Die Hard said:
It's not like: "She likes me or she likes me not, her IL is high enough or it isn't. It has already been decided, now I just need to find out by asking her out". No.....the very way you carry yourself WHILE you ask her out, is gonna influence her interest level. Perhaps her IL was low at the party, but it wasn't absent, right? She was hitting on you, you said... Well, your behavior throughout the texting (with the action of not accepting that disrespectful request being key) could've made it rise high enough for her to decide and go out with you. Then, if you had acted like a total alpha during the date, it might've risen to great hights and she'd be totally into you...
No offense, but I think this kind of way of thinking is misleading. It's true that the way you carry yourself does influence her attraction to you, but only at this very minimal almost prerequisite level. It's important for all girls, actually. You can't walk in as some slouched over chump and expect anything but a <6 to want to go out with you. However, attraction is mostly a passive process that involves the girl doing a comparison between your looks/status and her physical attractiveness (if her self-esteem is low, this value might be lower than it should be). You have no control over it. Find me an average looking, middle class 23 year old who consistently has good looking girlfriends rated >7 with high self-esteem. He doesn't exist. I can find a you a million average looking guys who somewhat consistently bed >7's with low self-esteem (I'm one of them).
Trust me, I've ****ed WAAAAAAAAAAAY hotter girls than this one. Her displayed interest level was artificially high at one point because I had a girlfriend at the time hotter than 95% of the girls at my university (she looks like Natalie Portman, lol). She was just trying to make my gf at the time jealous. It didn't work, because as the girl in the OP and her friend were hitting on me, I put my arm around my girlfriend to make her comfortable yet still be able to soak in the attention of the girl in the OP. She was saying crap like "I LOVE Colombians" enthusiastically multiple times after I told her I'm half Colombian and then going on and on about how soft my hands are. I caught the girl in the OP later on in the party when we were by ourselves and she did that flighty bullsh
it uninterested girls do when you try talking to them.
I mean, man, if I can't talk about what I want to talk about on a date or be
anything but myself, then f
uck that girl. I don't need to alpha as prescribed by some pickup website (of course my body language should be expressive and open, but beyond that, you don't need anything else). If I'm feeling down or philosophical (this is supposedly the anti-girl topic) I want to be able to talk about it (albeit within acceptable levels of depth). Guess what? I've gotten laid on first date by telling girls I'm depressed, talking about philosophical stuff, talking about my psycholinguistics research, and reminiscing about our exes (leading one girl to start crying [yes, we hooked up later on that night]). That's not alpha behavior, but it's honest behavior, and in this plastic world of fakes and phonies, it's a refreshing thing.
When a girl is sexually attracted to you, she will drag her vagina over broken glass to hang out with you. I mean, do you think the girls that I've gotten to come out and eventually have sex with are lower quality than this one? No way, haha.
I like your advice of ignoring her when she asks me to remind her. That's a pretty good way to fu
ck with her ego, which could get her to come out on the date. I don't think you'd get much more than that unless she finally realizes she's physically attracted to you, which is doubtful because it would've happened ages ago otherwise.
Female attraction is not that complex, it's much like our own. If you're autistic, it's super complicated, though. However, keeping a woman happy in a relationship is kinda complicated.
