Presence...

[squirrels]

I think if there's anything I lack in big-time, it's presence. I'm 6'5 and big-shouldered, but I tend to remain quiet and not have much presence when I enter a room.

I'd like to be one of those people who when he enters a room, everyone notices something is different. Is it just a matter of being social, or is there more to it?

I'm not looking for broad-scope philosophical tips, I'm looking for specific things that lead to that kind of aura. Stuff like proper eye contact, posture, speaking voice...what are your thoughts?

 

[sharpshooter]

man you have no excuse whatsoever.

YOU ARE 6"5! You should make girls pee in their pants when they see you. I can't believe you're complaining about that. I'm 5"8 and I can command attention. Sometimes I wish I was just a couple of inches taller so I could command even MORE attention



If you have that type of height you should always be confident, or else you'll look like a tall stiff. It sorta angers me that you have that problem because I hate being short and I still have a presence, yet you have all the height in the world and you can't get it.

Keep your shoulders back, chest out, head up, and keep a smile going. Also make sure all of it is natural, practice it and get used to walking that way, don't force it. Man. If i was 6"5......

this post makes me sad

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Wow.

I'm 6'5" Too!

I wear a suit. I get alot of attention when I ware a suit.
I walk into a room and women wet themselves.
Just remember to stand up straight and strut with pride!

"Keep your shoulders back, chest out, head up, and keep a smile going. Also make sure all of it is natural, practice it and get used to walking that way, don't force it."-- SharpShooter

Good advice.

I was once very shy because everyone made me feel like shyte because I was bigger and better looking than they were.
Kinda like the ugly duckling, I guess.

Get used to it. Short guys love to hate us for some reason...

Eye-to-eye contact is very important,
but remember to smile.
I meet their eyes with mine and smile slightly.
If they smile back, I walk over and say hello.

When you speak, speak from the diaphragm and not your throat.
Your stomach should move, not your chest.

 

[sharpshooter]

man, two guys who are 6'5??!!

NO FAIR! I'm so friggin jealous of you guys right now. I'm stuck at a measly 5'8. I'm the ultimate little big man. I act like i'm 7'0, that's part of the reason I command attention.

you guys don't need all this dj advice... you tall bastards!

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Attitude is far more important, bro.
Keep with it. Attitude is everything.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I imagined you much smaller, considering you call yourself 'squirrels'


it is not only your physical size that determines your presence, it is your demeanor as well!! How you behave - comport yourself with dignity, and you'll garner the most respect and have agreater presence!

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by squirrels
I think if there's anything I lack in big-time, it's presence. I'm 6'5 and big-shouldered, but I tend to remain quiet and not have much presence when I enter a room.

I'd like to be one of those people who when he enters a room, everyone notices something is different. Is it just a matter of being social, or is there more to it?

I'm not looking for broad-scope philosophical tips, I'm looking for specific things that lead to that kind of aura. Stuff like proper eye contact, posture, speaking voice...what are your thoughts?

Don't be one of those annoying tall guys who walks hunched over or shoulders rounded. Stick your chest out, shoulders back, walk confidently, the kind of walk that makes people think you're taller just because it gives you that air of confidence.

 

[PlayerSupreme]

Originally posted by squirrels
I think if there's anything I lack in big-time, it's presence. I'm 6'5 and big-shouldered, but I tend to remain quiet and not have much presence when I enter a room.

I'd like to be one of those people who when he enters a room, everyone notices something is different. Is it just a matter of being social, or is there more to it?

I'm not looking for broad-scope philosophical tips, I'm looking for specific things that lead to that kind of aura. Stuff like proper eye contact, posture, speaking voice...what are your thoughts?

How you carry yourself and your energy is reflected in your own self beliefs about yourself.

If you believe in yourself then others will too. It starts with you.

To change the world you must first start within.

 

[CLOONEY]

Presence is one of the single most important things when it comes to woman. You have to be sure about yourself, and show the world you are sure about yourself. Create an energy for others to feel.

