Pooks rule 14

[AJ84]

Are there any forums like sosuave, but for women? I’d like to do some spying

For dating? The only one I can think of is Loveshack but that's not just for women, however it's more mainstream, non red pill dating and relationship advice.

 

[flowtheory]

For dating? The only one I can think of is Loveshack but that's not just for women, however it's more mainstream, non red pill dating and relationship advice.

I used to go there for advice back in the day. Worst advice. That place sucked. Didn’t use it for spy methods though. Maybe I’ll have another gander to see what they’re up to

 

[AJ84]

I used to go there for advice back in the day. Worst advice. That place sucked. Didn’t use it for spy methods though. Maybe I’ll have another gander to see what they’re up to

I visited it a couple of times about a year ago.

The only female oriented site I know of is Jezebel. But it's not a dating advice site. It's a feminist site covering a variety of topics which may include dating.

 

[AJ84]

I used to go there for advice back in the day. Worst advice. That place sucked. Didn’t use it for spy methods though. Maybe I’ll have another gander to see what they’re up to

I just googled and found one called dating advice. There's a men's and women's forum. Not sure if I am allowed to post a link but the website is called datingadvice

 

[Roober]

I believe you guys are looking at this at the surface level, when there is much more to it.

"Always have a backup chick" could mean you have a plate or two on speed dial, a side piece to your main course, or maybe just the illusion of another woman. LEt me start with listing a couple examples for the third possibility, because the first two are just plain obvious. Having a woman that you can dial that is down to fvck is not a high quality woman, no other way to put it. And the second is just a man that values infidelity. Those two are very cut and dry. But the "illusion" of another woman is the type of covert communication a woman understands very well. This happens often in relationships. Here are some examples..

-a man has a female co-worker, the co-worker is attractive, and responds well to the man's natural charm. The man invites his lady to a company gathering where she witnesses his affect on his female co-workers. She will think, "he could have a backup chick"

-a man travels somewhere with his lady, takes her on a great getaway to Hawaii. During the trip, the man naturally converses with others, and women react to it. Even though they are on a trip together, she will think, "he could have a backup chick!"

-a man has female friends that he sees rarely, but gets in a large gathering. His lady witnesses how this man charms the women, women he has only seen rarely on special occasions, and thinks "he could have a backup chick"

A high value man will naturally make your woman jealous without even trying, he will make women gravitate towards him without even trying. His actions will be completely innocent, but she will be able to observe how other women view him. She will realize he could be fvcking any one of them. Depending on her level of security will determine her actions. A secure woman will feel proud to have such a man, while an insecure woman will not. She will throw him a ridiculous amount of flack for doing absolutely nothing.

 

[Roober]

What we are beginning to witness here is a lack of self-realization. I listened to a great podcast today that relates nicely. The message was that people end up staring into the abyss or the darkness for so long, it becomes part of them. They then don't become their own solution, they become part of the problem. They play the victim, blame the women and society for how they have been mistreated. In this case, they play the victim is the exact opposite of what Pook and the others suggest, and I don't get how so many here miss that.

 

[Serenity]

Be a challenge... how does this work in the world of when you’re married or living with a woman, how do you ‘be a challenge’? Even if you’re getting interest from other women?

Does this mean always do your own thing alone often (hike, take a solo trip, go to movies, art gallery)? See friends often? Not always pursue her sexually?

I think being married automatically makes you a challenge. You know, women desire men who are already married.

I just googled and found one called dating advice. There's a men's and women's forum. Not sure if I am allowed to post a link but the website is called datingadvice

There is a rule against advertising, however I interpret that as advertising your own site. I don't think it applies if you link to another site (which you have no financial interests in) and it's relevant to the discussion.

So here it is: http://www.datingadvice.com/forum

 

[AJ84]

I think being married automatically makes you a challenge. You know, women desire men who are already married.


There is a rule against advertising, however I interpret that as advertising your own site. I don't think it applies if you link to another site (which you have no financial interests in) and it's relevant to the discussion.

So here it is: http://www.datingadvice.com/forum

Ok thanks good to know.

I looked through some of the posts, it's an interesting comparison.

 

[pipeman84]

Reading Pooks lessons again. I have a bit of confusion regarding lesson 14.
“Always have a back-up chick!”

I can understand this idea in the early stages of spinning plates and seeing what’s out there. Becoming abundant.
However, what happens when you find a woman who is worthy of your attention and time; someone YOU have chosen and who actually likes you, for you?
Is he saying even then “always have a back up chick” until you’re engaged or married?
Exclusivity is generally a conversation that happens around two-three months...
So, what then?

My take on this is that it's metaphorical, not literal. Put differently, you should come from an abundance mentality and not a shortage, ONEitis mentality. I think of it like this: you should convey through your frame that you're like a top university and that her being your girlfriend it's the equivalent of getting enrolled (which by itself is quite an accomplishment). Now, being enrolled at Harvard is not like a citizenship...stays with you for life, no matter what. Certain behavior is expected and certain standards must be kept, otherwise one gets exmatriculated and another student gets the place.

.I would recommend spinning plates for the "new" DJ though.... because they might not have a fully developed abundance mindset yet.

I wouldn't, that only gets him experience in dealing with mediocre to low quality women. The abundance mentality comes from the inside, not the outside (haven't you observed very beautiful girls or very rich guys who are insecure AF?). BTW, who coined this euphemism 'plate' ? Where I'm coming from the term is either 'easy girl' (one who dates/makes out with several dudes) or slvt (one who has sex with multiple dudes)

 

[Gamisch]

My take on this is that it's metaphorical, not literal. Put differently, you should come from an abundance mentality and not a shortage, ONEitis mentality. I think of it like this: you should convey through your frame that you're like a top university and that her being your girlfriend it's the equivalent of getting enrolled (which by itself is quite an accomplishment). Now, being enrolled at Harvard is not like a citizenship...stays with you for life, no matter what. Certain behavior is expected and certain standards must be kept, otherwise one gets exmatriculated and another student gets the place.


I wouldn't, that only gets him experience in dealing with mediocre to low quality women. The abundance mentality comes from the inside, not the outside (haven't you observed very beautiful girls or very rich guys who are insecure AF?). BTW, who coined this euphemism 'plate' ? Where I'm coming from the term is either 'easy girl' (one who dates/makes out with several dudes) or slvt (one who has sex with multiple dudes)

That first paragraph is juicy AF !

And just like a top university, you dgaf if a somewhat talented student wants to quite. The value of the university doesnt change, nor does the expectation for future students does.

Great metaphor!!!

By the way second part is also spot on.