Post-mortem Feedback is appreciated

[DEEZEDBRAH]

This is what I said before my game was not tight.

Contradicted by three rejections.

Would be hitting on her hotter younger friends if game was tighter. Also, not prowling through social circle in failing fashion.

 

[Anchor man]

It works because I've done it, on more then 1 occasion at work or even in weird places.

It's a spur of the moment thingy.

And I've gotten into trouble more times then I care to admit haha

Edit: I don't recommend this. And throughout my years I've come to recognise that "game" is actually you as a man with masculine qualities that has sustainability.

I never doubt. I was just too afraid to do it at work .

 

[Anchor man]

Contradicted by three rejections.

Would be hitting on her hotter younger friends if game was tighter. Also, not prowling through social circle in failing fashion.

dude, I said my game wasn't tight . Where is the contradiction ?
Literally you post without reading
Plus it is at work and I am not trying to get her back

 

[AJ84]

dude,


Again I am not trying to get her back.
Second , I lied . She is not in my social circle she is my coworker . I didn't say that because I didn't want to deal with another don't **** where you eat which is not the purpose of the thread

If you just wanted to sleep with a female co-worker who has a boyfriend then just post about that. Then the advice may have been more relevant because much of it is based on gaming a girl outside of the workplace which is different than gaming her in the workplace for obvious liability reasons. Not impossible of course but some adjustments for protecting your job.

People took time to respond based on what you told them, which wasn’t accurate, then you complained about the advice.

Not cool.

 

[Ranger]

I post not to complain , not to get her back I post to know and improve for next time.
again typical labelling on the online forum

If she gives you go signs. That’s your moment.
I had a coworker who told me she was falling in love with me.
We never once had intercourse. Two to three times a week when I was not in the field, she would text me “I need kissing practice”.
That was code for meet me in the back stairwell of the building.
We would kiss and then she would go to her knees and get me out. Svck me off a minimum of twice a week. Never had intercourse once yet she said she was falling in love with me.
Think about that.

 

[Anchor man]

If you just wanted to sleep with a female co-worker who has a boyfriend then just post about that. Then the advice may have been more relevant because much of it is based on gaming a girl outside of the workplace which is different than gaming her in the workplace for obvious liability reasons. Not impossible of course but some adjustments for protecting your job.

People took time to respond based on what you told them, which wasn’t accurate, then you complained about the advice.

Not cool.

because If I said workplace, the whole thread will be do **** where you eat. Plus It is not advice any more , I didn't ask for advice. My question was so clear in the original post. I have Neve said I wanted her back.

 

[Spaz]

I never doubt. I was just too afraid to do it at work .

In response 2 ur original question.

I would've have moved on even after she's showing interest as you're described.

I've thrown the ball at her court 3 X.

And she been hitting that ball at her side of the net on numerous occasions - lack of interest and high probability of trying to get some validation.

I'd only play when she does hit the ball back on my side of the court.

 

[Anchor man]

In response 2 ur original question.

I would've have moved on even after she's showing interest as you're described.

I've thrown the ball at her court 3 X.

And she been hitting that ball at her side of the net on numerous occasions - lack of interest and high probability of trying to get some validation.

I'd only play when she does hit the ball back on my side of the court.

dude , This is the answer That I was asking for.
I was just checking if I was too rigid or not when show signs back. Thanks buddy .

 

[Anchor man]

In response 2 ur original question.

I would've have moved on even after she's showing interest as you're described.

I've thrown the ball at her court 3 X.

And she been hitting that ball at her side of the net on numerous occasions - lack of interest and high probability of trying to get some validation.

I'd only play when she does hit the ball back on my side of the court.

Also what do you think? Do you think I did the right thing by not confirming the date with her since she said " I'll try to make it"
Next time, should I do the takeaway ?

 

[Ranger]

Also what do you think? Do you think I did the right thing by not confirming the date with her since she said " I'll try to make it"
Next time, should I do the takeaway ?

