porn while in a relationship

[anx1ety]

Some say it's wrong, some say it's not. What is your opinion?

 

[anx1ety]

my situation with it:

I like most men masturbate. And I do so most of the time with the aid of porn. And I've been with my current girl for about 3 months and have never thought to mention it cuz I never really thought of it until now..it just seemed like something normal.

I don't think she has a problem with masturbation at all, although she's said she doesn't do it, she thinks it's a little weird. But my brothers girlfriend of 7 years is very against him doing it to porn and I'm kinda worried me coming out 3 month into the relationship and going oh yeah..do you have a problem with me masturbating to porn might be a problem. Like she'll feel as if I've been disloyal or something, which is something I'm very against.

 

[Energizer]

A woman who thinks masturbation is weird clearly won't like her boyfriend jerking off to porn.

A lot of women have a big problem with pornography, because they see it as demeaning to the women in general and a lot of women will also feel worthless, they'll think "my boyfriend is masturbating to porn, instead of having sex with me, there must be something wrong with me".

I can masturbate without visual aid, therefore when ever I was in a relationship, I wouldn't use porn, but I'd use my mind and picture myself fecking all of my girlfriend's mates, except the butters one's that was far better and no porn problem.

Of course you can still watch porn, just don't tell your girlfriend or risk it and tell your girlfriend and she what she thinks, there are women who love porn and will watch it with you. Just depends on the girl I'm guessing.

 

[anx1ety]

A woman who thinks masturbation is weird clearly won't like her boyfriend jerking off to porn.

A lot of women have a big problem with pornography, because they see it as demeaning to the women in general and a lot of women will also feel worthless, they'll think "my boyfriend is masturbating to porn, instead of having sex with me, there must be something wrong with me".

I can masturbate without visual aid, therefore when ever I was in a relationship, I wouldn't use porn, but I'd use my mind and picture myself fecking all of my girlfriend's mates, except the butters one's that was far better and no porn problem.

Of course you can still watch porn, just don't tell your girlfriend or risk it and tell your girlfriend and she what she thinks, there are women who love porn and will watch it with you. Just depends on the girl I'm guessing.

Yea, I understand all that. And my brother apparently just does it without his girlfriend knowing. And I've been thinking I would just ask her how she feels about it, and if there's a problem with it..I'll just use my mind instead. Hopefully she wont be too upset about having done it already.

 

[Energizer]

Yea, I understand all that. And my brother apparently just does it without his girlfriend knowing. And I've been thinking I would just ask her how she feels about it, and if there's a problem with it..I'll just use my mind instead.

Your brother has sense, there is nothing wrong with pornography mate, if your girlfriend is on holiday for a week, it is not unreasonable for you to masturbate to porn. If she has a problem with it, just watch it when she isn't around and remember to delete your computer history (incase she snoops).

 

[Bible_Belt]

Some say it's wrong, some say it's not. What is your opinion?


having a tripod for the camera is way better than having to hold it yourself

 

[Warrior74]

fvck what she thinks...she can either get naked or shut the hell up. A man has to get off, and they don't always wanna fvck. They don't get to have it all dammit and neither do we, which is why God made porn. So we can jerk it when she's being a bytch.

 

[Energizer]

fvck what she thinks...she can either get naked or shut the hell up. A man has to get off, and they don't always wanna fvck. They don't get to have it all dammit and neither do we, which is why God made porn. So we can jerk it when she's being a bytch.

Are you Dubya? Are you Dubya? Are you Dubya in disguise? :crackup:

 

[AAAgent]

i watch it with them

 

[cola]

The only women who have a problem with dudes watching porn are the insecure ones who don't want him fantasizing about women who could possibly look better than them.
Further more, your are a man. You can do whatever the fvck you want and if she doesn't like it NEXT. Its AFC to consider changing/hiding any habit or activity you engadge in for the benefit of a female. The only compromise that would suffice is if she agreed to stop whatever shes doing whenever im horny and come service me.
Stop worrying about what these b!tches think man.. This is your life and you do what you want.

 

[Energizer]

Further more, your are a man. You can do whatever the fvck you want and if she doesn't like it NEXT. Its AFC to consider changing/hiding any habit or activity you engadge in for the benefit of a female.

No, what would be AFC is to hit next everytime you have a disagreement with your girlfriend and why would you want to cause problems for yourself by letting your girlfriend know that you are watching pornography when she is against it?

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Depends on the length of the relationship. If it's a lengthy exclusive relationship, I say go for it. You get your fill of other women without actually cheating. Nothing wrong with it.

But if the relationship is still fairly new and you're still seeing porn as something worth occupying your time, you might want to re-examine your relationship.

 

[anx1ety]

I talked to her about it. She said she doesn't care, and doesn't see it as being disloyal. Success.

