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I've been chatting with this 27 yr old chick for 2 weeks. Super hot..... 5'5 and 110 lbs. Great body, super cute face. Went out with her tonight. Picked her up at her place, grabbed food and drinks and then left to go to the next spot for drinks. Once we got there she turned into a social butterfly and was making her way around the bar talking to a bunch of different people she knew. She introduced me to some of them but sort of left me isolated. She kept saying "I'm sorry, but I haven't been out in a while and haven't seen my friends".

We left there to go to another spot and it was the same thing. She lives 45 minutes from me so I knew very few people at the places we went since they were in her area.

Kino was great all night and several times we were kissing and making out. 1am rolls around and I'm getting tired and ready to take this chick back to her place and smash. I tell her I'm ready to bounce (she was still catching up with people she knew) and she said that she wasn't ready to go and if I really wanted to leave she would have one of her friends take her home. Not the answer I was looking for, so I gave her a hug, she starts making out with me and says "are you sure you don't want to stay?". I told her I was done drinking and didn't want to stay there longer and I bounced. I could have stuck it out longer and probably fvcked this chick but I was really put off from her making her rounds with friends and kind of leaving me there by myself while doing so.

I walked away from a lay, but I smashed a different chick last night after drinks so I really didnt give a shyte.
Maybe I should have stuck it out but I was ready to go. I did what I wanted and she didn't jump on board.

Probably just messed up a great plate but she had the option to roll out with me and didn't. Oh well....If she reaches out I'll make sure that we go out in my area the next time lol.
 

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You did the right thing. You stayed in your frame and she will respect you for that. Perhaps you shouldn't have put up with that behavior from the very start and save time + money while at the same time hooking up with another prospect.
 

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She has already texted me this morning. I'm staying aloof
 

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She has already texted me this morning. I'm staying aloof
You followed your frame, sometimes it doesnt give the results we want in the short run. You'll have another chance if you seize it.

She's à social butterfly, so she's used to be around her and being à center of attention.

However, she could still feel lonely... seeking only à ONS for a fix or something more solid.

She likely will reach out, but I think her brain will start framing you in the LTR mode... since you probably the first guy in a while who resisted her ONS attempt.
 

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You did a good job considering everything...she definitely was expecting you to stay which now has her hamster spinning vause probably all the guys in the past staysd when she asked...

I probably would have started chatting up random chicks at the bar which would have gotten her in the "He's mine!" mode...

All on all you did well I'm sure you will be smashing soon
 

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Yeah she has messaged me 6 or 7 times today. I have waited to respond because I've legit been busy.

She apologized for spending so much time catching up with her friends and I didn't give her a response to it. I just acted like she didn't even say it. Then she says "next time you'll have to stay later or we can start earlier".

My response was "if there is a next time, you're driving here and we will hit one of my spots".
Her: If?
Me: I am tied up.....still undecided ;). I'll text you later.

It threw her for a loop that I ditched her last night, and I wasn't reaching out to her after I left either. Her messaging me at 8am with "you left me" shows that her hamster is running mad.
 

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Yeah she has messaged me 6 or 7 times today. I have waited to respond because I've legit been busy.

She apologized for spending so much time catching up with her friends and I didn't give her a response to it. I just acted like she didn't even say it. Then she says "next time you'll have to stay later or we can start earlier".

My response was "if there is a next time, you're driving here and we will hit one of my spots".
Her: If?
Me: I am tied up.....still undecided ;). I'll text you later.

It threw her for a loop that I ditched her last night, and I wasn't reaching out to her after I left either. Her messaging me at 8am with "you left me" shows that her hamster is running mad.
What you will answer and when?

I have a feeling she won't like the hamster spin too long :p
 

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Bro I know you have way more experience than me but good looking 27 year girl? Guys in here would fly across the Pacifc Ocean for the chance to have sex with a girl under 30.

Unless you were looking long term, I probably would have rolled with it.
 

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Bro I know you have way more experience than me but good looking 27 year girl? Guys in here would fly across the Pacifc Ocean for the chance to have sex with a girl under 30.

Unless you were looking long term, I probably would have rolled with it.
I just didn't like the circumstances so I bounced. Oh well
 

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What you will answer and when?

I have a feeling she won't like the hamster spin too long :p
She again made a comment about getting together again. I asked when she was free and she said "Im not sure when I'll be free this week with Christmas". So I said "you're right. Maybe we can try again in 2-3 weeks when things slow down."

She said "2-3 weeks...... wait that long?"

Lol. Her brain is in overload.
 

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Stay very aloof through Christmas and New Years,you know the drill........ sit back relax and watch her actions.
 

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I think she was trying to **** test you in a way that is not very sexy. I mean, catching up with some friends, OK. Catching up with 50 friends just cause you can while you're out on a date. This chick is confused, I think. Maybe/probably has an ex in her mind and felt you close, but they make it harder since they don't wanna be "hurt". I think you played this one OK, but now I think you are messing it up a bit.

@logicallefty says leave it for 2018, I think you should seal the deal this year already. Maybe hit her up with a date offer a couple of days later and then you know the drill.
 

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Yeah she better becoming to your side of town after that. 45min ride home, I think you played it right for sure. I would of left too.

She's still in shutting it down til 2am mode, man fück that shït. The only way you screwed up is if you paid for everything, hopefully you at least went dutch.

And to top it off you get a "you left me" text? Wtf?! I've plated enough extroverted chicks but on a first hangout? sounds pretty rude to me. Oh well.
 
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