StellarPKT
Master Don Juan
Hey Fellas...
I have a question that I could seriously use some input on. I think I have a sincere problem with jealousy. I dont know why but it just ticks me off to no end when my girl talks about doing this or that with some guy. Let me tell you the story and tell me if I did right or wrong...
Today my girlfriend was talking about going to see a movie with her cousin(a female) and this guy Kevin who was her ex-boyfriend 2 years ago but they are still good friends. She told me that her cousin might not go, and I told her that it was inappropriate that her and a guy go to the movies alone. She didnt seem to understand.
Then she told me about this guy who goes to her college that she has been good friends with but hasnt talked to in about a year. She said that he offered to go shopping with her sometime after they get out of class. That wierded me out cuz I mean what kind of fellow wants to go shopping with a girl? Yeah exactly, he's either gay or he wants to hook up with her. But she told me that she has gone shopping with him before so maybe hes just a really wierd guy. Anyways there was also one other time where she wanted to go to some bridal show with Kevin the ex-boyfriend, just her and him alone. Again, whats up with that? Is this guy queer or something?
Ok now let me share what I said and tell me if I overreacted or not. She told me about possibly going to the movies alone with Kevin and I told her that was very inappropriate to be going anywhere alone with a guy. In a group it would be ok but alone I said it would be disrespectful to me. I acted sort of angry and told her to do whatever she wanted, that I would not tell her what she could or could not do and that I had to get off the phone. I'm sure she could definitely tell I was peeved so thats probably not a good thing.
So basically I expressed my displeasure with her going out with a guy alone, said it was inappropriate and disrespectful, got a tad mad but basically said I will not tell her how to spend her time and she can do whatever she wants. I did eventually say it would be ok for her to go shopping with the guy, and that I didnt mind.
Tell me guys, did I handle the situation well? What could I have done better? Is there anything I can do to control the jealous feelings I have? Other than these few random incidents, this girl really treats me well, unlike a lot of stories I read on here. After that fight she brought me food up at my work. She made me lunch today. She's always doing stuff like that, and always tries to make me happy. I know that she really loves me and would do anything for me. But I cant help but get bothered by things like this.
So please help me out however you can guys. I'd like to know how to handle this one.
I have a question that I could seriously use some input on. I think I have a sincere problem with jealousy. I dont know why but it just ticks me off to no end when my girl talks about doing this or that with some guy. Let me tell you the story and tell me if I did right or wrong...
Today my girlfriend was talking about going to see a movie with her cousin(a female) and this guy Kevin who was her ex-boyfriend 2 years ago but they are still good friends. She told me that her cousin might not go, and I told her that it was inappropriate that her and a guy go to the movies alone. She didnt seem to understand.
Then she told me about this guy who goes to her college that she has been good friends with but hasnt talked to in about a year. She said that he offered to go shopping with her sometime after they get out of class. That wierded me out cuz I mean what kind of fellow wants to go shopping with a girl? Yeah exactly, he's either gay or he wants to hook up with her. But she told me that she has gone shopping with him before so maybe hes just a really wierd guy. Anyways there was also one other time where she wanted to go to some bridal show with Kevin the ex-boyfriend, just her and him alone. Again, whats up with that? Is this guy queer or something?
Ok now let me share what I said and tell me if I overreacted or not. She told me about possibly going to the movies alone with Kevin and I told her that was very inappropriate to be going anywhere alone with a guy. In a group it would be ok but alone I said it would be disrespectful to me. I acted sort of angry and told her to do whatever she wanted, that I would not tell her what she could or could not do and that I had to get off the phone. I'm sure she could definitely tell I was peeved so thats probably not a good thing.
So basically I expressed my displeasure with her going out with a guy alone, said it was inappropriate and disrespectful, got a tad mad but basically said I will not tell her how to spend her time and she can do whatever she wants. I did eventually say it would be ok for her to go shopping with the guy, and that I didnt mind.
Tell me guys, did I handle the situation well? What could I have done better? Is there anything I can do to control the jealous feelings I have? Other than these few random incidents, this girl really treats me well, unlike a lot of stories I read on here. After that fight she brought me food up at my work. She made me lunch today. She's always doing stuff like that, and always tries to make me happy. I know that she really loves me and would do anything for me. But I cant help but get bothered by things like this.
So please help me out however you can guys. I'd like to know how to handle this one.
