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[Anchor man]

Honestly guys, you missed the whole point of my post. My question was because I didn't confirm the date with her , she started chasing me. Should have I given her another chance ?

here the part I was asking

I took this as no and never confirmed the date. Guess what! On the morning of "the supposed date" day, she put herself in my orbit and started conversation with me with her eyes wondering about the date, but she never explicitly mentioned it. For weeks, she would put herself in my orbit and gave me puppy eyes multiple times . She even followed me one time and put herself in position where I can talk to her.I never brought up the date again for two reasons :
1- I was waiting on her to mention it.
2- I thought she might have missed my attention and she couldn't believe that I have not confirmed the date with her and she was trying to get my attention back. (maybe I was insecure)
At one point, she gave up which made sense .

Do you think I went too extreme ? Should I have just brought it up again?

 

[Anchor man]

I'm not trying to be harsh, just giving honest feedback. If she were actually interested, she would've gone out with you. She is not interested. Just ignore her and reinvest your efforts in other women. For now, she is a lost cause.

Besides, once you find other women, there's a good chance you'll lose interest in her and she'll become irrelevant. Get your mind off her for now and look elsewhere.

Yes, I am the one who never confirmed the date plus she chased after I didn't confirm . She even went out of her way to talk to me on the date day ,putting herself in the position where I can confirm the date . If She didn't want to go out, she should have avoided me on the day of the date .

 

[marmel75]

Problem: You asked one woman out. It didn't work out.

Solution: Find other women.

Pretty much this

 

[Anchor man]

Pretty much this

Have I said I am dreaming about her!!
Some ppl just reply without even reading the thread

 

[davidcarr]

Yes, I am the one who never confirmed the date plus she chased after I didn't confirm . She even went out of her way to talk to me on the date day ,putting herself in the position where I can confirm the date . If She didn't want to go out, she should have avoided me on the day of the date .

You're repeating the same lies and rationalizations in your head over and over again.

If she were interested, she would've gone on the date with you. She didn't.

If she were highly interested, she might have even asked you out. She didn't.

If she extremely interested, she would've asked you out multiple times.

Creating a fantasy in your head doesn't help. There are 165 million women in the US alone. Tens of thousands in a small town. Hundreds of thousands in a small to medium sized city.

You are too invested in a woman who is teasing you.

 

[marmel75]

Yes, I am the one who never confirmed the date plus she chased after I didn't confirm . She even went out of her way to talk to me on the date day ,putting herself in the position where I can confirm the date . If She didn't want to go out, she should have avoided me on the day of the date .

So lets understand this:
1) You asked her out 3 times
2) She gave you no firm answer
3) She basically became available but made no mention of the date leading up to it

This is classic "toying" behavior by her. She wants to add you to her orbiters while getting validation from you and giving you little breadcrumbs hoping you keep chasing just like you have been.

Low/no interest. Keep it moving.

 

[AJ84]

That's just ridiculous. The term orbiter loses all meaning. It's about as useful as saying he is a man and she is a woman.

99% of the time, the answer from forum members is 'you're an orbiter' It's stupid.

I use that term here because when a woman is really interested and knows he is interested, she will make it happen. What’s she’s saying and what she is doing are different here. She’s not meeting up with him despite saying she will “try”. That’s not the behaviour of a woman who is really interested.
Too many guys waste time trying to ‘game’ women who are not that into them and it’s time better spent on women who are.
I don’t like throwing the term ‘orbiter’ around but when a woman isn’t making a date happen but is still reaching out, what’s the intention there? Especially if she has a boyfriend?

 

[Anchor man]

You're repeating the same lies and rationalizations in your head over and over again.

If she were interested, she would've gone on the date with you. She didn't.

If she were highly interested, she might have even asked you out. She didn't.

If she extremely interested, she would've asked you out multiple times.

Creating a fantasy in your head doesn't help. There are 165 million women in the US alone. Tens of thousands in a small town. Hundreds of thousands in a small to medium sized city.

You are too invested in a woman who is teasing you.

Thanks, you are not adding anything.
She hit on me
she asked me tons of personal questions
she touched me on arms, waist and back,...etc.
I missed some chances to ask her out .
she was not extremely interested as she has a boyfriend .

You are the one who is repeating pick up stuff with zero experience . How many women ask guys out on date ?
Man, I said I have never confirmed how she would go out with while I have never confirmed .

