So I've been seeing this girl for about three weeks now after I was introduced to her at the beginning of the summer. The first time we met was in a group with two of her friends and her and we all went out to dinner and a show to get to know one another. We've gone out a few times since then, and have really seemed to hit it off with one another.
We've always had good conversation, been able to joke around, all things that you want when you first meet a person. We've talked almost every day in some form since that first meet-up, whether it be a phone call or text or online instant message. She often initiates the conversation but sometimes I do as well. She has seemed genuinly interested about me, asking about my career, family, etc, so I know she is interested in me.
I have talked to her best friend a few times online on facebook just to see if my signals were correct and how she felt about me. She said she liked me and was interested but to take it slow, and that she ended a relationship with a guy back in May that she dated for 10-11 months. We haven't done anything sexually other than kiss after a couple of our dates which I know is good that it hasn't gone any further yet.
He doesn't live in the same city as us, part of the reason they broke up among others, so I know she can't see him on a regular basis, but he has tried to contact her out of jealousy since I think he knows she may be seeing someone.
Knowing this, I've been proceeding very cautiously as to not trying to go out or schedule too many "dates" with her, until I know she's totally over him. We only go out maybe once a week or week and a half so that she doesn't feel overwhelmed by me if she still does have feelings for him.
Her friend said she doesn't have any intentions of getting back with him, especially since they don't live in the same area, but I'm not sure of my chances here.
She has never brought this guy up in conversation, or mentioned it, so really I would never know if I hadn't asked her friend about it, which I think is good, because I haven't become a sounding board for her where she is telling me everything about him.
My question is, am I doing the right thing by taking it slow, or am I totally screwed with this girl. Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks.
We've always had good conversation, been able to joke around, all things that you want when you first meet a person. We've talked almost every day in some form since that first meet-up, whether it be a phone call or text or online instant message. She often initiates the conversation but sometimes I do as well. She has seemed genuinly interested about me, asking about my career, family, etc, so I know she is interested in me.
I have talked to her best friend a few times online on facebook just to see if my signals were correct and how she felt about me. She said she liked me and was interested but to take it slow, and that she ended a relationship with a guy back in May that she dated for 10-11 months. We haven't done anything sexually other than kiss after a couple of our dates which I know is good that it hasn't gone any further yet.
He doesn't live in the same city as us, part of the reason they broke up among others, so I know she can't see him on a regular basis, but he has tried to contact her out of jealousy since I think he knows she may be seeing someone.
Knowing this, I've been proceeding very cautiously as to not trying to go out or schedule too many "dates" with her, until I know she's totally over him. We only go out maybe once a week or week and a half so that she doesn't feel overwhelmed by me if she still does have feelings for him.
Her friend said she doesn't have any intentions of getting back with him, especially since they don't live in the same area, but I'm not sure of my chances here.
She has never brought this guy up in conversation, or mentioned it, so really I would never know if I hadn't asked her friend about it, which I think is good, because I haven't become a sounding board for her where she is telling me everything about him.
My question is, am I doing the right thing by taking it slow, or am I totally screwed with this girl. Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks.
