Probably meeting a girl from PoF

[DonChino]

Hey guys I'm probably meeting a girl from plenty of fish later this week. I'm very very inexperienced and this will be my first everything potentially. I was thinking of taking her to the park to play frisbee and afterward just sit on the bench and get to know each other more. Good enough?

In the case of the first activity "date" above any pointers? any insights in general? I'm not that good at leading a conversation or keep it going for long, I'm relying on her being talkative so there won't be awkward pauses.

 

[Fred_Scuttle]

i'm sure she will be very bored after 20 minutes of that. take her out at night and do something fun or you wont be hearing from her again and that will be the last date you have with her.

 

[DonChino]

i'm sure she will be very bored after 20 minutes of that. take her out at night and do something fun or you wont be hearing from her again and that will be the last date you have with her.

Ouch lol, thing is I hear mixed things on it. Some say for the first meeting you should do something simple (such as coffee) or activity related; goal being not getting elaborate or wasting money.

I'm 20 and shes 18 btw to put some light on this. I personally like stuff such as frisbee, tennis, bowling, riding bikes, etc. to so in a way if she is bored to tears it wont last long either way right?

 

[LoneWolf]

don't do that frisbee, park stuff for a first time. i took my gf out for coffee first time, its just more comfortable for both of you... we just talked a lot and got to know each other.. then we walked around the shopping mall a couple times and decided to end the date with a kiss outside my house. leave the frisbees and park walks for later in the future. maybe a 4th date or something. tennis, bowling, riding, all dates for the future not first.

 

[Fred_Scuttle]

you dont have to waste money on dates. there are things you can do that dont cost a lot of money. bowling is fun. actually you could do a little of each and plan a fun day then it keeps things moving. you get to do things with each other and youre not in one place if there is a an awkward moment. make it fun like that and will be a fun day.

 

[BlackMack177]

honestly most chicks i've talked to off POF I just invited over to my house or went over to theirs and we talked/ played games/ made out/ watched movies/ fvcked, whatever

I never got into the whole 'date' thing, especially not the first one. I like to get to know a chick first before i start planning elaborate dates out with her and spending tons of money.

I see you say you're not that great at convo though. My advice is to get her talking. Most good convo comes from you listening to what she's saying and responding to that, not you talking her ears off. Sometimes guys can get too motor mouthed (even I make this mistake sometimes still) when they're trying to get a chick because they think it will make them seem more interesting and attractive. Talking too much can be just as bead as not talking enough.

My advice is to take her out for coffee or something simple, invited her over, and get to know each other through a little convo and good times just enjoying each other's company

 

[LoneWolf]

that's what i said. coffee + talk/get to know each other. that's what you want to do, get to know her! leave all the fun stuff for after!

 

[DonChino]

Ok will do guys. Another question: fine to start off with a hug if done right? Want to get over the initial touch hurdle and maintain light touching throughout whenever appropriate. I know there is a fine line before it becomes creepy.

Oh @blackmack177 I'm in college and since its summer I do live with the parents at the moment. So when trying to hide the sausage I will need to be creative. If I had my own place it would be gloriously straight forward to progress into closing it out.

 

[Iceberg]

Ok will do guys. Another question: fine to start off with a hug if done right? Want to get over the initial touch hurdle and maintain light touching throughout whenever appropriate. I know there is a fine line before it becomes creepy.

Oh @blackmack177 I'm in college and since its summer I do live with the parents at the moment. So when trying to hide the sausage I will need to be creative. If I had my own place it would be gloriously straight forward to progress into closing it out.

I'm glad the guys talked you out of frisbee. That idea sounds like it was taken right out of a chick flick. Were you gonna frolic in the park with dogs and share an ice cream cone afterwards? I'm just breaking your balls, man.

So you're in college, but are you old enough for bars? Because that's what I do on first dates. And second dates. And pretty much all dates.

Coffee is good enough I guess, but it never leads anywhere. Alcohol makes you loose and fun. Coffee makes you uptight and anxious. So while coffee is an improvement over frisbee, alcohol is an improvement over both.

And yes it's perfectly fine to start off with a hug.

 

[EvilAgenda]

She is on PoF, she is going out with you.

I'd say you can't really fk it up, no matter where you go.

Go where you know YOU will have fun, if you are having fun, she will adapt to your mood and will start having fun also.

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

i always go for a kiss on the cheek. but hugs work too. just don't hug her anymore after that or she'll think you just want to be friends lol.

Coffee is good enough I guess, but it never leads anywhere. Alcohol makes you loose and fun. Coffee makes you uptight and anxious. So while coffee is an improvement over frisbee, alcohol is an improvement over both.

depends what you want from the girl and what kind of girl she is? i don't do the whole alcohol thing on dates ever. if i want to get alcohol into a girls system i will do that at a party or nightclub so i can fuk them and dump em. if its a possible relationship date i will never involve alcohol. i seriously want to get to know a girl on a date, not fuk them the first night. alcohol will just ruin things. again, depends what ur looking for in her.