Problem: Being Ignored

[bambino]

1st post here, I've been checkin these forums out for a while and of course reading the DJ articles for a couple months.


ANYWAYS...

Okay, so what happened was I was getting to know this girl better (who I am starting to get some interest in..). Hanging out and talkin.. The usual. We would get together at school and share iPods whenever we had free time, basically havin a good time and laughs. I feel really comfortable with her and never feel nervous or jittery.

'Then', just 2 days ago... I go to school and attempt to say hi but trying not to make it obvious I need to say hi which I know everyone sees but she just keeps away, like she saw me but she looks away or quickly turns around. Now, I don't think I have something on my face that makes her spin that quick. BUT the night before we had a great convo on AIM.

Later on that day.. I was asked by one of her close "girlfriends" if I have "s3xual feelings" for her. I mean, I'm just going to class and out of nowhere comes this question. So I say, "no." (now I wasn't sure what to say.) Please tell me if I should've said somethin else.

THEN later on that day, her close guy friend, while we were chillin, asked me if I liked her. It's like, "WHAT?" so i'm thinkin she wants to know if I like her. I ask him why he thinks that way, and he says cuz he can tell by the way I act around her. Shyea right.
I said, "no." again! But it also happened in the wrong, short constraint time so I had to think quick. This was twice in like 4 hours.

I really hope to get some great advice cuz I'm sweatin it out here. Thinkin she's clearly avoiding me cuz she doesn't want me to like her... or she is nervous she likes me but wants to know if I do back.

BTW, Homecoming is in 2-3 weeks for my school.

 

[Acme]

All i can give you is homecoming. Its a time to get some kino in. Give you time alone, which she will most likely try to talk about the tension between you two. A move i like is if you know she likes you by then, but you cant say anything. When she goes to speak put your finger on her lips, then kiss her. Im not sure but they seem to like it when you take control. Thats all i can give you. Soon though you will learn to the a-z of conversation, and wont get caught in a pickle like this.

 

[dyce]

i think ur in the friend zone man

from my experience, when a girl does this, its not a good sign. a girl whos interested in you wont be avoiding you

maybe when you were having all those convos on AIM n stuff she was telling her friends and they were like "omg, he soo likes u" and shes prolly thinking "****, he does" and she is avoiding u.

cosnidering 2 of ur friends asked u, she probably said something to them about it

if she eva explains herself to u, she'll say "i just didnt wanna lead u on". in ********, that means "i dont want u and i was avoiding u"

 

[Anomalous]

It could go either way. Give more details.

Did she give you IOI's. Or did she talk about her problems like she would to a friend.


Give examples bambino.

You must be italian.

 

[i am me]

are u sure shes not just shy around you?

 

[DJ4Real]

WhyShy, what does him possibly being italian have to do with it?

Anyways, it could be one of two things.

1. Either she doesn't like you.

2. She is just shy and feels bad (and rejected) because you said "no". She may be the type of girl with high self esteem and takes rejection really hard.

 

[LikRetsam]

She doesn't want you.

 

[bambino]

Originally posted by i am me
are u sure shes not just shy around you?

she could be shy. I couldn't tell the difference so I'm gonna keep it at the worst possible way.

When I talked to her on AIM, it was never like, "your so fine" talk it was more like, "oh i think this is cool.. blah blah" talk. So I don't think it had anything to do with me liking her.

Also, should I ask about it to her or her friend? Or wait till what she does on monday?

 

[Phat]

Ok you listen to me..

here are some things that could be happening hear...

You might coming off to needy ( needy as in despirate).

Your body language and the way you act around is letting her know that it is very obvious that you like her.

She might like you..If her friends are always coming to you asking if you like her. Then hasnt it ever occur to you that she is the brains behind them asking you. She is prolly telling them to ask you if you like her.


And if she doesnt like you then tough luck it happens to all of us..

And if you wanna find out if she likes you then ask her for her fukin number and ask her to go out to the movies or something. Peace

 

[bambino]

I have her number and got it while she was with her boyfriend. Well now ex.. but yea.

It could be that she's asking her friends to ask me. And I did say no, was that right or wrong to say that? Cuz it could definately go either way.

I'm gonna stop being too needy if I am being too needy around her. What are good ways to do this without making her think I'm the one avoiding her or something like that?

She did talk to me last night though, just for a brief moment and stuff. Nothin big.

 

[Phat]

Well before time runs out you should make a move on her. Either call her up and ask her if she wants to go to the movies... mall or a party or w/e..

then when your with her try to hook up with her.

U MUST MAKE A MOVE ON THIS GIRL before its too late..

Ur just asking for her to not like u if she already does..

And to tell if your needy check your self and go down the list of some of these signs that your needy...

-always giving her attention
-calling her all the time or immediatly after you get her number.
-taking every opportunity to talk to her ( like in school when you see her or if shes in one of your classes you always have that urge to talk to her)
-your always available
-never willing to walk away ( ex. u never disagree with her and wat not)


A good article that will teach you how to kill your desperation for her is written by pook called "kill that desperation" Click here

 

[bambino]

Thanks Phat, I'll put this info in use and post again for the results.

Edit: There's a Halloween party at my friends this weekend and I'm sure she's gonna go since basically all her friends are.

 

[bambino]

Also, since I'm gonna minimize contacting her and stuff, I have 1 class with her and I sit in front of her. AND at lunch/break/after school she hangs out right next to my locker. What do I do then?

 

[Phat]

When shes at your locker just act really busy and leave ... dont stick around where she is.

Only ignore her for a few days... Then act normal and talk to her on the rest.

Oh.. a halloween party.. Sounds tight. This is were you will have an oppurtunity to mack on her or to actually BE with her. This is wear you can show her how you act around other people . SPit some game at her there.. Try to hook up with her.

AND ASK HER TO HOMECOMING!!!! HAHA

 

[bambino]

Great advice.

I was planning on asking her for homecoming at the party anyways.. lol I got the most best outfit ever and hopefully it'll make her get comfy.

We got a bunch of tests tomorrow in class, if i'm gonna try and stay away for a few days how am I gonna do this if she's sitting right behind me?

 

[bambino]

Okay so, today I tried to keep my distance or not looking at her by talking with other people..

Basically keeping myself BUSY. While I was doing this she was trying to get my attention. Even during our test today, she threw a pencil at me just to get my attention, did I turn around? No... haha I was busy concentrating anyways.

She really tried to get my attention by talking loud, usually things people do that get your attention. She really wanted to talk to me badly throughout the day. I don't know what to do but keep talking with other people.

What do you guys think she's up to? Thanks for reading this and please post some advice. Thanks again.

 

[Phat]

Well see.. You were just playing hard to get haha.. Now talk to her normal for now on.

 

[bambino]

I will talk to her tomorrow. :woo:

I found out she had plans for next Saturday, homecoming night, to go to Six Flags (woopdie doo! you can go there any day). This really sucks cuz how else am I gonna ask this girl out?

 

[Phat]

Ask her out for friday.

 

[bambino]

So far so good, often times she's the one contacting me instead of it the other way around. At least I know she cares, I'm gonna give it a shot at asking her out sometime soon.

Any ideas?