Problem with walking away, advice please!

[tomwesten27]

I have a problem with walking away from women with red flags. I meet them during the day by cold approaching, I pick up on the red flags, and yet I can't walk away. I always think I can "change them" or sway them into going for me.

Recent example is I day time approached a 23 year old college girl at my younger cousins football game. She gave me her number, we started texting, and we even met up last night for some halloween horror nights. The topic came up about boyfriends and when I asked her she took a whole 10 seconds to respond that she currently is dating a guy in the military for the past 5 months..but she literally sounded confused, undecided, and her exact words were "yeah the distance is tough and when he comes back its going to be weird.."

I told her hey I respect you have a BF but lets hang out as friends at first and get to know each other, maybe do something during the week? She gave me a list of excuses of how busy she was this week and then gave me the "yeah if im free.."

To me thats a clear sign of WALK AWAY and forget her number. YET I STILL WANNA PURSUE...WHY? lol..

What do you guys think? Ditch? Pursue? Help me out here please!

 

[countwoofoolah]

If you dont feel comfortable with it - ditch

If you feel you can handle it and are ok with it , stay

Truthfully , you dont sound comfortable

 

[Skyline]

Confident persistence.

Pull back a little and spin other plates while you continue to escalate with her in a confident manner. Rejection shouldn't and will not phase you. You go after what you want.

But be aware of those red flags... Make sure it's nothing more than a fling.

 

[VladPatton]

Just ask yourself this:

How many times has ignoring red flags gotten me a better life? A great girl? An LTR I don't regret?

If the answer is "always!" or "many, many times!", then go for it.

 

[PlayHer Man]

A man's job is f*cking. A woman's job is "relationship building".

The reason men today SUCK at dealing with women is because they take on the woman's JOB in the relationship. :crazy:

You should not be asking her if she has a boyfriend or any other commitment related relationship CRAP. Your job is to f*ck her at the first opportunity you get. Once you have done that.. the ball is in your court and you can see where things go from there. Until you have sex with a woman don't even THINK about love, commitment, bonding, kids or marriage. Got it?

And I'm going to post my golden rules again (which I'm starting to think I should add to my signature):

1. Always care LESS than the woman.

2. NEVER fear losing ANY woman.

The minute you care more about the relationship than the girl you have LOST THE GAME.

The minute you fear losing a girl you have LOST THE GAME.

 

[GS750]

Yes PlayHer Man you should add those nuggets of gold to your sig. Tom, did you consider the possible outcome of having a very pissed off soldier or marine looking for you when he does return? I mean, if you want to pursue then pursue. If she lets it happen then good. But he could be looking for you for stealing his girl, so be prepared to deal with the blowback. Guys tend to take that personally and frankly, not well at all. Something to consider.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Tomwesten27,

Unless you're a glutton for punishment or unless you take pleasure in pain:

NEVER "continue" to stand out in the open after you've been so obviously shot down by a woman that you wanted to get with.


Never let your ego trick you into hanging around or continue pursuing a woman who you KNOW clearly doesn't want you. The longer you stay, the more she'll be "forced" to keep stabbing you with the Rejection Knife---and the DEEPER she'll have to stab you with it.

Why?

Because you refuse to catch her "hint". Or, a better way of saying it is: You have refused to ACT on the hint that you CAUGHT. The faster you eject and bail out of a "no-win" scenario, the more of your self-esteem you'll still have when your feet hit the ground.


V.U.

 

[HumbleNinja]

Just ask yourself this:

How many times has ignoring red flags gotten me a better life? A great girl? An LTR I don't regret?

If the answer is "always!" or "many, many times!", then go for it.

1. Always care LESS than the woman.

2. NEVER fear losing ANY woman.

The minute you care more about the relationship than the girl you have LOST THE GAME.

The minute you fear losing a girl you have LOST THE GAME.

Tomwesten27,

Unless you're a glutton for punishment or unless you take pleasure in pain:

NEVER "continue" to stand out in the open after you've been so obviously shot down by a woman that you wanted to get with.


Never let your ego trick you into hanging around or continue pursuing a woman who you KNOW clearly doesn't want you. The longer you stay, the more she'll be "forced" to keep stabbing you with the Rejection Knife---and the DEEPER she'll have to stab you with it.

Why?

Because you refuse to catch her "hint". Or, a better way of saying it is: You have refuse to ACT on the hint that you CAUGHT. The faster you eject and bail out of a "no-win" scenario, the more of your self-esteem you'll still have when your feet hit the ground.


V.U.

All of these quotes are GOLD and should be imbedded in every man's mind.

 

[Overthought]

You just need more options. Even better, a few female friends to so you can just learn to relax, how to talk to woman and to understand. Honestly, you're over thinking this. Should of not asked and escalated and let her do the excuse making etc.