Post Your Rejection Rates

[So pimp its scary]

Originally posted by Nocturnal
How far do you go before you determine who will buy? If it's not too far, how can you be sure of whether they'll buy or not?

First, I often won't approach a woman before she gives a sign of interest, ie locking eye contact... at that point I can assume that she at least wants a 'test drive' (conversation).

Next, if the conversation is going really well, good eye contact, and I FEEL that I should take it up a notch, I will kiss her, or ask for the number whichever is appropriate.

This continues, I might back away to see if she pursues. I might take another step forward... this all goes untill I see something that signals me that I should stop continuing.

 

[Nocturnal]

so in other words cut it off when you see signs that you're going to get rejected.

why? if you put that much effort into it, why not just go in for the kill and take the win/lose chance instead of breaking it off because you "think" she's not interested?

 

[Evo]

Nocturnal got a point there and someone wrote a thread saying those really HB sometimes act like they arent interested but deep down they r.

 

[Bonhomme]

I don't really recall

I think it's 2 or 3 out of 5, but that all depends upon definitions.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Nocturnal, I've gotten fairly good at reading people. Whenever a girl is interested, she'll be giving some buying signals, sometimes I miss them, sometimes I think they are there when they are not... Its not a perfect science, BUT alot of the times, you can see little hints that the person is interested...

I really don't often care though... I don't go to bars EXPECTING to pick up a girl, I go prepared for it, but I always have 0 intentions. So, if a girl isn't showing me in a clear enough way that she is interesed, then in my eyes she is NOT interested ENOUGh,and I leave it at that.

I'll still ask girls sometimes even if I'm quite certain to get shot down, just like I'll still ask girls that I'm quite certain are interested just to get shot down; for the most part if the signs are there then I go for it, if the signs are conflicting I go with my gut, and if the signs say no, then I don't bother.

Haven't you ever made out with a girl, then decided that she wasn't worth pursuing just because you know that all you could ever get out of her was sex (I by the way am not looking only for sex, I'm also looking for the potential relationship)... Or, everything is going good then the girls starts talking about her vast mental problems and you are simply turned RIGHT off??

If you have then you might understand where this is coming from... you won't find this in the bible, but I AM talking from my own experience. It's best to find girls that are really intersted, and have a couple girls that are challenge girls that aren't all that interested but could be worked on...

Before I repeat myself anymore...

 

[THA REALNESS]

Once or twice out of 5 .Of an approach that is . But we all know girl like to bullsh1t. Most of it is my looks i'm about a 7.5. I get approaches a lot also.Don't hate.


As for getting next ,while in a dating scenario or a LTR..that's a whole different story !

 

[THA REALNESS]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
First, I often won't approach a woman before she gives a sign of interest, ie locking eye contact... at that point I can assume that she at least wants a 'test drive' (conversation).

.

You would do even better if you take risk. So you don't do cold approaches?

 

[So pimp its scary]

No, I do cold approaches also...

At school, is almost ALL cold approaches, in the student lounge. Girls will be sitting there, and I just say 'mind if I join...' as I sit down and start a convo... it's hardly ever failed, because they will usually give you a few seconds to let you catch up to their convo, or just help you out a lil bit.

Bars on the other hand, I don't do as many cold approaches, I like to get some sort of cue from the woman... I save most of my cold approaches for when friends are like 'go flirt with that girl...' The other times I'll cold approach is if there is a woman that just happens to be sitting next to me waiting for the bartender, cause the girls go first, and I end up getting a drink with them... it lets me see quickly if they are 'buying' or not.

On the street / bus, I almost ONLY approach when given a sign, no matter how slight. The exception being if she is really hot.

Maybe I would do 'better' doing more cold aproaches, but getting shot down repeatedly isn't always my idea of fun... I seem to find enough situations to meet new women to suit my needs as it is tho.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Nocturnal, I've gotten fairly good at reading people. Whenever a girl is interested, she'll be giving some buying signals, sometimes I miss them, sometimes I think they are there when they are not... Its not a perfect science, BUT alot of the times, you can see little hints that the person is interested...

