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I didn't read through this whole thread but have you kissed a girl already? I'm writing this because I kissed a girl first time at my 18 party... it was 3 months ago... and since then I made out with 5 different girls... 3 of them were after I found out about this site...
LearningSlowly
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So make up a word and use HB ___. That's why the system was invented.Pozitron said:
And no response to my last post? Too addicted to consider giving up the internet?
I don't remember not having responded to your post. I have no problem with that. Can you ask again?
Update: I bought some good clothes today and I'm happy about it. I now have two more good shirts and a sweater and.... a jacket ( that is from a suit). I look really good in them guys and I don't know what you think but I can tell you that good habits regarding your posture really make you look so much better. I am working out so I will look a lot more better soon.
I know for a fact from experience that the results from working out come in months but in the end it is all worth it. It goves you confidence and skill and makes you look good and feel good and be proud of your body.. more actually, it makes you be more comfortable with your body. Trust me. If there is any of you out there who is not working out just start doing it consistently and have faith. It will pay off for sure.
I never considered it. I can reduce the use of it yes, but I think it also has benefits. In general I believe that you should be balanced.. nothing in excess. So that would mean.. real life beats internet and computer life always and in any care and maybe limiting its use as I said.
Update: I bought some good clothes today and I'm happy about it. I now have two more good shirts and a sweater and.... a jacket ( that is from a suit). I look really good in them guys and I don't know what you think but I can tell you that good habits regarding your posture really make you look so much better. I am working out so I will look a lot more better soon.
I know for a fact from experience that the results from working out come in months but in the end it is all worth it. It goves you confidence and skill and makes you look good and feel good and be proud of your body.. more actually, it makes you be more comfortable with your body. Trust me. If there is any of you out there who is not working out just start doing it consistently and have faith. It will pay off for sure.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You could easily click back a page but here. "Here's my solution. Delete your facebook. Stop coming on the forum. Stop reading any books on your computer, only read physical ones you buy in a bookstore.Pozitron said:
Keep a paper journal." There's a bit more but that's the essence.
What benefit does facebook give you? What benefit does sosuave give you? (You already know what you have to do. Posting about your new clothes has no benefit.)
Sure, a life should be balanced, but it should be balanced between real things. Hobbies, life, writing, reading. Facebook has no benefit in a balanced life. Sosuave can be abused, and can lose its benefit in a balanced life.
I'm a hypocrite, but my point still stands. Why not delete those things that you yourself said were wasting your time. Notice:
Alright.
Now get out and do something. Your life won't improve without actions. Even the smallest actions help. As long as you do not stop taking action, you will keep progressing and you will end up to your goal. Will to succeed is not enough. You need will to act, will to practice, will to go through pain, will to push your limits, will to be consistent, will to get up your lazyass, will to prepare to change.
Change is easy, it can take one day to change. But preparing for change is what takes so long. We don't feel ready to change, and we keep preparing and preparing (in this case, reading tons of pages on PU and not doing anything about it).
Anyway, good luck. Give yourself a schedule or something. Go to the mall every weekend and do approaches. If you're too anxious, take baby steps. But NEVER stop taking those steps. Just keep going and going. Stop thinking. Just go.
I think I said enough. I have nothing else to say really. You have nothing else to know. You know everything right now to get started. You must act. That's it.
Now get out and do something. Your life won't improve without actions. Even the smallest actions help. As long as you do not stop taking action, you will keep progressing and you will end up to your goal. Will to succeed is not enough. You need will to act, will to practice, will to go through pain, will to push your limits, will to be consistent, will to get up your lazyass, will to prepare to change.
Change is easy, it can take one day to change. But preparing for change is what takes so long. We don't feel ready to change, and we keep preparing and preparing (in this case, reading tons of pages on PU and not doing anything about it).
Anyway, good luck. Give yourself a schedule or something. Go to the mall every weekend and do approaches. If you're too anxious, take baby steps. But NEVER stop taking those steps. Just keep going and going. Stop thinking. Just go.
I think I said enough. I have nothing else to say really. You have nothing else to know. You know everything right now to get started. You must act. That's it.
My 2 cents on how sosuave should be like.
Facebook is not a problem, really. I only go on it at times and check which takes under 5 min. It is usefull cause I and my colegues share info there about school and so. So I don't consider it a problem.
I do however think you have a point so here is my 2 cents on how sosuave should be like.
One day a man is faced with a problem and he doesn't know hwat to do. He can't talk about the matters of the heart with just about anyone so he searches the internet hoping he will find an answer; he is really rearching for an answer, not a magic pill. He finds so suave and while he browses trough all the articles and the posts he totaly forgets what he came here for. He looses the big picture and gets caught up in techniques, tips and all these knowledge. So he reads and reads.
