Problem with Blushing/Social Awkwardness!

[ActAsIf]

Long-Time Reader here, but rare poster.

I have taken a few techniques here and work on slowly becoming more comfortable talking to girls and strangers in general.

For some reason, I can't seem to shake this blushing problem I have when I talk to someone new or even someone who I haven't seen in awhile that I happen to bump into.

No one has ever called me out on it, but I can feel it happening and it serves to make me even more uncomfortable and I feel like I turn even redder once I am aware of it.

I was wonder if anyone here as suggestions of overcoming this blushing and feeling of social awkwardness that overtakes me at times. In most cases, I am totally cool and collected, but these times sneak up on me and really hurt my social interactions whether it be at work or out.

Thanks for any help anyone can provide...

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Hahaha, dude listen to me, you are new here, so I am going to tell you something that....after I tell you....you probably wont want to come back to this site.

Look in the DJ Bible, look at all the catergories, articles, and all the information about tactics and techniques and everything.

Now, look at the guy in your life that you KNOW is getting puzzy. Do you think he has applied ANY of this stuff to his PERSONALITY.

No, you want to know the secret of the jerk, well let me tell you, he sees women as they are....HUMAN BEINGS.

NOT chemistry projects where I have to study techniques and formulas all night before i go out and do something.

Not a business adventure, where I have to go out and first, get some money for a down payment on her.

Not, nothing, but a human. When you get ready to talk to your mother, do you write out what you are going to say, how you are going to say it.....bottom line, are you trying to impress your mother?

NO!

So why do you think,,,,, you have to impress a woman?

See the truth is, you cannot, you cannot, YOU CANNOT impress people!

Look at all the people you know who go out of their ways to impress people. Do you care? No.

Theres two types of people in this world...real friends and assoicates.

You will be lucky to have five real friends in life, and actually, that would be impressive.

But most of everybody you meet, will be associates. They will only want to talk with you based on what they can get from you, and it does not have to be money, it could be time, dyck, or status.

So you ask? How can I make a girl want me? Well, you cant! Because you cant impress people! But you can........I said you can......show people what you offer to the world. Not to them, but the world, meaning, I act like this all the time, and not just because I am with you.

What do you offer to the world? In other words, how effective are you in your own world? Are you successful, in control of your destiny, popular, funny, smart, artistic, gay, whatever!

And be that person that you are, AROUND EVERYBODY.

And when you talk to a woman, or a man, or even a priest, talk to them like you would talk to anybody....because they are humans, not projects needing to be won, not businesses needing to be build.....stop preying on people and just enjoy people. Enjoy being human and interacting with humans. This site will not teach you that, because this site just wants you to keep coming back and then eventually leave when you discover, this site is just a scam. A place where misfits come to cry and moan and fit in. But if you really want some puzzy, see woman as human beings, and watch how you act differently around them and that will make someone feel more comfortable around you, and that will make a woman svck your penis faster than the Pistons came back down from 3-2! hahahaahah

 

[Brad324]

good post

 

[flyinshark]

Ok, ActAsIf, i am an expert about the blushing problem

The only way not to blush is for the IDEA of blushing to not come up in your head! You don't think of blushing, then you won't blush, guaranteed! I hope you realized that already.

It's because you have already blushed in the past in certain social situations and the bad memory of it has remained printed in your brain.

Once you meet someone new, instead of thinking about what you should say or how you should act, your very FIRST thought is "oh my god, a new person! i am probably gonna blush! i hope i dont blush.... ah damn, i am blushing already... ah **** i am feeling warmer and oh CRAP i am totally losing control over my face". And the more this cycle runs through your head, the redder you get.

You are not scared of social interraction! You are scared of blushing, i know! Don't you think to yourself: "Man, if i never blushed, i would have no problem approaching girls and talking to strangers" ?

That's right, the fear of blushing is greater than the fear of the person in front of you. The problem is that you are afraid that the other person will notice your red face and make fun of you or judge you.

Well, yeah, a red face does attract attention, but not so many people give it a big importance. Remember, not all people understand what u are going through so for them nothing special is happening. But for you it is a complete internal revolution.

If you relate to all this and acknowledge that i know what i am talking about, give me a Hell Yeah and i will tell you some techniques for overcoming blushing. If not, well, maybe others will help you.

flyinshark

 

[sk24iam]

I've always had the same problem. Whenever I got embarassed, people caught me offguard, or I had any kind of attention my face would get red. I overcame it by not caring about it. I don't think about it. Even if it occurs, I don't let it phase me. Just go about your everyday interactions not worrying about it. If everyone blushed the way you did would you have such a problem with it? Think about it like that.

