I'm 34. lift hard. still party. good career. I am new to the Red-Pill, but from trial and error have learned a lot of the basics in my life. Like oneitis, spinning plates, **** tests etc. So about last April I started going into a local bar (I live in the suburbs) with the bros for our bro date nights for wings and beer. sexy bartender I dig. recently breaks up with her long term boyfriend. I can tell we vibe. I get her out after 4 nights of hanging out a little longer after the bros left. 5th time I finally get her out where were hanging out outside of her work. we party all night, make out in front of her coworkers. I smash. post smash. she tells me another ex is coming in from florida and has been trying to win her back and she cant talk the next week. I'm cool with it. no harm no foul, but I did dig the chick. I start spinning other plates again and keep partying through the summer, busting guts left and right. actually had another plate reject me I liked even more. September comes she says shes moving back wasn't working with ex. Her first night back, I meet up with her and smash again. I play it pretty cool for first couple months and we kind of trickled into exclusivity. now I understand girls aren't actually ever exclusive, especially bartenders, despite what you think. but January comes and this chick breaks her ankle. shes already broke and starts missing payments cause she cant work. feb comes and I'm still not picking up any vibes but I'm getting anxiety myself from her lifestyle bitching to my friends about her drinking ahd just poor overall lifeskills, but the sex is still great. her bday week comes around. that Saturday I was cornered at a local craphole bar and asked if I was screwing other girls by one of her friends. everything still seemed cool through the week. we smash allot on Wednesday. she goes out for her bday after work thrusday and gets weird when we go out partying for her bday. gets wasted and her friends keep pulling her apart. mind you I invited another chick from work out to her bday whom I thought would be a good influence wit her. her and her friends are pissed about that. her friends come and get me and start screaming "you aren't going to get your gf you care about." so I take her home. we smash a bunch. Saturday night she goes distant. sunday she canacles plans. I call her out. she sends long text. I moved home to get my **** together, and I feel uncomfortable knowing that you pay for all my dinners etc etc. its not you its me speech. I coudlnt tell if she was dumping me or not. but I would have handled this part better and just said ok I'm out. so I play it cool and say hey lets talk about it over dinner on Tuesday. as soon as she says lets meet and doesn't come to my house I know shes canning me. when I show up. she gives me her take on things. I still probably said too much, but told her don't be sorry its her life. respect your decision. but I'm gonna take off and wish you the best. I peaced out from dinner. she does typical female stuff post breakup. ends up removing me from social media and snap chat. starts telling a friends wife who bartends at another bar that I banned her husband from going to her work. I guess now I'm dealing with the. I hate how these girls, in the restaurant scene got something over me now. like omg hes so butthurt he wont let his friends go back to her bar. I have been no contact since I told her catch you later at dinner.
Post Break-Up Evaluation for a Newb
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Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I think you did ok. Just don't fall into the trap of being "the ex that is trying to win her back" when she contacts you again, so she can play that card with whatever new guy she has.
Yea I really didn't think anything of inviting that chick out. since she is chubby and I been friends with her for longer than I dated this girl. plus she had tons of guy friends so I thought nothing of it. I didn't apologize for inviting that chick. so I am cool with it. plenty of nights I had to talk to her bar regular dudes.
Paragraphs next time bro. Make the situation a wholeeeee lot easier
Ghost. Give her nothing, the energy you were using on her, switch and place on you, you are the project for the next month or two, stay busy and become a better man than you were before this h0e - when she hits you up (which she will)
Then you choose the next card.
Roll safe
In my experience bartenders require way more game than I’m willing to put effort in to. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, you could say. I mean I have the skills needed to be successful with them but damn it’s too much effort. I’m a path of least resistance type of guy, why work double hard for a type of girl when I can work much less and most times get someone better.