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[Dirtheart]

Cheers guys. When I think about it, it basically came down to resisting my AFC urges and having faith in what I've learned here.

If she is sincere and likes you then there is not much you have to do to increase her interest.

I'm sure she is sincere and it looks like her interest is getting quite deep. I'm still a little cautious to let my guard down, however, as whenever I got to this stage during my AFC days, I'd always blow it by coming on too strong and acting sickly sweet. I guess now I should just focus on maintaining her interest rather than increasing it.


I do have another question though if anyone can help:

Last night she was talking about fate bringing us together and how she feels she has known me all her life. Creating deep rapport with people is one of my better talents and almost every woman I date says the exact same thing.

I'd like to think it is genuine, but does anyone know if it's a standard line or game that women use? Perhaps I'm being too cautious now, but has anyone heard similar lines and found an ulterior motive behind them?

 

[becker]

Dirtheart, good stuff, this is the sort of thing that is so dang darn difficult when it comes to women.

You would think that if she said all this stuff, she means it and she is interested, when in reality, it may be another stupid trap which, if you fall into it, it becomes fatal to the relationship. It makes me not want to be in a relationship at all.

This last girl that I knew was totally all over me, and she laid out what seemed to be tests, and I sort of fell into a few of them. She was just so sweet and innocent that I didn't expect anything from her. Apparently I'm sure I didn't come off too well, because she sort of lost interest. It was like a reaction, it was so sudden that she just changed faces completely.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Good stuff Dirtheart, but remember that it is the person who cares least who has the most power in any relationship.

In my experience women are quick to 'fall in love' but also quick to fall out of love once the 'rollercoaster' of emotions starts slowing down - so I think you are doing exactly the right thing in being slightly detached.

As the relationship deepens this detachment will have to lessen, but should never disappear altogether - lest you end up with the dreaded 'we're just too similar' line.