Pretending you aren't interested in her work?

[tomwesten27]

Hey everyone! I have been hanging out with this girl who is my age (20 years old) and I have tried to make a move on her a few times. We kissed a few times but she won't let me go any further, and trust me I pushed for it!

My friend said "start treating her like a guy friend and watch what she does" So I started texting her less, no reaching out to her at as much, treating her like one of my random guy friends.

Last night we hung out and she was definitely more flirty then normal. Wanted to hug me as soon as she saw me, she started talking about how her underwear was showing, at one point was lying on my bed...but when I went to "test the waters" and make a move by getting closer to her she bounced back up and did what she always does. She loves to lean on me, and she goes "im cold...and puts my arm around her" BUT SHE WON'T LET ME GO ANY FURTHER.

She might be a virgin...what do I need to do to get her to want to do it already!

 

[TheCWord]

From now on, if she wants to hang out with you, she's going to have to stop playing these attention whoring games. You're not going to keep her warm if she's just going ti be a tease and withhold herself.

Chances are you did put your arm around her, etc. so you're going to have to start the play next time. That means going no contact now, then when she initiates you let her come over for one more chance. Make your move and, this time, when she rejects you - roll your eyes and crank the disinterest all the way up. Don't be a pouty baby about it, just pull back enough to subtly let her know that her act has grown stale. Then you go no contact again and next time when she initiates, don't respond. Get her hamster running. If she persists to make plans you can proceed if you wish but, once again, she either starts playing nice or you'll go ghost for good.

P.S. In my above advice I advised giving her, what was it, two strikes before perma-cut? Just so you know, many guys on here would say that's a strike or two too many.

 

[jay07]

IMO it depends on a couple factors.

1. If youre already fz
2. Have you been together before
3. If she finds you attractive at all.

I think if youre gonna pull the whole disinterested card, you shoulda done it before you already showed you wanted to lay her. You tried making a move, she knows you want her.

I was in a similar situation. Tried the whole disinterest thing when she stopped showing me attention and the only thing that happend was shed text me once in a while. But never lead to anything. Already fz.

And so you know, chicks will flirt with you even if there not interested. She might be flirty now but it doesnt mean shes gonna drop her panties. They are territorial of their orbiters maneee

 

[floydb25]

The AW / tease flags are definitely going up on this one. She doesn't like you, but wants you to like HER. All the signs are there. She loves the attention, CONTROL, and ego boost of knowing you want her. She's doing it on purpose. When you back off, she comes back, tries to lure YOU back in, then rejects you. This is how it works. She KNOWS you like her - and always did - and wants to keep it that way. The key is that she NEVER showed genuine interest in you - only to keep you interested in HER. Flirting and empty promises mean ****. It's all about facts and reality.

Don't give in to her. She ain't afraid of ****. Stop making up excuses and rationalizing her immature behavior. I'd call her an AW'ing ***** and tell her to **** off, but I have no tolerance for this **** anymore, and don't really care what losers think. Remember that people don't change, either. She's a game-playing, teasing, immature AW. Who gives a **** what she wants? Don't let her control your emotions, and become a pussified ***** who ends up in a pseudo-relationship. Teasing AW's are also very controlling, conceited, crazy, and retarded. Their SE is very poor, they NEED attention and acceptance, and suck up WAY too much good oxygen - only to spread their parasitic toxity around like a virus. Bad news. Stage one, exit left.

 

[instantnoodles]

The AW / tease flags are definitely going up on this one. She doesn't like you, but wants you to like HER. All the signs are there. She loves the attention, CONTROL, and ego boost of knowing you want her. She's doing it on purpose. When you back off, she comes back, tries to lure YOU back in, then rejects you. This is how it works. She KNOWS you like her - and always did - and wants to keep it that way. The key is that she NEVER showed genuine interest in you - only to keep you interested in HER. Flirting and empty promises mean ****. It's all about facts and reality.

This.

Plus, if a girl starts with AW/tease flags, she's not interested and hear this: never will be.

If a girl is interested, it will be from the very start.

 

[PlayHer Man]

The AW / tease flags are definitely going up on this one. She doesn't like you, but wants you to like HER. All the signs are there. She loves the attention, CONTROL, and ego boost of knowing you want her. She's doing it on purpose. When you back off, she comes back, tries to lure YOU back in, then rejects you. This is how it works. She KNOWS you like her - and always did - and wants to keep it that way. The key is that she NEVER showed genuine interest in you - only to keep you interested in HER. Flirting and empty promises mean ****. It's all about facts and reality.

