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What are your best tips for getting over a breakup that wasn't a toxic one (one that you left the relationship on good terms)?

And any ideas how to stop thinking about them and what they are doing with other men every day?

I've been trying every method I know so posting this is a last resort, any tips would be appreciated.
 

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-Start seeing new girls
-Go no contact (if you haven't already)
-Get out with your buds
-Focus on your hobbies
-Hit the Gym
-Spend time with family
-Get away from things that remind you of her
-Get rid/give back her stuff
-Stop looking at her socials (delete if you have to)
-Be at peace that it is over and she is free to be with others and so are you
-Embrace new found freedom

That about does it. These things take time and the length depends on a lot of factors. Welcome to adulthood! :whistle:
 

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Any reason for never seeing the ex again?
For what purpose? In most situations the man will act weak and beg for her back or make any countless number of mistakes.

If you got to the point of breaking up, you had the chance to talk things out and decide not to break up, but you didn't.

That happened for a reason.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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What are your best tips for getting over a breakup that wasn't a toxic one (one that you left the relationship on good terms)?

And any ideas how to stop thinking about them and what they are doing with other men every day?

I've been trying every method I know so posting this is a last resort, any tips would be appreciated.
Pull a younger/hotter/better girl.
 

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-Start seeing new girls
-Go no contact (if you haven't already)
-Get out with your buds
-Focus on your hobbies
-Hit the Gym
-Spend time with family
-Get away from things that remind you of her
-Get rid/give back her stuff
-Stop looking at her socials (delete if you have to)
-Be at peace that it is over and she is free to be with others and so are you
-Embrace new found freedom

That about does it. These things take time and the length depends on a lot of factors. Welcome to adulthood! :whistle:
Cheers man. I'm doing all these things but like you said it takes time so just got to be patient and stick with it.
 

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This is a good list. The only thing I'll add is that its a good idea to just get out and talk to women even if you're not motivated and ready to date yet, just so you can demonstrate to yourself that there are plenty of other women out there. I don't always recommend just rushing out to date new people and suffering all the rejection that comes with that.
That's more or less what I meant, I should've been more clear. You don't have to date or sleep with them, but re-familiarizing yourself with the opposite sex is good and can reintroduced yourself to your worth and potential options.

@Mase Many men take a deep hit to their ego and self esteem after a breakup.

The younger you are and the more raw you are, the more likely it will hurt like heck. It does genuinely get better with time and while there are ways to expedite things a bit, you still need to process what's upstairs. Also, if you are relationship oriented I would actually say not to date with the intention of a relationship for the time being, if you are still in a healing process you have some baggage to work through.

Focus on yourself and try to surround yourself amongst positive role models. Talking with your guy friends can be good, but if they are around the same age or inexperienced it may be hard to receive some concrete constructive advice from them. Their best utilization as you get over her is someone close in age to relate and empathize with. If you can seek out older folks in your life (preferably men) who can bestow some wisdom on you who know you personally that would be a good thing to do. Coming to the board is good, but you could also receive advice that may be damaging and distort your view on women and relationships at a very impressionable age.

You say the relationship ended on good terms? Was it a mutual breakup?

If it ended cordially then no need to be cold to this girl if you cross paths with her in future. The most attractive and confident thing you can do is be at peace that it is over and let go. It is oftentimes best to completely remove someone out of your life after a breakup so you can truly move on. You don't want to be hung up on an ex when another girl plops right in front of you. Right now you are in the early phases of processing this so keep your focus on yourself and no one else.
 

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I'd say don't linger in it.. Life keeps moving and you don't want to get stagnant.. Go out, have fun. and potentially find a new girl to keep you busy.. Doesn't have to be a winner, just a girl you like having fun with.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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What are your best tips for getting over a breakup that wasn't a toxic one (one that you left the relationship on good terms)?

And any ideas how to stop thinking about them and what they are doing with other men every day?

I've been trying every method I know so posting this is a last resort, any tips would be appreciated.
Time is a great healer. Getting back involved in the things that lit you up before the relationship, taking time to breathe or go to serene places, and being around friends more will help.
 
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