 

[Anchor man]

I use that term here because when a woman is really interested and knows he is interested, she will make it happen. What’s she’s saying and what she is doing are different here. She’s not meeting up with him despite saying she will “try”. That’s not the behaviour of a woman who is really interested.
Too many guys waste time trying to ‘game’ women who are not that into them and it’s time better spent on women who are.
I don’t like throwing the term ‘orbiter’ around but when a woman isn’t making a date happen but is still reaching out, what’s the intention there? Especially if she has a boyfriend?

If you spent any time in the forum , you should know .Women cheat and branch swing . Simple
but again , you never picked up women , how would you understand

 

[Billtx49]

Have I said I am dreaming about her!!

Get your head straightened out.......

 

[davidcarr]

I use that term here because when a woman is really interested and knows he is interested, she will make it happen. What’s she’s saying and what she is doing are different here. She’s not meeting up with him despite saying she will “try”. That’s not the behaviour of a woman who is really interested.
Too many guys waste time trying to ‘game’ women who are not that into them and it’s time better spent on women who are.
I don’t like throwing the term ‘orbiter’ around but when a woman isn’t making a date happen but is still reaching out, what’s the intention there? Especially if she has a boyfriend?

Yeah, it's why 'playing the numbers game' doesn't work and guys get burned out with pickup. You can try all you want but if she's not interested, it's all a waste of time.

And you're right, if she's actually interested, she will make it happen. I was asked out, date, time, location, tickets bought. Then she asked me out again. I don't have to do anything. Just meet her at the location.

Actually, several women asked me out to the same event.

 

[davidcarr]

If you spent any time in the forum , you should know .Women cheat and branch swing . Simple
but again , you never picked up women , how would you understand

She's not branch swinging with you. If she was, you would've already gone out on a date with her. She's not cheating with you: you have not had sex with her.

We are not talking about women or men generally speaking, we are talking about your case in particular.

 

[Anchor man]

Yeah, it's why 'playing the numbers game' doesn't work and guys get burned out with pickup. You can try all you want but if she's not interested, it's all a waste of time.

And you're right, if she's actually interested, she will make it happen. I was asked out, date, time, location, tickets bought. Then she asked me out again. I don't have to do anything. Just meet her at the location.

Actually, several women asked me out to the same event.

Cool, good luck, stay out oft heard then .Leave for the beginner

 

[davidcarr]

Thanks, you are not adding anything.
She hit on me
she asked me tons of personal questions
she touched me on arms, waist and back,...etc.
I missed some chances to ask her out .
she was not extremely interested as she has a boyfriend .

You are the one who is repeating pick up stuff with zero experience . How many women ask guys out on date ?
Man, I said I have never confirmed how she would go out with while I have never confirmed .

OK, this guy is officially a lost cause. I'm just going to laugh at you from now on. Actually, already started.

 

[Anchor man]

She's not branch swinging with you. If she was, you would've already gone out on a date with her. She's not cheating with you: you have not had sex with her.

We are not talking about women or men generally speaking, we are talking about your case in particular.

Maybe I ****ed up and my game was not tight enough !!

 

[marmel75]

Thanks, you are not adding anything.
She hit on me
she asked me tons of personal questions
she touched me on arms, waist and back,...etc.
I missed some chances to ask her out .
she was not extremely interested as she has a boyfriend .

You are the one who is repeating pick up stuff with zero experience . How many women ask guys out on date ?
Man, I said I have never confirmed how she would go out with while I have never confirmed .

Who cares? All that matters are her end actions and her end action is not meeting up with you despite you asking her out 3 times.

 

[davidcarr]

Maybe I ****ed up and my game was not tight enough !!

You didn't **** up. She's not interested in you.

 

[Anchor man]

Who cares? All that matters are her end actions and her end action is not meeting up with you despite you asking her out 3 times.

agreed with this part , but you have to remember something maybe my game wasn't tight

 

[Anchor man]

You didn't **** up. She's not interested in you.

Thanks, please continue laughing away from this thread

 

[davidcarr]

Who cares? All that matters are her end actions and her end action is not meeting up with you despite you asking her out 3 times.

It reminds me of a friend of a friend. He would visit the same restaurant over and over again almost every single night ordering take out and keep asking her out. She never said yes. This went on for many months.

A waitress told me one of her customers has been going to her bar every night ordering drinks from her 3 years in a row, occasionally asking her out. She never went out with him.

I'm just trying to save him time.