Ponder this!

[Beginner1]

Let me just state that I am a very analytical person and I have had moderate success with women in my years.

I am always really trying to figure out the real reason that we all seem to have so much trouble in finding a good healthy relationship. For one I think that what the media portrays as a good relationship is a big part of the problem but, on another note, I have looked at every single thing in this world and have really come up with a single common denominator in every single thing. In order for things to work as good as they possibly can, there MUST be an even balance of Good and Bad (or Good and Evil when you look at it religiously) Have you ever wondered why when you are really trying to get your finances in order, something pops up to set you back. Either someones birthday comes up, you get a motor vehicle ticket, someone is sueing you, whatever, it ALWAYS happens. For instance Our American economy was extremely strong in 2000 and peaked in 2001 I think.What happened next ?, Sept. 11 hits the World Trade center. Things got to good and something had to put everything back in balance.

Another example: Look at your job or your company. I can guarantee that if you are still in business and have been for quite some time, you have an even amount of good workers as you do lazy ones. Or, you get a good group but can never seem to find a complete bunch or good ones. Isn't it odd that you just can't seem to get all good workers in a company?

In terms of relationships, if you do somehow find someone that really clicks, it will never stay good, something will happen and put everything back into balance. REALLY THINK ABOUT THIS ONE!

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[MacAvoy]

Originally posted by Beginner1
In terms of relationships, if you do somehow find someone that really clicks, it will never stay good, something will happen and put everything back into balance. REALLY THINK ABOUT THIS ONE!

What you say can be attributed to common sense. Realistically a relationship will have its ups and downs. Like the old saying goes, what goes up must come down. You can't expect to stay high forever, a relationship like everything else must come down.

What will determine a successful relationship that lasts till death will be the commitment level of both people in the relationship. You need to be committed to each other and willing to work through all the down times.

One way to do that is through attraction, which is the biggest thing this site advocates. Creating attracting will increase her IL and give her the commitment level to make it work.

 

[Beginner1]

Re: Re: Ponder this!

Originally posted by MacAvoy
What you say can be attributed to common sense. Realistically a relationship will have its ups and downs. Like the old saying goes, what goes up must come down. You can't expect to stay high forever, a relationship like everything else must come down.

Well if you believe this is true, then wouldn't it just be better to accept that things will always have its ups and downs and just stop trying to have any sort of meaningful relationship and just accpet the fact that you will have one girl in your life for short periods at a time and you will also have periods of no one.

It seems to me that both produce the same result. When you are with somone new. The high feeling you have is like no other but, when no one is in the picture, that is also the worst feeling.

We all know that when you are with someone for an extended period of time that high feeling dominishes.

Which is better? I have no f'ing idea

 

[MacAvoy]

Re: Re: Re: Ponder this!

Originally posted by Beginner1
Well if you believe this is true, then wouldn't it just be better to accept that things will always have its ups and downs and just stop trying to have any sort of meaningful relationship and just accpet the fact that you will have one girl in your life for short periods at a time and you will also have periods of no one.

Because I said that a relationship has to eventually come down, doesn't mean that it won't go back up again. I thought it was more obvious that it is like a rollercoaster, it has continuous ups and downs.

I'm not advocating not having meaningful relationships, just the opposite in fact. Making a relationship work over the long term requires that you realize that you may never have that euphoric high that is associated w/ a brand new relationship, that being said, doesn't mean that you can't have other more fufilling highs in the relationship.

In reference to having no one, being the worst feeling. I remember when I thought the same way. You need to learn to be comfortable just being with yourself. It isn't easy but I think it is important for you to have success in your later relationships.

Its all in your outlook and perspective on life. You control your life, not someone else. For more on this, read this.

 

[Beginner1]

Wow, Macavoy. Thanks for that link. That is a very well written observation.

I'm gonna ponder that for a while now.