Powerplay with no end in sight

[Jariel]

I've recently found myself involved in some stupid powerplay games and just wondered how they end...

I got involved with a stunning looking girl some weeks ago. We started out as friends then one day she asked me out. I accepted, but then she flaked. Next time I saw her I was distant and cool, she was trying to get my attention, but left early when she didnt get it, and looked ready to cry.

The following day she contacted me and was very apologetic saying how she regretted not going out with me and asking for another chance. I decided to accept her apology and open the offer of going out for another day. When i next saw her she was all over me and eager to go out, yet when the time came she flaked out on me again.

I've shrugged it off as a lost cause, but now she's apologising again. It seems like every time we meet in person she's all over me and keen for a few days, but then backs out of our dates at the last minute.

I have other women after me at the moment, other things going on in life, so it's no big deal to me, but clearly I'm playing the game somewhat correctly as she keeps coming back, but do they ever come to an end and how? It's not even like I've asked her out or been overly keen, I've just accepted an offer she made.

 

[Rogerman]

Well, to answer your question - there's only one way to see, and that depends on how you want to end it.

There's 2 ways: next her
Be cool and accept her offer if she asks again and see what happens


Your choice.

 

[spider_007]

TELL HER; "THIS IS YOUR LAST CHANCE" 3 STRIKES AND YOUR OUT. CAN'T SAY YOU DIDN'T WORN HER.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I think you have 2 choices as well.

A.) You can stay at home an beat off.

B.) You can apply your effort towards the better prospective women that are after you.

Either one of these choices would be better than wasting time and effort on this one. You're the PRIZE, not her. Let your behavior show her that you have more respect for yourself than to allow her to play games with you - NEXT.

 

[whistler]

Flaking twice isn't just inconvenient, it's a character flaw.

Even if she comes back and "makes it up to you" in some way, she still fits the profile of a flake/attention wh0re, which means she's really, really not worth your time or attention.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

give her one more chance for a date, but it's absolutely her final, two times flaking in a row is already too much, even djs only have so much patience

 

[Jariel]

Oh there's no hesitation in me nexting her. Her flaking has made her lose value and trust in my eyes now and I intend to take up with someone else instead.

But I am interested to see if my nexting her starts to raise her interest again. Maybe then I might reconsider, but I'm going to leave it for a while and experiment with how much can frustrate her. Afterall, she's the one playing games so I have no conscience about it.

On one hand, it's good to know I can come out on top of these powerplay games, but on the other, it just goes back and forth with nothing coming of it except a little powertrip and ego boost for whoever is in the lead.

I notice a lot of this site and seduction information centres around this type of game play, but if nothing is gained from it, isn't it better just to next all women who are flaky or indecisive instead of trying to win them over or seduce them?

 

[libre]

She's probably a manipulative, narcissistic type. Beware. She will play you as long as you let her and if you hook up with her, she could possibly wreck you.

Be very wary.

 

[smoke city]

Jariel--a woman has NO power over you when you realize that you could do without her. Just keep it in your mind that you can "take it or leave it" and literally drop everything if you want.

 

[NoMoreMrNiceguy88]

Try this

Set up another date, but this time with an incentive to come on the date ( i.e offer to pay for her meal at her favorite resaraunt, etc.) Then, just flake on her. Turn the tables and show her how it feels to be treated like trash.

 

[lebRambo]

^ good idea, actually.

 

[Jariel]

Re: Try this

Originally posted by NoMoreMrNiceguy88
Set up another date, but this time with an incentive to come on the date ( i.e offer to pay for her meal at her favorite resaraunt, etc.) Then, just flake on her. Turn the tables and show her how it feels to be treated like trash.

Yeah, I like it!

She's already suggested we go out next week. I haven't replied yet, but I think I may do so and then just flake.

Last time she apologised (via text message) I waited a couple of days before replying and her friend told me she was anxious about it and checking her phone. So flaking without any explanation could be interesting!

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

I don't know mate,that seems abit childish and unnecessary,you know?
Her punishment for pissing you about will be not having another chance to spend time with you

Flaking twice would be enough for me and personally I'd politely but firmly let her know that I'm a busy man,she's had her chance and thanks,but no thanks.
Maybe in a few months if you run into her again and she wants to go out then perhaps give her one last chance.

Oh yeah...I forget which thread it was when I asked about your art but I liked it

 

[MindOverMatter]

What's with all these childish little games?

"Set up another date, then you be the one that flakes out on her"

Are you guys girls or men? Next time she calls you and asks you out, handle it like a man, and just tell her you're not interested. If she asks why, tell her that she has wasted your time too often, and that you started seeing someone else (which is what your next move should be).

 

[BigFoot]

Did she give reasons why she flaked each time? I agree with some of the previous posts that something is probably not right with this gal. Flaking on her is a neat idea, otherwise, I wouldn't waste any more time with her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If it comes up again just have her put her money where her mouth is. Suggest that she make it up to you by taking you to a concert. Fvck just dinner, that's too easy. She'll either agree and flip the bill or flake out on you outright. At that point it's easily revealed her true nature.

 

[Jariel]

It is very tempting to give her a taste of her own medicine, but I thought about it and I'm just going to next her and forget her. I got another apology this morning, but I'm just going to ignore it. The more I play these games, the more time I waste and the lower I sink.

Really, I just wanted the games to end, but I don't see that happening with this girl. She might be extremely attractive, but a girl who plays games like this is not my type.

In future, I'm going to view these games as a warning sign and cut my losses early on.

 

[BrotherAP]

Good call man. She flaked twice - all she deserves is a few harsh words and "sayonara, sweetie". If she flaked once, and the she did again, you can bet that she'll do it a third time. Girls, especially lookers, aren't used to dating guys who they actually have to work for. If she did want to date you, then she was trying to grab the control - she was trying to whip you from the get go - well, fugghabouddit!

 

[whistler]

Originally posted by Jariel
It is very tempting to give her a taste of her own medicine, but I thought about it and I'm just going to next her and forget her. I got another apology this morning, but I'm just going to ignore it. The more I play these games, the more time I waste and the lower I sink.

Really, I just wanted the games to end, but I don't see that happening with this girl. She might be extremely attractive, but a girl who plays games like this is not my type.

In future, I'm going to view these games as a warning sign and cut my losses early on.

Now that's the right attitude.