If she shows signs you drop that kissing practice line and see what she does or says.
I would put it in her court like Spaz said.

 

[Spaz]

Also what do you think? Do you think I did the right thing by not confirming the date with her since she said " I'll try to make it"
Next time, should I do the takeaway ?

For the 1st question; Yes. Similarly, I would hv done the same.

2nd question; Elaborate.

 

[Anchor man]

If she shows signs you drop that kissing practice line and see what she does or says.
I would put it in her court like Spaz said.

Hahah, I can't man. It is a big big cooperate . Maybe next girl, actually I don't want her anymore.

 

[davidcarr]

Also what do you think? Do you think I did the right thing by not confirming the date with her since she said " I'll try to make it"
Next time, should I do the takeaway ?

Here's the problem. You weren't attractive enough for her to cheat on her boyfriend. Nothing you could've said or done would've changed the outcome. Second guessing the situation is a waste of time.

Actually asking her out the third time was a waste of time. So was the second.

 

[Anchor man]

For the 1st question; Yes. Similarly, I would hv done the same.

2nd question; Elaborate.

2nd Question : I should have withdrawn the offer . Maybe I could have said something like " You know what my schedule fills up pretty quickly . I'd love to see you but I like to make definite plans . If you are not sure about your schedule, let then do it another time . "

 

[Anchor man]

Here's the problem. You weren't attractive enough for her to cheat on her boyfriend. Nothing you could've said or done would've changed the outcome. Second guessing the situation is a waste of time.

Actually asking her out the third time was a waste of time. So was the second.

k.

 

[davidcarr]

Which leads to the most important question for initial dates: how physically attractive are you? You are 7 or below, based upon your description of events.

You have to be honest at identifying and eliminating as many physical flaws as possible: acne, excess weight, bad haircut, lame wardrobe, too skinny, etc.

Tight game will only take you so far. It won't get you anywhere at all if you are below average in looks. At least not with cold approach or online dating.

 

[Anchor man]

Which leads to the most important question for initial dates: how physically attractive are you?

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[Spaz]

Here's the problem. You weren't attractive enough for her to cheat on her boyfriend. Nothing you could've said or done would've changed the outcome. Second guessing the situation is a waste of time.

Actually asking her out the third time was a waste of time. So was the second.

Generically speaking yes u r right. For the vast majority of men that's the proper route to take and it's a wise response.

Once your game has upped you'd think otherwise. But this play has repercussions, as you're merely manipulating a women's frame, for the long term it's not sustainable but for a short term fvck then it's doable.

The more you'd play this game the more you'll be pulled into a feminine vortex that's hard to extricate urself - ultimately reframing ur own self to suit women.

That's the danger.

 

[marmel75]

Haven't you read the post ! she chased after I have not confirmed the date Then she gave up. So I can't do it anymore. Have you even considered that maybe she wanted to cheat but felt guilty . Have you ever considered the possibility of me blowing it off ? Have you ever considered she wanted to branch swing and I am not good enough ?

The issue is all the game forum has the same advice without even reading and even considering any other factor
1- you are her orbit
2-dont double text
3- next her
4- don't waste your time . This advice makes me feel this guy time is so important that He doesn't have 2 sec to text.

Another troll apparently who goes to great lengths to try and disguise his trolling. The ignore button sets you free.

 

[Ranger]

It’s difficult for me to see a roundabout solution. I’m rather direct.
When I can feel that vibe from her, it’s ion.
Vibe=action.
Work is a picarious situation. You will have to let her chase and commit to engagement.
Outside of work, the dynamics are completely different. This is a matter of experience with women. Maybe nothing or maybe all of this thread could apply outside of work.
Take your lumps. This is not life and death.
There is no set pattern or actions that we can tell you that will work every time or even at all.

Develope your mindset and work from there. Sex can be very opportunistic.