Don't give in to her. She ain't afraid of ****. Stop making up excuses and rationalizing her immature behavior. I'd call her an AW'ing ***** and tell her to **** off, but I have no tolerance for this **** anymore, and don't really care what losers think. Remember that people don't change, either. She's a game-playing, teasing, immature AW. Who gives a **** what she wants? Don't let her control your emotions, and become a pussified ***** who ends up in a pseudo-relationship. Teasing AW's are also very controlling, conceited, crazy, and retarded. Their SE is very poor, they NEED attention and acceptance, and suck up WAY too much good oxygen - only to spread their parasitic toxity around like a virus. Bad news. Stage one, exit left.

This is an excellent post that every man should read. Brings back memories of early college when I was more beta. This one AW played me like a piano. She gave me blue balls and strung me along for 6 months. When I finally wised up and realized what she was doing I lost it. She actually called the police on me and I almost got arrested (no I didn't hit her, but I harassed the sh!t out of her). It was bad.

While I don't hate women as a group.. I despise attention wh0res who string men along and use them. When I realize I'm dealing with one I show no mercy. I treat her like complete TRASH. Even if she ends up f*cking me I still treat her like dirt on principle.

Can't stand them! Something about attention wh0res just brings out the douche bag in me. Breaking attention wh0re hearts is my favorite hobby. Justice. :yes:

Love punishing attention wh0res. My favorite move is making her an offer she can't refuse--> A date at the most expensive restaurant in town OR a night out in the VIP section of a club with bottle service OR tickets to see her favorite artist... whatever her weakness is.. I target that. Women love FREE sh!t. So she gets all dolled up to meet me. Travels far to the location. Then I don't show up. Give a lame excuse (I fell asleep.. sorry!!). Love it. :crackup:

Ever go out at night and see a girl all dressed up and alone crying her eyes out while staring at her cell phone? Yep.. might be an attention wh0re I punished.

 

[lamobatsman]

This is an excellent post that every man should read. Brings back memories of early college when I was more beta. This one AW played me like a piano. She gave me blue balls and strung me along for 6 months. When I finally wised up and realized what she was doing I lost it. She actually called the police on me and I almost got arrested (no I didn't hit her, but I harassed the sh!t out of her). It was bad.

While I don't hate women as a group.. I despise attention wh0res who string men along and use them. When I realize I'm dealing with one I show no mercy. I treat her like complete TRASH. Even if she ends up f*cking me I still treat her like dirt on principle.

Can't stand them! Something about attention wh0res just brings out the douche bag in me. Breaking attention wh0re hearts is my favorite hobby. Justice. :yes:

Love punishing attention wh0res. My favorite move is making her an offer she can't refuse--> A date at the most expensive restaurant in town OR a night out in the VIP section of a club with bottle service OR tickets to see her favorite artist... whatever her weakness is.. I target that. Women love FREE sh!t. So she gets all dolled up to meet me. Travels far to the location. Then I don't show up. Give a lame excuse (I fell asleep.. sorry!!). Love it. :crackup:

Ever go out at night and see a girl all dressed up and alone crying her eyes out while staring at her cell phone? Yep.. might be an attention wh0re I punished.

im with you man! good job punishing them. im gonna start too.

 

[lamobatsman]

This is an excellent post that every man should read. Brings back memories of early college when I was more beta. This one AW played me like a piano. She gave me blue balls and strung me along for 6 months. When I finally wised up and realized what she was doing I lost it. She actually called the police on me and I almost got arrested (no I didn't hit her, but I harassed the sh!t out of her). It was bad.

While I don't hate women as a group.. I despise attention wh0res who string men along and use them. When I realize I'm dealing with one I show no mercy. I treat her like complete TRASH. Even if she ends up f*cking me I still treat her like dirt on principle.

Can't stand them! Something about attention wh0res just brings out the douche bag in me. Breaking attention wh0re hearts is my favorite hobby. Justice. :yes:

Love punishing attention wh0res. My favorite move is making her an offer she can't refuse--> A date at the most expensive restaurant in town OR a night out in the VIP section of a club with bottle service OR tickets to see her favorite artist... whatever her weakness is.. I target that. Women love FREE sh!t. So she gets all dolled up to meet me. Travels far to the location. Then I don't show up. Give a lame excuse (I fell asleep.. sorry!!). Love it. :crackup:

Ever go out at night and see a girl all dressed up and alone crying her eyes out while staring at her cell phone? Yep.. might be an attention wh0re I punished.

you are good man! im gonna start to do this too

 

[instantnoodles]

This is an excellent post that every man should read. Brings back memories of early college when I was more beta. This one AW played me like a piano. She gave me blue balls and strung me along for 6 months. When I finally wised up and realized what she was doing I lost it. She actually called the police on me and I almost got arrested (no I didn't hit her, but I harassed the sh!t out of her). It was bad.

