ppl think im asexual because i suck with girls

ohiobohio518

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I'm two years into college and in a frat and haven't hooked up with anybody, mostly because I'm a pansy. Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

I DO have a sex drive. I am very much attracted to the opposite sex. But people keep asking me if I like girls, or if I'm asexual. I guess I don't give off a gay vibe because no one has ever asked me if I am gay.

Have you ever met anyone like this, or were you someone like this yourself? I feel like I'm this way because I just suck with girls. Many girls I know/mutual friends of people I know don't think I'm actually flirting with them because they believe I'm asexual. WTF?

People straight up ask me like, "Why don't you hook up with anybody?" or "Do you ever have crushes?" or "Do you like girls?"

and I have no idea what to say, because the answers are "Cause i suck" "yes " and "yes", respectively. and its just an awkawrd question and it makes me really uncomfroable.

How do I change this?
 

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Other then that your best bet would be to just stop caring what people think. Unless you start going after women they will apparently assume, and there really is no explanation other then you don't approach.
 

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I was asked this question before in H.S. That's because all the girls in my small H.S. were a) in a relationship b) ugly. And I was a huge AFC back then which didn't help.

My problem right now isn't my appearance or lack of skills, it's "where do I find good looking girls without clubbing, partying, or drinking?". It seems like if a man isn't the partying/clubbing type, his chances to practice (and be successful) his game is cut 75%.

I'm not in school, so meeting chicks that way isn't a possibility.

I'm stuck with cold approaches, online dating, or finding some hobby or club.
 

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ohiobohio518 said:
Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

Unless you look like Brad, you can't be that picky or else you'll never sleep with a girl.

People straight up ask me like,

"Do you like girls?" If a person asks you this question, you must ask yourself why. If you asked a girl, "do you like boys?", there would be a reason why you thought she didn't.
I don't know dude, either you are doing something fundamentally wrong and giving off a "gay" vibe, girls don't interest you because you watch alot of porn, or you are extremely picky because you look like Brad. I'm guessing its two of the latter

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ohiobohio518 said:
I'm two years into college and in a frat and haven't hooked up with anybody, mostly because I'm a pansy. Whenever I know a girl likes me, I just keep telling myself that I can do better, and this is just a vicious cycle.

I DO have a sex drive. I am very much attracted to the opposite sex. But people keep asking me if I like girls, or if I'm asexual. I guess I don't give off a gay vibe because no one has ever asked me if I am gay.

Have you ever met anyone like this, or were you someone like this yourself? I feel like I'm this way because I just suck with girls. Many girls I know/mutual friends of people I know don't think I'm actually flirting with them because they believe I'm asexual. WTF?

People straight up ask me like, "Why don't you hook up with anybody?" or "Do you ever have crushes?" or "Do you like girls?"

and I have no idea what to say, because the answers are "Cause i suck" "yes " and "yes", respectively. and its just an awkawrd question and it makes me really uncomfroable.

How do I change this?
Stop thinking that not being obvious with girls or flirting is the right thing. It's NORMAL for a guy to flirt and try to get *****. It's ABNORMAL when you don't. Think of it that way. So you don't lose by being upfront.
 

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You called yourself a pansy and thats what people are seeing.

You could turn the situation around in a positive way. If somebody asks you are you asexual just tell them definetly not but you've very high standards. Now instead of seeing a pansy who is afraid of women they'll see you in a different way that they now have to meet your standards.
 

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Dont give a fvck what they say .

And if you wanna get some pvssy , dont get to prove them that you can .

This is the worst thing because you will be attached with outcome and youll come off as a needy fvcker .

So , when you feel like doing it , do some approaches , be MAN , dont be scared to express your sexuality , never reserve your words and your thoughts , always spit them .

First you have to be the MAN than pvssy will come dont worry .
 
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