried everything. I've even thought about banging incredibly hot chicks that I see in porno, but it never helps when I'm screwing at a third of the speed I whack off to.

I'm going to strangle you hehe j/k.


No clue on what to do, but I myself last a long time (usually an hour or more if I really try). But if there's a karma balance in the world, then your why there's so many minute men in the world that women complain about.

But my buddy's got a sweet affliction where he stays hard after he blows his load (or so his girlfriend and ex-girlfriend said).


Someone help this guy, hehe, it's like the male version of the nearly-impossible-orgasm female.

 

[ANIRBAN]

Delay in Sex

Hey,

I have experienced this stuff once when I was with a hot babe...had it hard..but she was playing with me and not allowing me to touch her..guess she wanted to be in control...it was very late too around 3:30 a.m after I returned from a Disco...she kept me on the bed and start doing her little girly things like..fixing her bed, arranging the scattered clothes, changing to her night gown..all of this simply turned me off..and my little borther never got hard that nite as I was totally turned off..I just left that "Delay Bitcch" after she fell asleep waiting for my hard On..he he..sometimes it fun... . try having sex when you are relaxed, focus on her body not yours..erection is automatic, let her do the blow job thing, watch a prono movie together, waer your underwear (this always works for me!!)..if nothing works..tell your mind that "I will not have sex tonight"..within minuites..your little brother will contradict you . Personally I like to be naked with the ladies who are into me, I have some chemistry with them..and they are very cooperative and not sexually threateneing which gives rise to "performance anxiety"..good luck my friend..you are absolutely normal...just that the tides are low sometimes.!!!

 

[Mizer]

2) take some herbs preferably Kava Kava (helps reduce stress by inducing a calming effect

What ever you do, do not take Kava Kava any more. It has been found to have serious adverse side effects . If you still would like to take the risk, please have some extra livers and digestive tracts stored somewhere.

They have pulled Kava Kava off of many shelves ( GNC doesn't even sell them any longer) due to the health problems it causes. I was so disappointed. It really helped me to relax after a long day but I decided that I would rather see more of those long days with out the risk of Kava Kava.

STAY AWAY FROM KAVA KAVA!!!


Mizer

 

[Corndowg]

i just saw a lot of Kava Kava at my GNC down here in chicago...