 

[Energizer]

I talked to her about it. She said she doesn't care, and doesn't see it as being disloyal. Success.

Why not watch it with her or try out the stuff you see on her?

 

[cola]

No, what would be AFC is to hit next everytime you have a disagreement with your girlfriend and why would you want to cause problems for yourself by letting your girlfriend know that you are watching pornography when she is against it?

What?! Are you fvcking kidding? Please tell me your kidding. This can't really be your mindset... NO!

Why do I give a fvck what my girlfriend is against? If shes against it than she doesn't have to watch it, don't mean im going to stop. First of all buddy, girlfriends are for lames. I'm to busy to have some hoe nagging me about my where-a-bouts and generally inconviencing me with her gay woman-speak.

Second of all, i'm not causing a problem for myself. This is MY frame. This is MY mind. I pull women into MY reality, not there reality MY reality. This is the whole concept that your missing.

What could have been said in fewer words is basically:

I work every day. I pay my bills. If I want to watch porn, then damnit i'll watch porn. If the hoe has a problem with it she can step!

 

[scrouster]

I talked to her about it. She said she doesn't care, and doesn't see it as being disloyal. Success.

Good you asked her permsission first.

 

[DonJuan11]

my situation with it:

I like most men masturbate. And I do so most of the time with the aid of porn. And I've been with my current girl for about 3 months and have never thought to mention it cuz I never really thought of it until now..it just seemed like something normal.

Why on earth would be tell your girlfriend about your masturbating and porn habits?

"Hi Jennifer, I just thought you should know that even though we have lots of sex and I've seen you naked, I often have to resort to porn to get off because your body just doesn't do it for me sometimes. Plus, with porn their is no judgment against me by the women on the screen so I feel confident and masculine"

I don't think she has a problem with masturbation at all, although she's said she doesn't do it, she thinks it's a little weird. But my brothers girlfriend of 7 years is very against him doing it to porn and I'm kinda worried me coming out 3 month into the relationship and going oh yeah..do you have a problem with me masturbating to porn might be a problem. Like she'll feel as if I've been disloyal or something, which is something I'm very against.

Again, why would you admit this to her? How does admitting you like getting of by watching men pulling, slapping, spitting, choking and inserting all types of objects inside women, turn her on? How does help your relationship? I hope you didn't admit to her just to feel better about yourself. You should be teaching how to salsa dance instead of bringing up your masturbation habits to her.

I always wonder why guys say stuff to girls that doesn't help the relationship, and then they get upset because the girl doesn't like it. You should be doing stuff to improve yourself and the relationship, like building a skyscraper like Donald Trump or becoming a Doctor, so you don't have time to bring up such irrelevant things to her.

 

[Proselytiser]

I talked to her about it. She said she doesn't care, and doesn't see it as being disloyal. Success.

Hardly successful. The small chance that she actually is okay with it aside, she's now going to do her utmost to monitor your porn-watching habits. When she catches you out the first few times, she'll object to the circumstances under which you watched the porn, rather than the fact you watched it - 'I'd rather you don't make it obvious, I don't mind but I would rather just not know about it', 'you watched it while I was in your house, asleep? That is so disrespectful!', 'you watched it while you were in my house and I was at work? That is-' you get the idea.

Then, either she cites these examples to paint you as someone who has a problem with porn that needs to be fixed by ceasing it completely. Or, she does a total 180 and tells you she finds it very disrespectful and that you need to stop doing it. She paints herself as the victim. 'You should know that it is disrespectful, regardless of what I say. I don't want to have to tell you to stop doing it for you to stop doing it, I want you to stop doing it out of respect for me'. And, even worse, 'You pressured me/I felt pressured into saying it was okay'. Now you've got three options: revert to AFC; be the alpha and she will be hell for an indefinite period/forever; or next her.

Solution: never bring it up in the first place, make sure she doesn't find out. Delete history even if the two of you haven't yet discussed the subject of porn.

As for her masturbation - most women masturbate, some don't. Almost none will let you know how much they masturbate or let you know conclusively whether or not they even do.

 

[horaholic]

Any girl that doesnt realize ALL men watch porn and jerk off ALL the time is a retard. It should NEVER be an issue, unless you have a serious addiction, and spend hundreds of dollars a month on it, which DOES happen. Every GF I've ever had has been totally OK with it, even buying it for me as gifts. Also, every girl I've ever met admits to masturbating freely. So yeah, I would absolutely next a girl that had serious objections to it. That girl would probably be a dud in the sack anyway.

She might as well tell you not to breathe!

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Some say it's wrong, some say it's not. What is your opinion?

We watch it together, what's wrong about it? Every once in awhile we both wanna see what's on the Playboy channel. The other day we both fvcked to "bonin' the nurse"