It is damn true that one cannot understand the principles of this site until he leaves it.
So what's the problem? The problem is not the information. The info may be all good. We all know some posts are gold and really true. You feel like they understand you...and been in your shoes. The thing is Pook's realizations ( it's just an example) will be more true to Pook than they will ever be to me and you. Why? Because it's his realization.. his answers, something he discoved by himself out there and something that works for himself.
Yes, we may be on the same spot with him cause we may have the same problem but we are all diferent: our environment, our experiences.. everything that makes us individual.
Sure, the principles in seduction are almost the same as they were 20 years ago and this is true... but we have to fid out for ourselves.
So my point is that that man who found the site shall use all this info to find out his own answers. He has a problem. One part or many of his game are missing. Here he can see what's missing and read about it to know how it works and how he can make it a psrt of him.. making it work for himself, as his answer.
So it's more like. Doing and being out there taking action> Hitting a wall, encountering a problem> coming here and seeking advice and getting his answer> fixing the problem> taking action out there again. Don't you agree with me? Why do you think some of the great posters on this site just left? Cause there wasn't any problem anymore and if there was/will be they knew they can manage it on their own.
I need to apply this ti myself.
So that's my take on it guys. One should not be dependent on this site.
The game was ment to be played out there. Here, you come when you've hit a wall and need help. As soon as you find an answer you think it will work you don't search anymore. You then go out there, fix the problem and then keep going.
Noone had all the answers. What did people do when there wasn't sites like this and they needed help cause they didn't know how to touch a girl maybe? Yeah.. noone is born with all the answers. Sure.. one may be born in a family with 2 sisters so he grows up being comfortable with women and this gives him an advantage. But let's go back to that question. Well, he would have asked someone he could trust, in the real life. I know this for sure.
So we are not special or the only ones concerning about this. Some of the best guys I know with women.. well let's just say he was the above example... the one who asked someone for advice cause there maybe was not place like this for him.
We are on our own but we are not alone.
Facebook is not a problem, really. I only go on it at times and check which takes under 5 min. It is usefull cause I and my colegues share info there about school and so. So I don't consider it a problem.
I do however think you have a point so here is my 2 cents on how sosuave should be like.
One day a man is faced with a problem and he doesn't know hwat to do. He can't talk about the matters of the heart with just about anyone so he searches the internet hoping he will find an answer; he is really rearching for an answer, not a magic pill. He finds so suave and while he browses trough all the articles and the posts he totaly forgets what he came here for. He looses the big picture and gets caught up in techniques, tips and all these knowledge. So he reads and reads.
It is damn true that one cannot understand the principles of this site until he leaves it.
So what's the problem? The problem is not the information. The info may be all good. We all know some posts are gold and really true. You feel like they understand you...and been in your shoes. The thing is Pook's realizations ( it's just an example) will be more true to Pook than they will ever be to me and you. Why? Because it's his realization.. his answers, something he discoved by himself out there and something that works for himself.
Yes, we may be on the same spot with him cause we may have the same problem but we are all diferent: our environment, our experiences.. everything that makes us individual.
Sure, the principles in seduction are almost the same as they were 20 years ago and this is true... but we have to fid out for ourselves.
So my point is that that man who found the site shall use all this info to find out his own answers. He has a problem. One part or many of his game are missing. Here he can see what's missing and read about it to know how it works and how he can make it a psrt of him.. making it work for himself, as his answer.
So it's more like. Doing and being out there taking action> Hitting a wall, encountering a problem> coming here and seeking advice and getting his answer> fixing the problem> taking action out there again. Don't you agree with me? Why do you think some of the great posters on this site just left? Cause there wasn't any problem anymore and if there was/will be they knew they can manage it on their own.
I need to apply this ti myself.
So that's my take on it guys. One should not be dependent on this site.
The game was ment to be played out there. Here, you come when you've hit a wall and need help. As soon as you find an answer you think it will work you don't search anymore. You then go out there, fix the problem and then keep going.
Noone had all the answers. What did people do when there wasn't sites like this and they needed help cause they didn't know how to touch a girl maybe? Yeah.. noone is born with all the answers. Sure.. one may be born in a family with 2 sisters so he grows up being comfortable with women and this gives him an advantage. But let's go back to that question. Well, he would have asked someone he could trust, in the real life. I know this for sure.
So we are not special or the only ones concerning about this. Some of the best guys I know with women.. well let's just say he was the above example... the one who asked someone for advice cause there maybe was not place like this for him.
We are on our own but we are not alone.
I'm done searching for answers guys.
I need to balance out my life. I need to spin plates and take interest and develop other areas in my life as well such as: my body, school, my future.
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I need to balance out my life. I need to spin plates and take interest and develop other areas in my life as well such as: my body, school, my future.