 

[Daral]

Yo,

Haha I can see how blushing gets annoying. All right, so here's the problem as I see it.

As you know, every time you talk to people you get nervous, quite naturally you blush. You're ashamed of blushing, so that makes you blush even more so you get even more nervous because you're ashamed and hope they won't notice etc.

Here's the remedy. Let people see you blush! There is no other way to get over your fear of people seeing you blush than to blush as often as possible, in front of the hottest women you can possibly find. In fact, make it your project to blush in front of everybody you know for a day, a week, or a month. Seriously, make yourself blush. Approach hot women with the sole purpose of saying hello, blushing in front of them and, if you're feeling ambitious, getting their number hehehe.

Blush so hard your face never turns back white - then one of two things will happen, 1.) you will stop blushing or 2.) you'll still blush but it won't bother you anymore. Because, as embarrassing as it feels to you, nobody is going to run away screaming.

Izza

 

[LegalSeduction]

i also have that problem

 

[ActAsIf]

Hell Yea

I am witcha the whole way Flyinshark!

 

[flyinshark]

Here goes, buddy. I will give you some of the techniques that have worked for me. Keep in mind that controlling your blushing is a real WAR and no war is easy. You've gotta be armed with some patience but also determined to squash this enemy you have inside your head. This enemy that has no mercy, taking over your thoughts and making you blush uncontrollably.

You shall have no mercy for it, because it doesn't have any mercy for you. Start by doing this: from tonight on, every night when you go to bed start using this technique called visualisation. It works liks this.

You think of how you will act the next day. You say to yourself "Tomorrow, i will not THINK about blushing AT ALL. I will always be concentrated on the discussion i am having with the person in front of me, thinking about my next reply and thinking about how to enjoy the conversation. Blushing won't even cross my mind. When i wake up in the morning, i will have forgotten about these thoughts i am currently having about blushing, YET i will UNCONSCIOUSLY remember to not think about blushing. I am STRONG. I will win this BATTLE. I won't blush!!!"

Let me be honest with you. You WILL in fact think of blushing during the day. It's almost inevitable, because it is rooted very deeply inside your head. But you will think LESS of it. Inch by inch my friend, inch by inch you will prevail!

The next night when u go to bed, acknowledge the IMPROVEMENT you have made, even if it was very small. Repeat the same sentences i have thaught you, and add some of your own, but keep focusing on not THINKING about blushing.

The thought may never completely die, but u will think less of it and you will find yourself in a couple of days or weeks saying to yourself "Wow, i just had this 5 minute conversation with this girl i didnt really know before, and guess what? I forgot i had to blush, haha. No thoughts about it, therefore no blushing." That's when you will start to BELIEVE that you can win this fight, and you will do your visualisation more often (if not every night). Because IT WORKS!

I have like 4 or 5 more techniques for you. All pretty powerful! It's just that this topic is very close to my heart and when i talk about it i have LOTS to say (you noticed by now). Therefore my posts tend to be rather long, and i need to split them into pieces.

One big powerful technique per post, how is that?
Ok, now i will let you grasp this visualisation technique i described and when you are ready for more, let me know!

See this as that part in The Matrix when Neo had kung fu and other types of fighting being downloaded into his brain. I am downloading techniques into your head now, but u need to rest in between, hehe.

Ok, trust me, you will win this fight! I feel like your personal trainer now. I'm taking you under my wing, and i will make a champion out of you!

For the others reading this and having the blushing problem, i hope it can help you all. Heck, as an exercice, you can all raise your hands now if you have the blushing problem and i will try to help u too. Yes, you will blush when you step forward and raise your hand in front of all these people here on the forum, but it's the best step forward you will have done in this fight against the evil blushing. Now let's see some hands rising!

 

[Hellboy]

Good work flyinshark! I reckon that technique could help a lot of people, also with other things apart from blushing. Gonna try it myself. I have slight social anxiety at times. Not blushing though thankfully.

 

[jprjrjr]

There's a medication called "Beta Blockers" that can be perscribed by your doctor. This medication stops your body's automatic response to stress or anxiety ( trembling, shakey hands, blushing). I'm not sure if your situation warrants medication, but it has worked for several people who've had problems with public speaking.