 

[gav]

wear a ****y smirk on your face. i always get attention when i do that.

have good posture

take up as much space as possible - open your legs like you're giving birth when sitting. open your shoulders and feet when standing. pretend you're carrying carpets under your arms

walk slower

when u enter a room, stand still, scan the room, make ec with people then make yourself comfortable

act like the host. talk to everyone in the room - i'd leave that one until ure extremely confident

fingers - chapter 5 of weapons of mass seduction - "mastering body language" - this is exactly what ure looking for!

http://sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37708

fingers:

Presence

"In the animal kingdom, males are known to increase their perceived size to attract females. Exude an attractive, confident vibe by leaning back and taking up as much space as possible. In other words, try not to sit like a girl! Spread those legs like you have a 15" cøck and its the only way you can sit comfortably. When standing, keep your feet about shoulder width apart. Fill the world with your presence!"

 

[Dirtheart]

I'm 6.3" and have always had the same problem. I used to try to shrink away from attention and was always made to feel ashamed of my height. It's only recently I've learned that it's an attribute.

I started wondering the same thing about having that "presence". There's a lecturer at my university who has it and when he walks into a room he commands respect from everyone within. I've been watching him and the main thing I noticed is that he is always completely relaxed and composed.

Aside from the occasional smirk, he maintains a straight expression, an steady pace and tone of voice and a firm, yet comfortable stance. He literally appears fearless.

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

LoL

Squirrels, Dirtheart,

We should start a club.

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

Spike

Count me in Spike_the_Cowboy, I'm 6'4".
It helps to slow down. Us tall guys take long strides and walk at warp speed. When I'm out by myself, I deliberately slow myself down and stroll. I make eye contact with EVERYONE, sorta like that old godfather walking through the parade in Godfather II, like he owns the place.

You're right about looking good in suits, too. I just bought a new blazer for Easter and I got some looks from women at church (standing next to their boyfriends, no less!).

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Just call me spike.

I know, huh.

It is funny how women will just
stand there checking you out with
their BF standing right there.
Then HE gets pissed at YOU.

LoL

"Take it up with her, man.
Don't hate me because I'm hot stuff."

So, what should we call it?
I can't seem to come up with a good name...

"The Tall Mo' Fo's" -- too hip-hop.

"The Big Ones" -- too redneck.

"The Tall Men" -- too boring.

"The Tall @ss B@stards" -- Thats what I'm thinking!

 

[Dirtheart]

Well, I'll have to wear thick-soled shoes so that I'm not the short guy of the group.

 

[Dirtheart]

Well, I'll have to wear thick-soled shoes so that I'm not the short guy of the group.

Out of interest, have you ever had short guys try to pick fights with you? It happens to me occasionally, but I always walk away or just humour them. The one time I was in a supermarket when a short guy in his 50s approached me and said "You're tall, but I bet I could knock you down". I'd never seen him in my life, but I just said "You probably could, but I've got nothing to prove" and walked on.

I don't want to fight anybody, especially in public, but I often wonder if I should stand upto them to assert my alpha male qualities.

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

The Tall @ss B@stards Organization. Join up now!!

Heh, just put on some boots.

I like to wear normal footware so I don't walk like frankenstein's monster, or something like that.

Ol'BlueEyes was right about walking slower too.
Plus, if you take your time you'll seem more like
the 'coolcat' you know you are.

 

[n_p]

how much do u tall guys weigh?

i know tall guys who don't have any presence coz they're lanky and stand str8 up with hardly any width.

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Learn Jeet Kune Do.

A short guy cut me on the arm once for talking to his girl,
so I gave him a little lesson in 'the way of the intercepting fist'.

Knives can be a little tricky to disarm from a drunken lunatic.
It is very hard not to get cut up.
However, it is always best to avoid a fight than to possibly wind up dead.

It isn't much fun rolling around on the ground with a grown man who just shyte himself either.

Learning to walk away is sometimes to strongest thing a man can do in life.

 

[Master Homer]

<-- proof that size doesn't matter (5'9)