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I may try. But no more new reading. I stick to what I have... I need to terminate dis pointless habit.
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Reading (depending on what) is NOT a bad habit. Inaction is.Pozitron said:
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
You're absolutely right. So let's set up a system by which you can apply that. I'll join you on that, if you prefer. I don't read through articles on this site, but I sit on the forum looking at posts way too much.Pozitron said:
How about you are only allowed to open sosuave after you have a real interaction with a woman? At that point you may go to your journal and write about it, check other people's posts if you like, and select one article that you'll copy and paste to an off-line document, so that you can keep reading, but sparingly. After that one visit, you close it and keep it closed until you have another encounter to journal about.
That's simply a proposition. I'm happy to hear adjustments, and I'd be happy to take this challenge on, if we perfect the terms of it.
Good idea. I should join this too.
I realize that I go on sosuave because I'm bored and I have nothing else to do sometimes. That's a bad habit. I took the excuse that going on the forum will make me better anyway, so I'm not wasting my time. But the truth is, I'm really wasting a lot of time... I'll go on sosuave only if good things happen in my life and it's worth writing about it. Or I'll go if really I need some help. If not, well I will not come here. I will seek help really if I truly need it.
Oh, and I gotta stop going on facebook SO often. It's a waste of time too! Too much computer...
Aight let's do this. Bye guys, for a while lol.
I realize that I go on sosuave because I'm bored and I have nothing else to do sometimes. That's a bad habit. I took the excuse that going on the forum will make me better anyway, so I'm not wasting my time. But the truth is, I'm really wasting a lot of time... I'll go on sosuave only if good things happen in my life and it's worth writing about it. Or I'll go if really I need some help. If not, well I will not come here. I will seek help really if I truly need it.
Oh, and I gotta stop going on facebook SO often. It's a waste of time too! Too much computer...
Aight let's do this. Bye guys, for a while lol.
the Arrangement Of Don Juans
Great idea.
_________________________________________________________
I present you..
THE ARRANGEMENT OF DON JUANS
Let's see how to make this work.
We all have some" off line notes" so to say right? I actually found something really good and natural- genuine advice on how to just approach a girl and make conversation.
Ok so we stick to what we have and monitor or progress such as eating and working out on paper journal.
We are allowed to access further info -just one piece- about girls and visit sosuave to make 1 post about it( be it that info from here or any other place of the internet ) after we have had a real interaction with a women as you said.
By real interaction I mean: a girl we approach / smile at / say hi / compliment ...
Agreed on that.
What about the interactions with the girls we already know?
I suggest the same thing applies when we make a move on them ( something that would involve risk and we don't normally do)- like asking for a number / inviting her on a date / kino .. trying something worth mentioning for real.. making a damn move.
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What do you say? Also.. if we cheat.. we cheat ourselves.
And one more thing.., LearningSlowly, do you have a journal?
It's on bro!
Great idea.
_________________________________________________________
I present you..
THE ARRANGEMENT OF DON JUANS
Let's see how to make this work.
We all have some" off line notes" so to say right? I actually found something really good and natural- genuine advice on how to just approach a girl and make conversation.
Ok so we stick to what we have and monitor or progress such as eating and working out on paper journal.
We are allowed to access further info -just one piece- about girls and visit sosuave to make 1 post about it( be it that info from here or any other place of the internet ) after we have had a real interaction with a women as you said.
By real interaction I mean: a girl we approach / smile at / say hi / compliment ...
Agreed on that.
What about the interactions with the girls we already know?
I suggest the same thing applies when we make a move on them ( something that would involve risk and we don't normally do)- like asking for a number / inviting her on a date / kino .. trying something worth mentioning for real.. making a damn move.
______________________________________________________
What do you say? Also.. if we cheat.. we cheat ourselves.
And one more thing.., LearningSlowly, do you have a journal?
You need a strong inner game. You seem to lack confidence and not believe in yourself. You need to validate yourself internally, and then you will be able to do anything. This means that no matter what, you can feel happy and in a good mood because...that's just naturally who you are.Pozitron said:
Watch this: And watch all the way through #18. It will help.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7k71YUmvXjY&feature=related
Also, it seems like you're too serious about this. You're outcome dependent. If you don't do something tonight, or if you don't do this or that, then you've failed. Wrong. As long as you have fun and learn something, then it is a success. Go out, have FUN, and don't be so outcome dependent. You're putting a lot of thought into this, and not enough fun and action.
You're right on point on everything you said, Alex.
I will check that out.
Damn.. you guys remember that girl I talked about with valentines and sh**. That girl that kind of break me and then lift me.. lol it sounds weird.
Yeah.. guess what. 15 min ago I was on a conferrence woth her, one other girl and a guy cause we were takin about a project.
