Possible f-buddy with a 39 year old, would you do it?

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So I was just offered f-buddy status with a decently good looking 39 year old (im 26 btw).

I'm a bit scared to do this for a few reasons. First of all I think if I enjoy the f-buddy situation too much I might be a lot less motivated to find a real girl (or a girl closer to my age), as this woman might be very experienced and really know how to please a man.

And that's the next thing that scares me, her experience. I'm a bit scared she may be "underwhelmed" to say the least of my performance and it would be a huge hit to my ego. I think I rather not do it at all than to do it once, disappoint her, and be told never to come back.

What don you guys think? Any advice on this situation?
 

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Do it for every goddamned reason!

The best reason's being:

1. She's probably adept at mattress football.

2. She's hopefully matured past the "ticking clock" stage.

3. She wants ding-a-ling and then for you to exit stage right.

You shouldn't have even thought about this.
 

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By all means do it. Why not? She will help you gain experience. I would do it now and I am only 18. Age should not matter as long as she is good enough to "do". If she is not full of wrinkles or ugly go ahead. I was going to do the same with a teacher from my old high school (She is 39) but there were issues afoot and I did not take full advantage of the situation. Do not make my mistake. If she offers, accept. If you dont you'll regret it later and besides, what have you got to lose?
 

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KarmaSutra said:
1. She's probably adept at mattress football.
What is this?

Also, none of my other concerns are valid? Especially #2?
 

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Shawn241 said:
What is this?

Also, none of my other concerns are valid? Especially #2?
To answer your first question, he means SEX. (How did you not get that minute metaphor?)

For your second question, No they are not vaild. They are just vague "what if's" that your mind is concocking to keep your body from getting pleasure. Why your mind is doing this I do not know, but I think you have obvious insecurities about yourself and your "performance quality" which you think will turn this situation into a nightmare for you. I will assume these insecurities stem from events in your past. Anyway, trust me do it unless you want a big serving of "Regret Pie" later on. Oh and go after other women too and dont become emotionally attached to this woman, because she is only good for some sex, not a relationship.
 

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Shawn241 said:
What is this?

Also, none of my other concerns are valid? Especially #2?

~~~~~~~~~

Hi Shawn,
You have a good question. Here is my take, and take it from the
voice of experience with the mature one.
One, is she a lunatic that will treat you like booty call and drop you on
your heart the first chance she gets with your heart in knots.
2. and yes, number two is a factor, you don't want some woman who
has a rush to get hitched or pregnant that is not on your time table.
3. is she decent looking, your type physically, in good condition,
cancer patient (for some reason women struggling with cancer had
approached me as the initiators (5 of them) ) this is not a bad thing, but
you want do know your woman's experation date (as cold as that
sounds, losing someone to death is never easy ; be prepared.
4, OH ricken fricken, doggy du, this should have been first.
What is your safe sex strategy? condoms, or testing? never
overlook that there is something in the world of love that
lasts forever, transmitted diseases.

handle the positives and the physcial and emotional negatives,
decided if you are compatible emotionally. and you might want to
see if there are other interests you share. seriously, having a
relationship that is beyond the bedroom can be a real powerful
flame for the bed.

Best of luck,

I envy you your choice.

Littlebear
~~~~~~~~~
 

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Ok my friend, I cant help but be jealous!

HIT THAT MILF HARD, BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DOES!!!!


Just keep in mind its no strings and have fun! DONT get attached emotionally and its all good!
 

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If she's decently attractive and experienced, I'd definitely go for it. You can learn a lot from her. If you are underwhelming on your first performance, let her know that you're a young buck and you'd like to learn. Most older women are very understanding and more than glad to help. I saw an older lady for a while and I learned a great deal.

This is a great opportunity. This is a woman you don't really plan on pursuing a serious relationship with, she's decently attractive and she's probably got lots of useful pointers to pass on to you.

Would you rather gain experience and build your skills right now, or would you prefer to learn on the fly with some younger girl that you really like?
 

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Shawn241 said:
So I was just offered f-buddy status with a decently good looking 39 year old (im 26 btw).

I'm a bit scared to do this for a few reasons. First of all I think if I enjoy the f-buddy situation too much I might be a lot less motivated to find a real girl (or a girl closer to my age), as this woman might be very experienced and really know how to please a man.

And that's the next thing that scares me, her experience. I'm a bit scared she may be "underwhelmed" to say the least of my performance and it would be a huge hit to my ego. I think I rather not do it at all than to do it once, disappoint her, and be told never to come back.

What don you guys think? Any advice on this situation?
I never understand questions like this. You don't have to marry the girl, just get some experience.

If the opportunity presents itself, go hard at it. You can always say no at anytime. But you can't say no now and then come back 2 months later with a changed mind. She'll be banging a 31 year doctor at that time.
 

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Hmm, if she's not pass the 40 mark, I guess it's cool.

There's no point in feeling intimidated if you under perform. You'll quickly excel once she points you to the right direction.

Sex is not a difficult sport :)
 

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First of, you got to tell people the whole story: how do you know this 39 year old and what transpired beforehand that caused her to want to offer you this deal? also what is her status (single, married, divorced or with kids?)

This information is vital.
 

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are you kidding me???? do it YES!!! first of all, i LOVE MILF, and i always had fantasy about older ladies. hell yea! why do you hesitate?
 
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