The interest level was there because she kept initiating contact involving a night out together. All the positive signs were there......... and at the end..... got a slap to my face. This thing is a blur at the moment cuz I dont know what happened.
If she was really interested she wouldn't have flaked.
It only seems suddenly at the end to you, which is why it's confusing, because you want to hold onto the belief that she was interested all along... which of course makes it confusing if that's what you want to think.
And some guys just can't take the hit to their ego. So they stay thinking that way, confused, trying to make sense out of something that sense can't be made out of (because their reasoning is off). It's called trying to rationalize things.
And since you say it's like a "slap to your face", that just reinforces for me that your ego may be in the way of clearing this up for you.
But I'm like a detective. I look for the motives. I look to see how her actions would make perfect sense - if understood differently. It's like figuring out a puzzle, okay?
I think you're being fooled by seeing her initiating contact as a measure of her interest in you. But again, if she were interested, she wouldn't have flaked. So, maybe her initiating contact wasn't indicative of her interest after all.
You ever hear that women can *act* as if they're interested and display *all* the signs of being interested but actually *not* be interested? That's what may have happened here.
If she was interested all along, but then lost interest toward the end, that would suggest that you did something, or said something, unknowingly, that blew it.
If not that, then what other reasons would she have for initiating contact, if she wasn't looking to keep the date all along?
I already suggested that perhaps she was trying to find out if something came up on your end that precluded you from keeping the date or if you changed your mind, so that she wouldn't have to the dirty work.
I already suggested that maybe she liked getting the attention and so kept it going by putting out the bait by contacting you. She contacted you when she didn't hear from you after a few days.
Hey, it's gotta be something like that, man. Barring that she went into ER, but in which case, she'd call you asap afterwards, apologizing and offering a date to you, and if she keeps that, that's about the only you'd know she was possibly sincere.