I really don't often care though... I don't go to bars EXPECTING to pick up a girl, I go prepared for it, but I always have 0 intentions. So, if a girl isn't showing me in a clear enough way that she is interesed, then in my eyes she is NOT interested ENOUGh,and I leave it at that.

I'll still ask girls sometimes even if I'm quite certain to get shot down, just like I'll still ask girls that I'm quite certain are interested just to get shot down; for the most part if the signs are there then I go for it, if the signs are conflicting I go with my gut, and if the signs say no, then I don't bother.

Haven't you ever made out with a girl, then decided that she wasn't worth pursuing just because you know that all you could ever get out of her was sex (I by the way am not looking only for sex, I'm also looking for the potential relationship)... Or, everything is going good then the girls starts talking about her vast mental problems and you are simply turned RIGHT off??

If you have then you might understand where this is coming from... you won't find this in the bible, but I AM talking from my own experience. It's best to find girls that are really intersted, and have a couple girls that are challenge girls that aren't all that interested but could be worked on...

Before I repeat myself anymore...

if there's a girl you are attracted to enough to pursue in the first place, and you think she's going to turn you down, why stop there when all you have to do is push really hard and force her to either say "yes" or "no". it's one thing to stop pursuing because you find out something about her that turns you away from her, it's another to stop because you think she won't go for it. if she gives you bad signs and you don't like her anymore, by all means stop. if she gives you bad signs and you do like her, you have nothing to lose by making her give you a yes or no.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Kid I think it's time to state what your trying to get at here now don't you think.

 

[Superman X]

Well I asked a girl to run some hurdles with me, she said she was sick, and to call her back later because she had her friend over. 0/1

I asked a girl on a date to the mall, she said yes. 1/2

I start talking to this sophomore in the halls after spirit week, but I turn in a different direction after like 30 seconds. Looking back, I should have walked with her and got the digits. 1/3

I ask this girl out to the movies, she says yes. 2/4

The movie is "the Texas Chainsaw Massacre", as its name suggests, an enormous pointless slaughter. I'm bored with the violence within half an hour, so I go for a kiss. As I put my hand on her cheek, she jumps and jerks away. After she tells me that she was too scared to do anything with me. 2/5

That makes a 3/5 rejection rate. But in my experience, real, flat out NO rejections are really rare. I've only had one really hard rejection in my life, and even that was pretty funny. But I've had tons of quasi-legitimate excuses, which is what I consider rejection. I think rejection is too harsh a word for it though, because it doesn't feel like I have failed with these girls and its all over or anything like that. I still feel successful, even though I am "rejected" 60% of the time.

 

[Don Ronny]

Never been rejected in my life.

Nope, not once!

I have had girls sabotage themselves out of incalculable levels of pleasure before, but none of them has ever rejected me.

 

[Ice Cold]

I've got actually rejected about 5, maybe 8 times back in the non-dj days

Basically asking for something obvious right away without attracting the girl.


Stupid

now I don't get rejection. I get NOGOs - it's all polite and civil, but she shows that she's not intrested. But the cool thing about it is that it doesn't even look like I've hit on her.

Success rates? About one in 5 would be really intrested and make out with me by the end of the night. Others are no gos

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Kid I think it's time to state what your trying to get at here now don't you think.

ok. i'm going to write a big post (my biggest yet) and I wanted data to support it. and it was fun keeping everyone on the edge.. (yeah right )

 

[Donjuanpablo]

All the time dude. It's a numbers game, I just make sure I'm having fun.

 

[Donjuanpablo]

Just flipping through some of the other replies, i guess theres no such thing as a clear cut rejection. Getting a number is pretty easy, its what happens from then on.

 

[willo]

I've had some bad nights where I've been rejected like 15 times in a row. But at the moment i'm on a 10 streak, regection only hurts if you let it.
Cheers cobber