They moked me ( this guy first) and then the girls continued a little and maybe it was good fun for them but for me really it wasn't. I felt ot so good about it.. cause it's like the last time something like this happened.. I get the feeling they make me seem of a lower value. \
I won't care and in reality this won't happen like this I asure you but in this group as I said there was this girl also.
They have this impression that I'm kind of a jerk cause for I while I was. And they go along the lines of:"Any sign of altruism, Pozitron?" / and other stuff.
I don't know guys.. maybe it's harmfull teasing but it didn't felt like that and I got the feeling I could never be witht this girl cause I am at times put down by her or when she is present ( not necesarily in a rude wat00 you got my point).
Thsi s*** gets at me cause even though I was a jerk ( maybe cause I suffered once a lot after a girl or cause I interpreted wrongly "don't put them on a pedestal" , really) now I am not the same and people still treat me like I am that person. And make jokes about it .. how I don't care and don't give a **** and have no manners and etc.
So I don't know what to do.. but I felt like I will not give a damn anymore about this girl, B.
I will check that out.
Damn.. you guys remember that girl I talked about with valentines and sh**. That girl that kind of break me and then lift me.. lol it sounds weird.
Yeah.. guess what. 15 min ago I was on a conferrence woth her, one other girl and a guy cause we were takin about a project.
They moked me ( this guy first) and then the girls continued a little and maybe it was good fun for them but for me really it wasn't. I felt ot so good about it.. cause it's like the last time something like this happened.. I get the feeling they make me seem of a lower value. \
I won't care and in reality this won't happen like this I asure you but in this group as I said there was this girl also.
They have this impression that I'm kind of a jerk cause for I while I was. And they go along the lines of:"Any sign of altruism, Pozitron?" / and other stuff.
I don't know guys.. maybe it's harmfull teasing but it didn't felt like that and I got the feeling I could never be witht this girl cause I am at times put down by her or when she is present ( not necesarily in a rude wat00 you got my point).
Thsi s*** gets at me cause even though I was a jerk ( maybe cause I suffered once a lot after a girl or cause I interpreted wrongly "don't put them on a pedestal" , really) now I am not the same and people still treat me like I am that person. And make jokes about it .. how I don't care and don't give a **** and have no manners and etc.
So I don't know what to do.. but I felt like I will not give a damn anymore about this girl, B.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Not smile at, words must be spoken. But yes, I agree on your terms. And yes, I have a journal here. "I'm going to make it. My story."Pozitron said:
Going to a party tonight, so I'll leave you all a post tomorrow. Til then, adios!
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I made a similar one with myself, except I do that every day so I picked "Only when I finish the bootcamp challenge, hook up or make some extra-mega success (make out with two girls in one night)".
Glad to see you guys.
I am here today cause I did.. well not impressive or big things but things I wouldn't notmaly do.
There is this one girl in my class. I tickled her and played with her a little.
Remember B? Well, I found her hair different and I went to her, touched it and told her sth. She then was curious so she asked another girl about it. What I commented upon was real, I swear haha.
I didn't get any chances to approach but I saw i at the bus stop a girl I met once and I barely know. Last time I saw her she said hi and went on the oposite side of the buss (wtf?). Now I found myself in the position I described and I was about to ignore it and do nothing as usual but instead I went up and talked to her. Even though I have no interest in her we had a good chat.. laughed and it was confortable.
Being confident is being confortable, guys. You don't have to put on a show. You just know who you are and just do what you wanna do.
See you nect time with more exciting stuff I hope.. like approaches.
Oh and BTW : Squat to push press 2 x 10 reps
Press-up row 2x 8 reps
Overhead reverse lunge 2 x 8 reps each side
Easy.. oh no..
I feel like my bicep is more toned and have a good general state.
I am here today cause I did.. well not impressive or big things but things I wouldn't notmaly do.
There is this one girl in my class. I tickled her and played with her a little.
Remember B? Well, I found her hair different and I went to her, touched it and told her sth. She then was curious so she asked another girl about it. What I commented upon was real, I swear haha.
I didn't get any chances to approach but I saw i at the bus stop a girl I met once and I barely know. Last time I saw her she said hi and went on the oposite side of the buss (wtf?). Now I found myself in the position I described and I was about to ignore it and do nothing as usual but instead I went up and talked to her. Even though I have no interest in her we had a good chat.. laughed and it was confortable.
Being confident is being confortable, guys. You don't have to put on a show. You just know who you are and just do what you wanna do.
See you nect time with more exciting stuff I hope.. like approaches.
Oh and BTW : Squat to push press 2 x 10 reps
Press-up row 2x 8 reps
Overhead reverse lunge 2 x 8 reps each side
Easy.. oh no..
I feel like my bicep is more toned and have a good general state.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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