tryst type said:
good pointers on that thread.
i've also read when a girl youre involved with mentions a new guy she's met etc to hear what she has to say then respond along terms of "he sounds really nice" in a could care less way.
i just dont see how this makes you seem like the higher status one to her by acting "whatever" about the new guy. seems like itd give her permission to pursue it if she so wants to or guy is persistant in a charming/challenging way.
Women are confusing beings. One would think that by flowering a woman with gifts and being a "nice guy" to her would attract her to you, but as we all know, that is not the case.
The same applies to this matter...
One would think that by having the "I don't care attitude" that women would view it as "permission" to pursue the new male, but as the example above, that is not the case either!
Have you noticed that when you are very protective over a girlfriend, she tends to disobey you and/or cheat on you? However, if you show you trust her and let her talk to other guys and do whatever, she will remain true to you? Let me use another example. As a girl grows up, her parents consequently start to become more strict to her (most of the time), which results in their daughter to revolt against them and do things that they would not approve of (drinking, smoking, etc.) Women like to REBEL against others, it's in their nature; so if you allow them to talk to other males, it not only shows how confident you are and how much you trust her, but it does not allow her to rebel against you in any way.
Now, if a man does start to become really close to your girl. (Which can happen SOMETIMES even if you have the "He sounds nice" attitude, you CANNOT show you care.) It's difficult to describe, but unless you are in a LTR with a girl (which than, I would recommend you discuss if something is bothering you), you cannot come off too strong too early on in a relationship. (As it will turn a girl off.) So, what you do is you reward your time as a result of her actions. If she kisses you or massages you, reward her with your time. If she starts to talk about this guy she just met, give her very little or none of your time. It's a tad bit confusing to explain, but I hope I was able to explain that to you properly.
Anyway - As for what you stated in the beginning about the response of: "He sounds really nice." It works because women only make things as big of a deal as you make them. And if you make a big deal about it, your relationship will be full of DRAMA. Women are not only confusing beings, but they are dramatic beings as well. Why do you think they watch soap operas! Drama sends emotions through the body, resulting in their lives to become less boring, and more fun/interesting. Show that you don't care, and you spare yourself the drama. Simple as that.
