Edit: I posted this in the wrong forum by accident. Any mod mind moving it to DJ Discussion please?
I would like to know if there is any hope of getting back with my girlfriend of 6 months that I truly love.
When I started dating this girl, my DJ game was its peak. I had the perfect balance between jerk and nice guy, basically, I was a very good guy. I saw the relationship as a game but as it unfolded, I got more and more comfortable with my girlfriend and started not giving a **** about the "game" anymore... Basically, I took her for granted because I had her in my grasp so much that I was 200% sure that she would NEVER leave me.
And the metamorphosis occurred. I turned into a grade-A ******* by always putting her down when she does the slightest thing wrong, by having no patience or tolerance with her, by putting aside her feelings and neglecting her self-esteem, but most importantly, by not making her happy anymore... I wasn't making her feel the way a girl should feel, even though I had it going so good for the first 3 months.
We kept getting into fights constantly for the last 3 months. And by constantly, I mean fights where she would cry at least 2 times a week. We'd always end up in front of her house talking, and we'd promise each other to make an effort to let more things slide and not get into fights anymore. Clearly, I didn't make any effort because I thought this girl was so much into me, that she didn't deserve me, and that she would do anything to stay with me.
Well, after a couple of big fights, she took the big decision and broke up with me 2 days ago, face-to-face. She told me that it's impossible that I hadn't seen it coming, and that things just aren't working anymore. She told me that she tried so many times to make things like they were at the beginning, but with no success... And she doesn't want to torture herself when she's not happy.
I was speechless. It was then that I realized that I had taken the prize mentality a bit too far... By neglecting my role as her boyfriend. Instead of being her boyfriend, I was acting more like a fatherly figure, and I messed up my priorities. I wanted *her* to change for the better so badly that I forgot to do my part and I stopped making her feel good.
Is there any hope for me, or is she lost forever? There's a lot of fish in the sea, but this one is the fish I'm most comfortable with, and I don't want to end something that could be good if I made a little effort...
I would like to know if there is any hope of getting back with my girlfriend of 6 months that I truly love.
When I started dating this girl, my DJ game was its peak. I had the perfect balance between jerk and nice guy, basically, I was a very good guy. I saw the relationship as a game but as it unfolded, I got more and more comfortable with my girlfriend and started not giving a **** about the "game" anymore... Basically, I took her for granted because I had her in my grasp so much that I was 200% sure that she would NEVER leave me.
And the metamorphosis occurred. I turned into a grade-A ******* by always putting her down when she does the slightest thing wrong, by having no patience or tolerance with her, by putting aside her feelings and neglecting her self-esteem, but most importantly, by not making her happy anymore... I wasn't making her feel the way a girl should feel, even though I had it going so good for the first 3 months.
We kept getting into fights constantly for the last 3 months. And by constantly, I mean fights where she would cry at least 2 times a week. We'd always end up in front of her house talking, and we'd promise each other to make an effort to let more things slide and not get into fights anymore. Clearly, I didn't make any effort because I thought this girl was so much into me, that she didn't deserve me, and that she would do anything to stay with me.
Well, after a couple of big fights, she took the big decision and broke up with me 2 days ago, face-to-face. She told me that it's impossible that I hadn't seen it coming, and that things just aren't working anymore. She told me that she tried so many times to make things like they were at the beginning, but with no success... And she doesn't want to torture herself when she's not happy.
I was speechless. It was then that I realized that I had taken the prize mentality a bit too far... By neglecting my role as her boyfriend. Instead of being her boyfriend, I was acting more like a fatherly figure, and I messed up my priorities. I wanted *her* to change for the better so badly that I forgot to do my part and I stopped making her feel good.
Is there any hope for me, or is she lost forever? There's a lot of fish in the sea, but this one is the fish I'm most comfortable with, and I don't want to end something that could be good if I made a little effort...
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