While I don't hate women as a group.. I despise attention wh0res who string men along and use them. When I realize I'm dealing with one I show no mercy. I treat her like complete TRASH. Even if she ends up f*cking me I still treat her like dirt on principle.

Can't stand them! Something about attention wh0res just brings out the douche bag in me. Breaking attention wh0re hearts is my favorite hobby. Justice. :yes:

Love punishing attention wh0res. My favorite move is making her an offer she can't refuse--> A date at the most expensive restaurant in town OR a night out in the VIP section of a club with bottle service OR tickets to see her favorite artist... whatever her weakness is.. I target that. Women love FREE sh!t. So she gets all dolled up to meet me. Travels far to the location. Then I don't show up. Give a lame excuse (I fell asleep.. sorry!!). Love it. :crackup:

Ever go out at night and see a girl all dressed up and alone crying her eyes out while staring at her cell phone? Yep.. might be an attention wh0re I punished.

PlayHer-Man, why did she call the police on you?.. If you don't mind answering and how did you even let it go on for so long ?

 

[PlayHer Man]

PlayHer-Man, why did she call the police on you?.. If you don't mind answering and how did you even let it go on for so long ?

She called the police because she was "scared".

Like I said.. I was young, stupid and beta back then. I put all my eggs in one basket and got played. My ego didn't take it well so I harassed her--> Called her derogatory names. Then got in her face and told her off again when she was leaving her dorm one time. She was up against the wall and I was in her face. She sh!t her pants and called the cops.

 

[instantnoodles]

She called the police because she was "scared".

Like I said.. I was young, stupid and beta back then. I put all my eggs in one basket and got played. My ego didn't take it well so I harassed her--> Called her derogatory names. Then got in her face and told her off again when she was leaving her dorm one time. She was up against the wall and I was in her face. She sh!t her pants and called the cops.

That's OK if you were like this in the past but now I can see you're man enough to admit what happened and what was the cause (your ego) in this case.

Just want to say be careful these days. I live in Toronto - the GTA (all my life too) and if you did this here, you have to be careful because every girl is ready to call the cops even on their boyfriend of 5 years, 7 years...10 years. A lot of bad things happen here and the GTA media reminds them to call cops every time they "get scared" lol. Girls on emotional thought will do this since most are childish in my opinion. It's hard to be a pua here. Just saying ...so yeah.

Also I think you should say "AW's like free sh1t" not only women. I think everyone likes free gifts because it's like a token of thought sometimes. But AW's expect gifts and run after them ^.^

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Plus, if a girl starts with AW/tease flags, she's not interested and hear this: never will be.
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I've heard this a few times on here, but I've had different experiences in the past.

There's been many times where I've ended up having sex with girls that were originally just content 100% okay with just making out and the occasional"dry humping". It seemed with these girls that they had just had bad experiences with sex in the past. Either they got pumped and dumped or rarely/never had orgasms from it. I would usually just take it as a challenge. With some of these it was like clock work, after a few times of not having sex, then me starting to grow cold, they sensed it and would end up having sex, not because they really wanted to but because it was time and I deserved it. It was like they planned it and said to themselves: "let's get this over with." To them it was basically a payment for me to stick around give them that attention.

In the end I've had mixed results with these women. Some of them I had been able to release the inner beast....others have just been the dead fish and probably wasn't worth it from the get go.

 

[tomwesten27]

Agreed

Floydb25

Exactly. Since you posted to drop her, I did. Its funny tonight she texts me "hey wanna get together and drink!?" I said "NO" she responded with "cool" I just said "haha lets kick it and drink!" she goes "I can't tonight."

I fcuking lost it. WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME THEN. I responded with "why the fcuk did you ask me to hang out then? You are a dumb ass." she never responded lol.

SOOOO glad she didn't come over. It would of been tease fest 3000 with her.

On a positive note took a chick out I know through my college and we banged tonight!

instantnoodles Just like you said man!

If a girl is interested, it will be from the very start.

Could not be more true. She let me touch her RIGHT AWAY, hold her hand RIGHT AWAY. KISS HER...within 1 hour of the date. No teasing. No bs games, No stopping half way crap.

FUK ATTENTION W H O R E S!!

 

[foreverAFC]

If a girl is interested, it will be from the very start.

Could not be more true. She let me touch her RIGHT AWAY, hold her hand RIGHT AWAY. KISS HER...within 1 hour of the date. No teasing. No bs games, No stopping half way crap.

FUK ATTENTION W H O R E S!!

the great Pauly Shore once said, "Either they're into it or they arent."

 

[floydb25]

Floydb25

Exactly. Since you posted to drop her, I did. Its funny tonight she texts me "hey wanna get together and drink!?" I said "NO" she responded with "cool" I just said "haha lets kick it and drink!" she goes "I can't tonight."

