Danger said:
She's not the problem, your infatuation with her is the issue at hand.
You should have never looked back the moment she dumped you. It is obvious she is only with you out of her lack of options. If you have so many options yourself, then why are you with this poor excuse for a woman?
I agree with you on most of this Danger. I also agree with the breakup a year ago. I had some serious AFC problems (lack of mother figure throughout my childhood). I let this girl absolutely own me, make the rules of our relationship, and talk to me however (negative) she wanted to..
Most of you guys are probably thinking about strangling me at this point :cuss: but hear me out. Into the 2nd month of the breakup, I finally got a plate! She was my type & a HB7. After a month of not putting out, she flaked on me the same night I ran into my Ex. I hadn't been laid since the breakup, so it was almost too easy. Long story short, the fun & newness of getting back together was great, but it's an ephemeral feeling which has started fading again.
Touching on my infatuation with the sex/her, tell me what your take is on this:
I feel that getting out of this relationship is best for me when I'm not around her. When I'm with her, doing something fun, there's nobody I'd rather be with. If we're not doing anything (day to day life type stuff), she's rather bothersome. Almost as if she expects me to cater to her needs. She'll do weird $hit too, like ask me to help her get up off the couch/out of bed. She'll leave me these naggy-a$$ voicemails where's she's all pissed off because I didn't answer my phone.
Painting the picture more vividly- she's unhappy with herself quite often. It's like I'm her main source of confidence. Then she goes and does something that a good girlfriend should do- buys groceries & cook a ton of food, ensuring that I'd have left overs for a week. Then f***s my tool raw after dinner, before leaving back to her hometown for the night.
This may sound awkward or cruel, but this has been like my little science experiment. I don't allow her to make rules anymore, I don't gift her anytime other than birthday, xmas, and anniversary. When she disrespects me by leaving angry voicemails, texts, or hangs up on me- I withdraw my attention. Essentially, I give her 2/3 of what she puts in. At first it kept her coming back for more, lately she's telling me that she feels unloved (because of stuff like not texting to ask how her days is going)..
While talking this weekend, she told me she was overwhelmed. She's a part time student & has a part-time job as LVN. Only pays for auto payment, insurance, and gas. I'm full-time professional & full-time college student, so her complaining about being overwhelmed just looks dumb to me. I literally can't sympathize. I Immediately mentioned a repeat of last year (she broke it off in Feb 2012) & asked what that was supposed to mean.. stop beating around the f***ing bush..