I fcuking lost it. WHY ARE YOU ASKING ME THEN. I responded with "why the fcuk did you ask me to hang out then? You are a dumb ass." she never responded lol.

SOOOO glad she didn't come over. It would of been tease fest 3000 with her.

On a positive note took a chick out I know through my college and we banged tonight!

instantnoodles Just like you said man!

If a girl is interested, it will be from the very start.

Could not be more true. She let me touch her RIGHT AWAY, hold her hand RIGHT AWAY. KISS HER...within 1 hour of the date. No teasing. No bs games, No stopping half way crap.

FUK ATTENTION W H O R E S!!

Right on. Low interest girls are no different than fake friends... ****, most of these bishes even WANT to be your fake friend. They don't give a damn about you, and aren't worth keeping around... they just want to feel special, wanted, superior, and / or in control. Never EVER pine for their approval, or tolerate their BS.

People who like, respect, appreciate, and / or find you attractive will let you know right away - and it really is this simple. I think we just get caught up in the challenge, and what we can't have sometimes. Or doubt our own worth, and feel undeserving of better. But the chase is always better than the catch. Hence why sufficient SE is a must in this game of life.

You definitely did the right thing, and reaped the rewards. Always brush losers aside, and don't let 'em get to you. Nice reply to her, as well. Ha Ha. Don't let 'em get away with being retarded and useless. :rockon:

 

[tomwesten27]

Right on. Low interest girls are no different than fake friends... ****, most of these bishes even WANT to be your fake friend. They don't give a damn about you, and aren't worth keeping around... they just want to feel special, wanted, superior, and / or in control. Never EVER pine for their approval, or tolerate their BS.

People who like, respect, appreciate, and / or find you attractive will let you know right away - and it really is this simple. I think we just get caught up in the challenge, and what we can't have sometimes. Or doubt our own worth, and feel undeserving of better. But the chase is always better than the catch. Hence why sufficient SE is a must in this game of life.

You definitely did the right thing, and reaped the rewards. Always brush losers aside, and don't let 'em get to you. Nice reply to her, as well. Ha Ha. Don't let 'em get away with being retarded and useless. :rockon:

Thank you all for your responses. Maybe this is just a moment of weakness but I can't help to sometimes "feel bad" after telling off a female. I am none confrontational but also will not stand to be a door mat for someone to walk all over me.

That attention w h o r e. showed up at a party I was at last night. I figured w.e Ill push one more time, and I got the same BS from her. I actually told her "I think you should leave this party." I made her leave. I was SO SICK of it.

I get this nasty text today basically saying how much of an ******* I was.

I responded with a very mature, properly written LONG text explaining step by step what she has been doing that shows that she has been being a HUGE tease.

I got NO RESPONSE. Because she knows I am right.


Whats done is done but why is it that I "feel bad" about telling her whats up? I know it wasn't wrong of me to tell her to leave the party but I guess I am just not in that position very often so I am not use to pulling alpha moves like that.

What do you think?

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Thank you all for your responses. Maybe this is just a moment of weakness but I can't help to sometimes "feel bad" after telling off a female. I am none confrontational but also will not stand to be a door mat for someone to walk all over me.

That attention w h o r e. showed up at a party I was at last night. I figured w.e Ill push one more time, and I got the same BS from her. I actually told her "I think you should leave this party." I made her leave. I was SO SICK of it.

I get this nasty text today basically saying how much of an ******* I was.

I responded with a very mature, properly written LONG text explaining step by step what she has been doing that shows that she has been being a HUGE tease.

I got NO RESPONSE. Because she knows I am right.


Whats done is done but why is it that I "feel bad" about telling her whats up? I know it wasn't wrong of me to tell her to leave the party but I guess I am just not in that position very often so I am not use to pulling alpha moves like that.

What do you think?

Rookie mistake here.

An attention hor wants the attention, good or bad but just attention. You writing a long text telling her off might have made you feel good temporarily, but it also made her feel good. She got the validation that her feminine wiles were able to get under a man's skin and drive him batty. As a result, she wins, you lose.

The best thing to do here is just walk away, no contact, no arguments, no closure, etc. Just give it up and move on.

That's what will get their hamster spinning. "Why is he not responding? I thought he cared about me, even if I didn't feel the same way. Why are my girly charms not working on him? What's wrong me with? He's such an azzhole anyway." ad nauseum

She didn't respond because you gave her what she wanted and did it in a way that allowed her to say, "Well, I dodged that bullet. He wasn't as cool as I thought, but, hey, I still 'got it' and can drive men crazy. Hooray me!!!"

Live and learn.